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Thread: Need your take on commitment issues

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    Default Need your take on commitment issues

    What is your guys take on commitment? I have commitment issues. I definitely don't want to get married till I get my dream car which means I have to pay off my current car so it will be a good 8 years before I am fully ready for a LTR. That would pin me at 38 yrs old. I think this has what has killed my Oneitis though lately since I used to be needy/desperate just to have a woman to myself I never had any goals earlier this year just get a girl to fall in love with me. I never really thought about but now that I did I will wait for a serious commitment till later. For now I just want to have fun, hookup, and hang out. Have a few GF's here and there, Sugar Mommas, and the like. However I feel like I am cheating women out of something since I am going into this knowing my oneitis will be weak and maybe one day die. I just wanted to know what you guys think about planning things long term in the future with potential targets like going to a Club or a Event in Las Vegas. Is this too much commitment?
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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    I'm a little confused. Do you feel guilty that you are in a relationship with them and it isn't monogamous ?

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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    Plan all you want, but it is a waste of perfectly good time. Planning usually leads to stress because plan is not something that the universe or the divine being of your choice considers. So take planning out of the equation and just enjoy what you have going on in the moment.

    Planning eight years out is only possible with retirement accounts and life insurance. I don't know where I will be tomorrow let alone eight years from now so I am content enjoying what I have now and working with that.
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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    I'm a little confused. Do you feel guilty that you are in a relationship with them and it isn't monogamous ?
    Yes. Because of the high nature of the number of women I meet I have to play the field a bit. My last GF even sensed it on our date that I was a wild stallion and said "Are you going to stick around?" knowing I was probably going to be picking up on other chicks there. The people at work think I like to have multiple GF's, I like to have multiple GF's. Because if I get oneitis for a chick and stop playing the game I will get into LTR territory which is not where I want to be right now. So I keep going out regardless of my past successes who are calling me, dating me, etc.

    Essentially I am playing the field a bit and I guess girls are huge culprits of this (Going to Clubs without their BF's and hooking up) and I don't know it makes me feel kinda bad you know? Like I am supposed to be Prince Charming or something and invest everything into that one female who hits it off with me. Hit it off quite a few times lately and just wondering the Inner Game stuff if I am cheating them out of something since I go into these Sets knowing I am going to be playing them for someone else eventually till I have a harem of chicks. I don't know if that's how I should view it is what I am saying. Because if I settle down with a chick now while I am 30 yrs old I am not ready for commitment and can't commit and feel like I still want to play the game and try a lot of things in a lot of situations. Once I have tried everything in all these venues I will feel better but now I am so new not sure if I should view it as just getting experience and learning or being a total Bad Boy.
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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    There are a LOT of women who don't want a guy who is committed and just want a FWB. Also, as long as you aren't promising them anything then you're fine. Most girls going to bars aren't looking for "the one." These are all just thoughts in your head. The book the Ethical Slut and Sperm Wars are both good talking about how women enjoy open relationships too and how women are actually programmed to want multiple partners for reproductive purposes.

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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    A LTR isn't something my current menu offers. If they don't like that, then there's the door. Most women I'm with, however, know that I'm not looking for a relationship because I tell them.

    I don't say that I have commitment issues though because I'm not at a point in my life where I would want to commit to anyone.
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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    Nope, I have no intentions to be tied down especially now, Im divorced and it was harsh on my ego and mentality. Not saying it destroyed me but I now have bettercan't cotright on what it is I want.

    The new me now travels alot, so I meet a plethora of women, at the same time my intentions are never questionable and they know our meeting is in passing. I have many gfs, or whatever you want to dub them in various states and we always plan meets after so long whether it's at her place, mine, or a mutual spot we decide on. Usually the women have the same intentions, someone to get away with for a short period of time, we rarely talk about personal life stuff and keep it simple.

    Theres nothing wrong with doing you, and letting it be known. Get yourself together man and take the trip, but be sure she knowns your intentionsin the end, you cant control their emotions but you can your own. good luck out there.
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    Default Re: Need your take on commitment issues

    Ha ha yeah thanks for the help guys just was really struggling with my Inner Game stuff you know. I plan on ramping it up next year for my Day Game and I don't need to be going out there confused on the whole bit. Now I know F-closes, hookups, dating and relating, and GF's are in but LTR's and Marriage are out at the current time. This will prevent me from going in with the wrong intentions not know what I want. Now that I know I feel that will be far more powerful and constructive since all I want is a FWB, Sugar Momma, or GF at the current time.

    Eventually one day who knows? Maybe I will settle down but not until I live it to the full. I just really like playing the game too much to settle down and if I did settle down I would be denying myself of what I really want and end up unhappy. Now that I can just give myself more time to learn to pull girls, try different venues, and do the things I have in mind it won't be so bad. To give you an example when I first started this year I just wanted to find a GF and in my Inner Man was thinking about finding "the one" at a Bar or Club and even almost expecting that.

    Now I do know love happens there (Met a guy from a Club who married someone he met at a Club, I met him because I was about to hit on his LTR GF who were both from Texas but saw them kinda together so approached him first and became friends on FB). But I think now I will be more prepared since I want to play the game and enjoying playing the game so I will be a good catch one day and right now should just have fun since many marriages fail anyway I should just do as much as I can before selling away my soul to someone that may end in failure anyway. Better to live and learn than to love and fail. Now I think I will be guilt free come next year gaming girls! It will show in my interactions since now I have more of an edge to work on.


    And D1v1ou$$ I think I need to have more of a carefree attitude like that since I was taking this thing way too seriously. That sucks about your divorce man sorry to hear that. D1v1ou$$
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