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    Thumbs down Advice on the best way to deal with cling

    As many of you may know, I have no problem talking to or getting with women, I'd have to admit my day game is nowhere near as successful as my night game but nights is the only option I have due to my career. Mean while I have a few issues with clingyness from women I meet.

    I don't know if it's my approach, interaction or what but many seem to get the wrong idea once I allow them a few inches, now I understand women like to try and circumvent the system as they feel like they have something more to offer, but I profess my wants and need and ALWAYS tell them my intentions and that I don't want a serious relationship and that I'm dating. Idk if they see this as a challenge or some attractive mystery, but I don't like blatantly hurting feelings and telling them off, so I completely cut them off.

    Is this the wrong way to go about it? I've tried to explanation route but as I've said they just come harder, it's gotten to the point where I can't even invite a lady to my place because I don't want them to know where I live.

    Any advice is appreciated, buddies have told me I'm way too nice, but same things go for my a-hole approach.
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    Default Re: Advice on the best way to deal with cling

    Calibration is needed to your routine.

    Clingyness can be dealt with in many ways but has to be dealt with like any serious issue reward for good behavior punish for bad behavior.

    Keep in mind a freeze out will in this case only escalate the attraction and plastic wrap like tendencies. Mirroring annoying habits can help but if done too hard will wreck it.

    Best alternative I found is run a slight game of AFC across the table but not enough to wreck any chance of redemption at a later time.
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    Default Re: Advice on the best way to deal with cling

    That's a hard subject man. The thing here is your telling them the truth and woman don't believe what you tell them. I have had this problem with FWB in the past. I would tell them the same thing as you and they would fall in love, then learn I was seeing someone else, get heartbroken, and hate my guts. I told them the truth the entire time! The problem is that woman don't ever believe what you tell them anyways. This is a hard issue to get around after you figure this out. As David x likes to say "If you want a woman to do something, tell her not to."

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    Default Re: Advice on the best way to deal with cling

    Never thought about going AFC on them at all, did a type of freeze out once minimized contact and after while she shows up at my place. I think ignoring them puts them in a mindset I'm giving them a sh1t test. It also surprises me when I mention only wanting a FWB they push still, good advice here.

    I made need to try other methods like these more in depth, thanks hometown. Crazy thing is I bet once I find one I'm willing to deal with on a more serious note she's going to be conforming to just the FWB thing, crazy world. Thanks again fellas
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    Default Re: Advice on the best way to deal with cling

    You bet that's how it works, you want fwb she wants more, she wants fwb you want more. Sir Murphy and his law strikes again and again.

    With some good calibrations to your game it will minimize this phenomenon.
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