Hey I need some advice. I currently have this fuck buddy I'm developing feelings for. I come from the school of thought that relationships or monogamy isn't bad and seeing multiple people isn't either, it all depends on what you want or need. Met this girl in july. She is young early 20s and I just turned 30. She is foreign (not a golddigger) and wanted to meet someone before she went to the army.
I thought no problem this sounded great, and I would go over to her house about once or twice a week until the end of august. Even though we used protection there was a little pregnancy scare and then her cousins came to stay with her for about a month and since I live an hour plus train ride away it didn't work with her schedule. She told me she wanted to see me when she left and then we met. When I am with her its great ( amazing sex, and get along laugh etc,etc)
We do occasionally text throughout the week, and I've asked her to hang out before to different events like concerts but most of the time her schedule is busy cause she has like 3 jobs, etc. I still talk to and occasionally go out with other girls. This girl I know isn't sleeping with anyone else and occasionally she does make reference to see if I am. Especially last time she asks if i slept with anyone in a month. In the past she's made reference that she only wants to bang, but makes it a point to send me messages on my birthday, and religious holidays , as well as other occasional texts that really you don't need to do if you just want to bang. Also she has told me she'd like to me to move closer offered her place to me when she left, was got me a little trinket when she went on vacation and was upset when I left it, and very much liked when I gave her a small bear since she has stuffed bears everywhere in her place. Not huge deals but I don't do that shit with people I just wanna bang
She was originally going to leave but this has turned into her staying for a little bit longer. I thought maybe she didn't want to get attached to someone but when two people are basically only sleeping with each other for 3-4 months sometimes feelings develop. Most guys would die for this but I kind of feel like I'm this older guy who comes over to her place when she wants satisfies her and then its until the next time she is around or has time , and while she hasn't said it would prefer I don't sleep with others. I'm the older guy who is smart, good looking, and very much satisfies her. You could call it one-itis but really i'm not asking to be a bf or marriage or any of that just like this week she has her period and says she can't meet. I'm debating if I should ask her just to hang out at watch a movie or something. Sounds like a good alternative to partying for a night. I'm thinking I'm gonna get some excuse but if so should I tell her how I feel or will it ruin a good thing.
Any advice would be great . Blame the long post on a pot of coffee