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    Default Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    So a HB recently joined the gym I attend. I see her there often but not always at the same regular times/days (I think she is a shift worker or works a job with different hours all the time) All she ever does is run, either on the treadmill or the indoor track. It's the same every time she is there. If I see her when she arrives she jogs out of the locker room to a treadmill or the track and starts running. When she is done she jogs over the locker room and when she leaves the gym she jogs from the locker room out the front doors to the parking lot. I'm not new to gaming but I'm not sure how to approach her seeing as how she takes no breaks when she is working out or coming/going. She doesn't wear headphones so I do have that going for me but since she is always going I have no idea even wear to start.


    She does wear these weird bracelet like things on her ankles and wrists (mini-weights I think) so I was thinking I could comment on those since they are interesting. But I still have no idea how to open since she is never stationary or standing still when I see her. I don't even know if it's better for me to approach her when she is on the treadmill or the track (waiting outside the locker room seems creepy since we've never spoken) And since I never know when I will see her next I can't psych myself up to approach. Any help or advice here would be greatly appreciated.
    Last edited by JMcClane; 11-01-2013 at 06:40 PM. Reason: clarity

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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    Aww Gym game I love and hate this venue. There is no hot girls at my gym currently I scared them all away I am afraid, too bad so sad. Let me tell you what happened. Saw buff guy talking to hot chick HB8. Unhindered when she got done and went into the spare room I moved in to attack but used the wrong opener on her as I went in weak, she was laughing and giving strong IOI's but rejected me for the N-close cuz again I used the wrong opener. I saw her checking me out and that was going to be my opener "Hey I saw you checking me out so I thought it would have been polite to say hi." Instead I went in weak and got blown out quick.

    Second target HB8 looking super fine and super freaky. Cleavage hanging out second time I seen her (first time unapproachable in her car) second time I seen her was in the Gym. She was hanging around me but I was ignoring her (bad move I'll tell you why) she was flirting with a buff guy and approached him and I was thinking two things (one she likes him, two she is playing him to get to me) yeah it was option two. The reason being? I got hindered by fearing she liked this other guy when she was talking to him to impress me cuz she didn't give a rat's arse about him and vanished after I failed to open due to AA. She never was seen or heard from again! She was giving me strong eye contact so I know I went Beta and should have approached her THAT DAY but chickened out so she gave up and ran away.

    But anyway know that I know how to work Gym game may venture there again one day just saying it is EXTREMELY difficult and I have given up on it a little bit. But as far as what you are saying I would say yeah go ahead and talk to her. Don't wait around at the lockers like you said but usually there is no perfect moment so you got to roll with the punches and "create" a moment even if it is awkward at first. Try for when she is finishing a run or jog and not while she is in the middle of something as that would be rude. Don't attack her when other guys are on her, or when she is at the water fountain or leaving. But when she is freed up go for it and if she is giving you any strong eye contact, smiling, ANYTHING use that as an opener and go for it and try to N-close that broad. On a side note will probably switch Gyms come Feb since this Gym is nice but it is guys only type of venue.
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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    When I went to the gym earlier today she was already there running on a treadmill. I approached and opened, but it did not go so well.

    Just like you suggested NoctisCaelumPUA I tried to create an opportunity to approach. I hopped on the treadmill beside her, which might have been weird she was the only person using one and all the other treadmills were empty. Still I acted like it was completely normal. I set the treadmill to match her pace but after several minutes she hadn't even acknowledged my presence there. I hate running and was getting tired of it and I didn't want to DLV and look out of shape so I decided it was time to open. This was our conversation:

    MJR: *turing to look at HB* Hi

    HB: *No response*

    MJR: *louder* Hi

    HB: *Turns and looks at me* Uh, hi

    MJR: The other day I forgot my towel around here somewhere. It's blue and has a university emblem on it. I don't suppose you've seen it anywhere?

    HB: *turns back and looks straight ahead* No

    MJR: Oh well. No big deal. It will turn up.

    HB: *No response*

    MJR: I'm MJR. I've noticed you running here often. I've been coming to this gym for a long time but I'm new to running. Do you know any secrets to getting the best possible workout while running?

    HB: If you ask the front desk they'll get you a personal trainer who will be able to help you with that.

    MJR: Yeah, the staff here are pretty knowledgeable ...

    HB: *Turns to look at me again and cuts me off* Look I don't want to be rude but I don't get much time to spend at the gym, so I really need to keep focused on my workout while I'm here. *Goes back to looking straight ahead*

    MJR: No problem. I've got to get back to my own workout. See you around.

