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    I met this girl. We liked each other, talked over a weekend via text and I help her the next Monday with school work. She tells me she has a boyfriend, but wants out and he wont let her. We went to lunch and had a great time. Now, she feels bad about it and has somewhat distanced herself and Ive done the same, accordingly. We still talk/text, but there hasn't been a D2. Last Monday I was supposed to help her, but I couldn't, because I went to see my ex for some fun. The girl in school didn't appreciate I blew her off, but after days of me not talking to her she texted me in the middle of the night asking an irrelevant question about class. I feel its obvious she likes me and admitted so in the beginning, but she wont do anything more. Id like to continue this relationship in a friendly manner and show her there are better alternatives to controlling, immature guys. But, also I don't want to expend any more energy asking her out and what not. Id just like it to come naturally and not have her feel bad if we went to lunch once a week or we did some sort of activity together.

    We met in school, so Im thinking I will find other girls to pickup and build my value, as well as showing I have any other options. What do you think?

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    Default Re: need help in general

    Quote Originally Posted by campeonfuturo View Post
    I met this girl. We liked each other, talked over a weekend via text and I help her the next Monday with school work. She tells me she has a boyfriend, but wants out and he wont let her. We went to lunch and had a great time. Now, she feels bad about it and has somewhat distanced herself and Ive done the same, accordingly. We still talk/text, but there hasn't been a D2. Last Monday I was supposed to help her, but I couldn't, because I went to see my ex for some fun. The girl in school didn't appreciate I blew her off, but after days of me not talking to her she texted me in the middle of the night asking an irrelevant question about class. I feel its obvious she likes me and admitted so in the beginning, but she wont do anything more. Id like to continue this relationship in a friendly manner and show her there are better alternatives to controlling, immature guys. But, also I don't want to expend any more energy asking her out and what not. Id just like it to come naturally and not have her feel bad if we went to lunch once a week or we did some sort of activity together.

    We met in school, so Im thinking I will find other girls to pickup and build my value, as well as showing I have any other options. What do you think?

    Agree with talking to other girls. Why does she talk to you about her boyfriend ? I've definitely been with girls where I knew there was something going on in another relationship in there life, but I just left it and focused on us. I've come to realize most women don't want to be saved, they just want someone to listen. I would listen. If she keeps going down path of boyfriend, I would start asking more and more questions about what made him a bad person and have her talk herself into not liking him, but that is a LAST RESORT.

    In a week, do something with her again and just focus on you two. I think slow is the wrong way to play it though. She won't hop relationships, but she'll probably have a fling with a guy she really likes then it can turn to a relationship from there.

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    Thanks for the quick reply. I feel more like its a matter of not pressuring her to hangout and waiting till its more convenient to go out instead of taking it slow, since we already went out before. And there lies the problem. I cant get another time outside of school where we can build on comfort, attraction, etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by campeonfuturo View Post
    Thanks for the quick reply. I feel more like its a matter of not pressuring her to hangout and waiting till its more convenient to go out instead of taking it slow, since we already went out before. And there lies the problem. I cant get another time outside of school where we can build on comfort, attraction, etc
    Ok are you in high school or college ?

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    2 ways about this

    Accepted method solid game
    Demonstrating higher value and wait for her to call it off with him and choose to be with you. It takes work and good solid game to do this, body language, kino, framing and much more basics are the biggest players here

    Evil method
    Use search bar look up boyfriend destroyer technique

    Disclaimer
    I can help you with links to helpful solid game, but if you want to run a destroyer you are on your own but without good basics like body language, framing and ....... The destroyer will likely fail.
    End disclaimer
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    Default Re: need help in general

    Okay, thank you. I have been reading up on the numerous things you have mentioned, however, I haven't been able to put much of them into practice. Ill study up on them a bit. Im in college, by the way.

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    RB - Kino Guide

    RB - Frame control

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    Four good articles by The Red Barron
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    Okay, so I texted her today and apologized for saying something about her bf the other day, because I really was trying the bf destroyer, but it came out a little wrong. And, so I said it again saying I really meant he must be an awesome guy to be with you...bla bla bla
    and she responded that she isn't with him anymore. And so, I related with past breakup experience. So, now tomorrow she wants my help with school again....

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    Quote Originally Posted by campeonfuturo View Post
    Okay, so I texted her today and apologized for saying something about her bf the other day, because I really was trying the bf destroyer, but it came out a little wrong. And, so I said it again saying I really meant he must be an awesome guy to be with you...bla bla bla
    and she responded that she isn't with him anymore. And so, I related with past breakup experience. So, now tomorrow she wants my help with school again....
    Sounds great. What's the question ?

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    Green flag time to go racing plus 30 characters
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