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Thread: I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

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    Default I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

    I know all the shit to know, all the what how and why. But it doesnt really matter if i dont actually talk to women. I just find it really hard for me to intiate a convo with a stranger, not just women but to any stranger.
    Im not that socially awkward guy, im actually a hyper weird in a good way type of guy who does crazy shit sometimes and funny. But i just cant seem to open up to talk to someone. I do fine when the ice is already broken. I just cant seem to start the convo on my own.
    WHATS WRONG WITH ME. it's really frustrating really need some suggestions on this

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    Default Re: I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

    I know all the sh1t to know, all the what how and why.
    you really don't know everything there is to know. you may have a good idea of what to do, but there's always something extra to learn.

    WHATS WRONG WITH ME. it's really frustrating really need some suggestions on this
    secondly, there's nothing wrong with you just because you have trouble talking to strangers. for most people, talking to strangers can be difficult and even intimidating. its something you have to learn by doing.

    approach anxiety is something you have to continually chip away at. its not going to go away over night. start small, make some small talk with a few random people, ask them what time it is, or ask a sales clerk about a product they sell. you have to learn that its not a big deal to just walk up to a stranger and start a conversation.

    on a side note,
    i just cant seem to open up to talk to someone.
    you have to be willing to reveal things about yourself in order to make other people willing to reveal things to you. this is referred to as "reciprocity" in that its hard for someone to feel comfortable around you, if you can't feel comfortable around them.

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    Default Re: I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

    Lack of preparation always trumps success somewhat.here am going to talk on girls.they expect you to trigger..
    Sample ones:
    Ask their opinion on something.
    Use something around you.e.g. Really warm whether today am,
    Dont force to hv conversations with others however if thats what you are shooting for practice in public chat room.and then saying hi or just greeting strangers...

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    Default Re: I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

    I agree with Metorea that you just need to talk to more girls. It can help to start with functional openers (Excuse me. Can you tell me what time it is?) just to get in the habit of talking to strangers. You can even transition off of these openers and have a real conversation. Then start working with higher risk openers as you get more comfortable.

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    Default Re: I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

    Quote Originally Posted by TomInVegas View Post
    I agree with Metorea that you just need to talk to more girls. It can help to start with functional openers (Excuse me. Can you tell me what time it is?) just to get in the habit of talking to strangers. You can even transition off of these openers and have a real conversation. Then start working with higher risk openers as you get more comfortable.
    Agree, functional is a great start to get momentum going, but a lot of other openers are more valuable.

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    Default Re: I realky cant break the ice oinitiating a conversation with a strnger

    Also, you say you're wierd, use that to your advantage silly openers also break the ice and getting a woman to smile is golden.
    To get over my anxiety when I first started, I opened everyone, and I mean EVERYONE. Its to the point to where girls I'm with at times tell me I'm flirting with chicks everywhere we go together, make it a habit then it'll become all natural.
    You can't miss something you've never had, but I can be sure she will regret her opportunity...

    Better known as Debauchivalrious...


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