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    Default Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    This regards a girl that I've known for quite some time, but we've never been single at the same time before. Lately I've noticed small hints of interest and she has gone home with me, but I've not initiated anything more than some spooning and caressing. (Yes, this is quite unlike me...)

    So to the question. We decided to hang out today, but she flaked with the excuse that she had a deadline that she needed to finish, but she wanted to reschedule for tomorrow. We will both attend an event tomorrow so I will see her regardless. (She asked if I wanted to hang out before this.)

    I ignored to answer that and just said "No worries, I guess that I might see you at the event tomorrow then". She then again replied " Or get together before if you're not busy?".

    I regard this whole shenanigans as she not being that interested and I figure not to pursue this more, but rather just see what happens when we meet up. I mean if she must've been aware about the deadline when the first date was set up.

    So anyways, I'm somewhat perplexed about what to answer to this or even if I should answer. What do you think?

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    Things like this will happen. Sometimes a girl will have real life commitment, but it doesn't mean she likes you any less. When I first moved to LA there was a girl I met in my acting class who was really into me. I didn't have a car back then, but she would drive me home all the time and we would spend an hour chatting in the car.

    However, despite this, there were times when I asked her to hang out but she was tired, but said another time. Again, it doesn't mean she likes you any less.

    In your case, the fact the girl said "or get together before that if you're not busy?" is a damn good sign.

    However, if she keeps flaking out, then that's time to eject.

    Your problem is actually quite pale in comparison to a lot of hoops guys need to jump through. Try dealing with a girl who is always busy due to work who has to find time for leisure or a girl who is somewhat interested, but if her friends lure to her to something more fun, she bails out on you.

    If I were you, I'd reschedule, but hint that your time is valuable and you got a busy filled schedule and you are fitting her into your time. (e.g "I think I'm free on Saturday nite, no wait, I got a party that nite, how about Friday, but I can only do from after 5 pm).

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    Roll easy the first time don't let it bother you

    Second time freeze her out

    Third time kick that to the curb or put her in the friend zone

    Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, fool me a third time eff that
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    Whatever you do, DO NOT meet up with her before the event, tell her you have something to do but do not tell her what it is, be mysterious about it ........ freeze her out and make her think about what you are up to

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    A freeze out is a little too harsh on a first offense with likely real schedule issue
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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    It isn't a REAL freeze out Home, it's only for a few hours, the point being he shouldn't jump at her offer to hang out beofre the event

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    Thanks for the responses guys. It's continued to be up and down with this going perfectly one day and nothing at all the next. Seems she got pretty hurt in her last relationship and has lost faith. Basically she said it's still on and we've got a vibe but she's afraid to proceed because we've know eachother for a long time and she does not wanna lose me. (She will still lose me somehow, I don't have time for flakes?) It sounds like it's off to me, so she's frozen out and put in the friend zone. I guess that it's meaningless to pursue this further?

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    Disko, you should drop this line on her via a text

    Sweetie, I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, I like you, I don't know where this is going between us but I would like to find out. If you don't, I'm fine with that and I am happy that we are firends ......

    put it on her, let her make the decision, END OF STORY

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    I've thought about that too, but it's a little needy, isn't it? What's the reason for not just wait it out and either she'll contact me or wait to say anything until I see her? She's been texting and contacting me on facebook everyday until she invited me to come to a party to see her. And when I went there she was off again...

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    Default Re: Girl flakes date, but "insists" on rescheduling

    good job first off i like the way you ignored her message. yeah tlel her your busy before and that youll barely even make it to the event once there its your choice if you want to hang out with her or not but from your whole story this chick is in to you so dotn sewat it too much


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