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    Question So what do I do now :O !

    Hey guys,

    First time posting here, I hope I can find some answers to my situation

    I'll try to make it short and sweet,

    I met this girl, she's 20 and i'm 24, 5 months ago, she was a new girl where I work, (still work with her). She's seeing someone, she's not calling her her boyfriend but it's been over 2-3 years they see each other and their relation is going no where..

    That guys is 31, he's the first guys she had feeling for and since we started to see each other outside of working days, she told me for the first time she feels something and it confuses her. We kissed, did some oral sex, and every time we see each other, it's always better and better..

    Until, yesterday, she told me that she couldn't leave the routine she has with him, and she wants to be sure he isn't the right guys first. But I know that this guy doesn't really care about her (for a real relation) and I don't know if I should just back it up, and let her comeback if she's ready someday or trying to show her what I have to offer and hope she will realize..

    Sorry if my english is not too well, I'm french.

    Waiting for your thoughts ! thanks !

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    Default Re: So what do I do now :O !

    Thanks for finding the forums and posting. It sounds like you are making the moves and trying to become this girl's new boyfriend. I don't understand what your actual question is though.
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    Default Re: So what do I do now :O !

    If you aren't interested in a relationship with her right now then you have options.

    Let her go and potentially kick yourself later,

    Leave things where they are at and maybe she will finds the answer she seeks and come back to you when she is done exploring her options.

    Be supportive.

    Regardless, if you may want her later in life all of the above situations or options are horrible. So before you commit to hoping she may come back ask if you are willing to risk losing her completely. You cannot be happy just waiting it out or you will lose. Lastly there is no way of letting her get away with another guy that will save your reputation as a strong alpha male to come back to. So if you do let that happen your displaying a major DLV and even if you are sure you won't want her stories travel and girls like to gab so do you want to be known for just politely stepping back if she wants to explore other options. Doesn't make sense to me unless you have your mind made up you will not want her back then you have to explain that I'd isn't working out for you and you have to ditch her yourself or make it known it has nothing to do with what she wants but you cannot be with her romantically per your own free will ie you must friend zone her. That makes it your decision and you didn't just sit back and do nothing.

    That being said sorry if this is a tough love revelation but i believe that it is prudent to lay the cards on the table.
    If I understood you correctly I would hope anyone else would have done the same for me.

    Good luck
    Last edited by hometownextra; 11-14-2013 at 04:42 PM. Reason: Closing
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    Default Re: So what do I do now :O !

    Indeed tough love bro..come on think about it..there are tons of girls out there waiting for you pick up..like what hometownextra said..friendzone her, cut your losses and work on your game
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    Default Re: So what do I do now :O !

    Point I was making is make her yours now or friend zone her and call it what it was. Life doesn't care if you want to make the decision now or later. Life wants the answer now.

    The only way to save face if you are letting her go is to friend zone her though.

    If you want her or not that is entirely your own decision cannot help you there.
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