Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 22
  1. #1
    tonystark88 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 279, Level: 5
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 64.0%
    Achievements:
    31 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    117
    Points
    279
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    19

    Default FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Hey I need some advice. I currently have this fuck buddy I'm developing feelings for. I come from the school of thought that relationships or monogamy isn't bad and seeing multiple people isn't either, it all depends on what you want or need. Met this girl in july. She is young early 20s and I just turned 30. She is foreign (not a golddigger) and wanted to meet someone before she went to the army.

    I thought no problem this sounded great, and I would go over to her house about once or twice a week until the end of august. Even though we used protection there was a little pregnancy scare and then her cousins came to stay with her for about a month and since I live an hour plus train ride away it didn't work with her schedule. She told me she wanted to see me when she left and then we met. When I am with her its great ( amazing sex, and get along laugh etc,etc)

    We do occasionally text throughout the week, and I've asked her to hang out before to different events like concerts but most of the time her schedule is busy cause she has like 3 jobs, etc. I still talk to and occasionally go out with other girls. This girl I know isn't sleeping with anyone else and occasionally she does make reference to see if I am. Especially last time she asks if i slept with anyone in a month. In the past she's made reference that she only wants to bang, but makes it a point to send me messages on my birthday, and religious holidays , as well as other occasional texts that really you don't need to do if you just want to bang. Also she has told me she'd like to me to move closer offered her place to me when she left, was got me a little trinket when she went on vacation and was upset when I left it, and very much liked when I gave her a small bear since she has stuffed bears everywhere in her place. Not huge deals but I don't do that shit with people I just wanna bang

    She was originally going to leave but this has turned into her staying for a little bit longer. I thought maybe she didn't want to get attached to someone but when two people are basically only sleeping with each other for 3-4 months sometimes feelings develop. Most guys would die for this but I kind of feel like I'm this older guy who comes over to her place when she wants satisfies her and then its until the next time she is around or has time , and while she hasn't said it would prefer I don't sleep with others. I'm the older guy who is smart, good looking, and very much satisfies her. You could call it one-itis but really i'm not asking to be a bf or marriage or any of that just like this week she has her period and says she can't meet. I'm debating if I should ask her just to hang out at watch a movie or something. Sounds like a good alternative to partying for a night. I'm thinking I'm gonna get some excuse but if so should I tell her how I feel or will it ruin a good thing.

    Any advice would be great . Blame the long post on a pot of coffee

  2. #2
    HardRock is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 11,383, Level: 70
    Level completed: 34%, Points required for next Level: 267
    Overall activity: 60.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered10000 Experience PointsSocial
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    1,000
    Points
    11,383
    Level
    70
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    518

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Its either your friends with benefits is getting old or you are both in this either ways it time to get emotional sort of.

    You do this at your own risk but then heres how

    may tell her you love her.

  3. #3
    tonystark88 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 279, Level: 5
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 64.0%
    Achievements:
    31 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    117
    Points
    279
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    19

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Sorry I don't understand the reply . The sex is still super hot. And I said I'm developing feelings not that I love her

  4. #4
    HardRock is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 11,383, Level: 70
    Level completed: 34%, Points required for next Level: 267
    Overall activity: 60.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered10000 Experience PointsSocial
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    1,000
    Points
    11,383
    Level
    70
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    518

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Hmm, well what would you term as feelings.

    all am saying is you need to go for something more if thats what you want.you seem to want her as your girlfriend if not then let things stay as they are

  5. #5
    T-Mal's Avatar
    T-Mal is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 31,222, Level: 100
    Level completed: 0%, Points required for next Level: 0
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social25000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Awards:
    Posting Award
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Location
    Southern Michigan USA
    Posts
    2,558
    Points
    31,222
    Level
    100
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 9 Times in 8 Posts
    Rep Power
    1391

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Love starts with a spark.. a feeling... a desire.
    It's small at first, but grows much larger as it's fed.

    There's NOTHING wrong with finding someone to be exclusive with... even if it doesn't turn out to be for the rest of your lives.

    Trust me; you can learn a LOT about relationship balance & how to keep things fun & exciting with someone on a longer term basis, but focusing on just that one person.

    You also learn a LOT about yourself; especially your strengths & weaknesses.

    I'm just suggesting that perhaps there's a reason you're developing feelings... and maybe, just maybe, you should go with them for a while & see what it leads to.

    Sometimes ya gotta quit over-thinking things & just roll with what's actually GOOD.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

  6. #6
    tonystark88 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 279, Level: 5
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 64.0%
    Achievements:
    31 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    117
    Points
    279
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    19

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    You are right I know I'm getting them but
    I'm not sure about her . I guess I don't want to look like a fool if I ask to hang out on Friday and she says no cause she only wants to meet to bang

  7. #7
    HardRock is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 11,383, Level: 70
    Level completed: 34%, Points required for next Level: 267
    Overall activity: 60.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered10000 Experience PointsSocial
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    1,000
    Points
    11,383
    Level
    70
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    518

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Never be in denial of your emotions.you need to tell her you love her.
    You also mentioned that she been asking you whether you have been sleeping around.thats the ultimate ioi.u may shoot for it

  8. #8
    tonystark88 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 279, Level: 5
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 64.0%
    Achievements:
    31 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    117
    Points
    279
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    19

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Haha I don't love her I just meant developing feelings. I thought maybe she just asked me because she didn't want to deal w diseases.

    Also in about the 10 times I asked she has never been available to hang out?

  9. #9
    T-Mal's Avatar
    T-Mal is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 31,222, Level: 100
    Level completed: 0%, Points required for next Level: 0
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social25000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Awards:
    Posting Award
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Location
    Southern Michigan USA
    Posts
    2,558
    Points
    31,222
    Level
    100
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 9 Times in 8 Posts
    Rep Power
    1391

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Never "ask" a girl to do anything.
    And NEVER EVER suggest "hang out". THAT kills attraction quicker than a can of raid on a couple stray ants!


    Follow your gut feelings / (dare I say) "heart".

    If you're genuinely digging on this chick, then ramp up the ALPHA qualities you have.
    Flirt, be fun/interesting/non-needy... but give off a majorly positive, confident, sensual/sexual vibe.

    If all SHE really is looking for is, a FWB/semi-regular / non-committal roll in the sheets, then that's what it is.

    But, RARELY does a FWB situation last more than a dozen hookups.
    So if it's been longer (and increasingly more frequent) then chances are, SHE is also getting some "feelings".

    Just sayin my friend.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

  10. #10
    tonystark88 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 279, Level: 5
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 64.0%
    Achievements:
    31 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    117
    Points
    279
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    19

    Default Re: FWB advice, might be developing feelings

    Good point. It's probably been around that. So I was thinking I wanted to watch a movie at her place but no hooking up since her period so what just tell her that instead of asking

    I thought maybe it's just cause she doesn't have to deal w the drama of multiple guys who could hurt her or suck in bed . I am direct w her and don't put up w shit either


Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?
    By cowboy728 in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 9
    Last Thread: 07-08-2013, 08:24 AM
  2. AFC needs help closing/ developing attraction
    By blazin224 in forum New Member Introductions
    Replies: 3
    Last Thread: 09-25-2012, 12:14 AM
  3. How to turn the feelings around
    By Joek1988 in forum General Questions
    Replies: 8
    Last Thread: 08-28-2012, 08:18 AM
  4. Developing Day Game
    By Mink in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 11-08-2010, 09:02 PM
  5. New GF still has feelings for ex.. help!
    By attraxion in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 06-24-2010, 02:14 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com