    HB: *No response*

    So as I you can see it did not go as I planned. I tried to remain alpha by not shrinking away or apologizing for interrupting her but as soon as she was done her workout she got off the treadmill and went straight for the dressing room without evening looking at me. I think I blew it but I'm wondering if there is any way I can salvage it? Or did I not blow it all and maybe plant the seed for future conversations? This girl works out in a t-shirt and baseball cap with no makeup unlike most of the other girls who workout here yet she still looks hot. Today her shirt came up a little while she was running and I noticed she had a tattoo that said "Semper Fi" (no idea what that means but l love girls with tattoo's) So I am wondering if I screwed this up or if I still have a chance for next time. And what should I say next time I see her?

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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    Why can't u act like you're leaving the gym at same time?

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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    Yeah not that much hope here for you bud. Dont do what he said ^, that will be take as creepy. Only way I could see it work out if you challenged her in some way that grabbed her attention, and made her want to talk to you. Get that far and the hard part is done.

    PS by challenge I dont mean go on the treadmill beside her and run twice as fast, fall, and make a fool of yourself. Use your words.

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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    Yeah I am definitely not going to follow her out the gym when she is leaving. For one thing it would be creepy, especially since she literally jogs from the locker room out the door to the parking lot so I would have to match her pace which would probably freak her (and others who saw) out. Plus she doesn't come in at the same exact time every day, and she doesn't spend a lot of time in the locker room after her workout, so I would have to cut my own workout short and follow her in sweaty clothes.

    Challenging her sounds like a good idea. But as she cut our last conversation short and didn't introduce herself back, and because she doesn't react to anything that happens around her in the gym I'm not sure exactly what I can do to get her attention and make her want to talk with me.

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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    Sorry man you lost her. It happens chalk it up to your loses. Whenever a girl rejects you like that it can be salvaged if you immediately go Alpha but you went Beta and further proved her point. Now she was very rude to give you the shaft like that but it makes sense since the convo was forced and had no flow. Girls have to want to, want to in order to get anywhere. When she said "Sorry not to be rude but" she was being rude to get rid of you. Throwing up an iceshield works great to get rid of guys but she will be carrying a perma-iceshield around you mate and without breaking through those defenses you don't have a chance since in her mind "you bored her" and were not original in your approach. Talking to her on the treadmill while she was working out was a bad idea. Never talk to a girl during a workout like I mentioned that is rude. AS SOON AS SHE IS DONE you attack go up stand there and chat it will stop her in her tracks. I see guys at the Gym walk up and stand next to the treadmill WHILE THE GIRLS are running and it is just tacky. Your approach was subtle but still obvious in your intent.

    I don't think you have a chance with her as you already took the Beta path and would have to dig yourself out by displaying Alpha male characteristics immediately quick by the next time you see her "Sorry I wasn't quite myself I just wanted to see if you would talk to me now." Don't disturb her during workout when you do this. And you have to seek her approval now since she already nexted you and I have noticed a well placed apology always gets me out of the dog house when a woman is mad at me. Literally a 10 ripped me over and over and wouldn't stop rejecting me then one moment I went over all polite after she was being a total b!tch and said "Sorry I just really like you." she gave her immediate approval "Yeah it's fine what do you want to say?" It shocked the hell out of me and as soon as I got the validation it went to my head and I lost her for good. I would move on but if you re-approach be very very careful and come from a place from high value and have something to say. Everything you said reeked of desperation even if you say you're sorry that's more than just talking about your shirt or workout tips when you really don't need them. Ask questions that really matter what she does on weekends, what's her favorite past time, etc. Try switching the convo to her and asking what she enjoys doing on the weekend. You tried that's all that matters now you know not to repeat that error again just keep tweaking everything.
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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    Thanks for the feedback Noctis. Awesome post. Do you really think I was beta? I thought I was being alpha because I didn't apologize for talking to her or slink away with my tail between my legs. I tried to be ballsy in my approach and control the frame by not letting her rudeness phase me. I could be wrong of course since I am by no means a master PUA or anything.

    I only approached while she was on the treadmill because she literally never stops moving the entire time she is at the gym. As soon as she is done on the track/treadmill she jogs right to the locker room without stopping. And as soon as she comes out of the locker room she jogs right to a treadmill or the track. There is no time when she is just standing still where I can walk up to her and start a conversation. I thought it would seem beta to jog after on the way to/from the locker room in order to start a conversation. I figured it would seem alpha to open while on the treadmill as well beside her because it would show I was still doing my workout and not stopping/dropping everything just to talk with her.

    Thanks for all the feedback guys. I still am determined to make this work and the advice is really helpful.

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    Default Re: Help! Approacing a girl at the gym?

    WOW ...... that was painful to read ....... maybe the gym isnt the place to do this , she seems like she is only there to work out


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