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Thread: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

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    Angry Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    Hello Pick Up Gods. I come seeking your council. Lately I been texting and Snapchating this older chick (bout 4 years). We have exchanged a crap ton of texts, she initiate firsts and texts me to death lol. And I can already tell that's she clingy, and needy. I keep it cool but still try to escalate. Our convo since she likes to use Emoticons on her iPhone usually has alot of smiley faces with hearts, blah blah you know. She's a really sweet girl, asks me "hows your day babe" all that stuff.

    She's so sweet...WHEN SHE TEXTS. We hung out at a friends house for some drinks and she wanted to go to a party my friend was having. The whole time she was complaining, being bitchy, just getting on my nerves. I admit though I was drunk and she was driving sober because she lives far and wants no DUI lol. But I have escalated alot at the parties before we started texting and there's something I just don't know what. She doesn't touch me back, seems like she's scared to get close. But the eye contact is heavy and the conversation leans toward sexual sometimes.

    I will say that she doesn't wanna be known a slut because one of the guys I know fucked her before we met but I don't care. I just wanna hit it lol. My good says she like me and wants a serious relationship but the times I hang out with her she can seem like a total bitch lol which already has warning signs even if we did get into something. Should I just see who it goes? I don't know if I want a relationship, the last girl I almost got into pretty much wasted my time so I'm just now more skeptical with it comes to that.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    My ex-gf could be somewhat like that. Cold on the outside, and more so to people she didn't know. However, when we got into the relationship, she was the sweetest girl on the planet. Treated my like her King. Truth be told she was just insecure. The easiest way for her to push past it was to shed other people off before they got close. I'd imagine you get sh1t tested a lot, and she likes to control the time frame. So roll with the punches. When she says "I want to leave right now" Tell her "Let's get the hell out of here right now!" Your taking a little control, and giving her some. She'll be strokin your meat stick the whole way home.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    That's some real good advice man. I was kinda just thinking the same thing, just roll with the punches and see what happens. She can be really sweet, but I can tell she probably will be one of the more emotional girls but it's hard for me to read her.

    I will say that she's close with her older brother and he seems to be protective of her but me and him are cool as hell an seem like we can be really good friends. We laugh alot and he genuinely seems like he wants to be friends with me. They usually go out on the weekends together. I notice when he isn't around she's more willing to flirt and when he's around she's more hard to read.

    Another problem I can say is I love to party and know alot of people and she's more reserved and likes to stay at home and watch movies. Which I don't see the point in doing (she lives pretty far) without a sense of payoff lol. Like is it worth it, I don't know. Maybe I should see how it goes.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    It's probably one of two things, it's either her slut defense or she's shit testing you.

    If it's her slut defense, it just means you have to get with her outside of your regular social circles. Sounds like you've only engaged her in front of other people, which means she's never had the chance to show you who she is outside of social boundaries. This is a huge deal for women because being labeled a "slut" by the community lowers a woman's value significantly. It also suggests to her that you're not interested because you haven't isolated her. She's probably wondering why you haven't shown interest in her exclusively yet, and as a result you're becoming unattainable. As a guy becomes more unattainable women's bitch shields become bigger. Thus, you should try and bounce with her or take her on a date. If this is the problem, you will reap bountiful rewards by doing so.

    The other possible problem is just that she's shit testing you. Lots of women won't shit test a guy over text because it's too easy for guys to pass congruence tests when there's no body language to read. So she's really sweet on the phone, but in person she's testing you to make sure you pass muster. If this is the problem, then you just need to remain congruent and pass her shit tests.

    Likely it's a combination of the two and you should try to isolate her outside of your normal social circles and then pass her shit tests. You do this, you'll likely be golden.
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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    I figured she was putting on a slut defense but I never figured it could have been a shit test. I guess I don't really realize them. I guess I maybe failed lol, we kind of got any a slight arguement and went our seperate ways after dropping me off. We haven't spoke in 2 days, not stressing it at all but we usually talk everyday from morning to midnight. She almost always texts first. So I guess she could either be pissed lol. I do want to get her alone, and have told her that maybe I'll take her out, but I think we'll probably having contrasting personalities (and not in a bad way) relationship wise.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    She's not text back. Either something could've happened with her phone or she might be mad. I'll leave it alone for a couple of days, if she is mad maybe she'll cool off.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    It sounds to me like you are just hoping to make this girl a back pocket b****. Which is by no means a bad thing. But if I can tell, she can tell, and her slut defense is spot on. If you want to smang this girl you gotta make your intentions a little more hidden. I've sure as sh1t been in your shoes. Hoping to party on the weekends, hit up the girl, and have her bounce over when your nice and boozed up for a nightly bang session. Never works though. They figure out you only want them for that night, and they typically don't appreciate it.

    Your going to have to dedicate a little more non-sexual time to her. Text her. Tell her the other night got out of hand, and it's been bugging you a little. Don't apologize immediately, but tell her you wouldn't mind seeing her and talking. If she responds, roll with it. Meet her and talk. If she doesn't, you might have to bite the bullet a while until she calms down or forgets about it. Then, you'll probably have to re-attract some.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    You hit the nail on the hammer man. She was actually very pissed off. She went from lovable text messages with plenty of hearts to cold, short replys. I asked her Mon if I made her mad that night and she said "yeah, blah blah" and I apologized quickly (AFC move, I slipped up) to which she responded: "mistakes happen" and I left it at that and texted her earlier this morning. Since it was my payday Fri I just asked her if she would like to get something to eat Fri. She replied she'll have to see how her schedule is tomorrow. (she still seemed cold lol) So we'll see what happens tomorrow. If she doesn't text me oh well i guess I'll just party it up Fri and if she does I guess I'll see how this thing goes. I hope she's over the thing because if not then she seems like she isn't worth the effort.

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    Default Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person

    Quote Originally Posted by Banko View Post
    You hit the nail on the hammer man. She was actually very pissed off. She went from lovable text messages with plenty of hearts to cold, short replys. I asked her Mon if I made her mad that night and she said "yeah, blah blah" and I apologized quickly (AFC move, I slipped up) to which she responded: "mistakes happen" and I left it at that and texted her earlier this morning. Since it was my payday Fri I just asked her if she would like to get something to eat Fri. She replied she'll have to see how her schedule is tomorrow. (she still seemed cold lol) So we'll see what happens tomorrow. If she doesn't text me oh well i guess I'll just party it up Fri and if she does I guess I'll see how this thing goes. I hope she's over the thing because if not then she seems like she isn't worth the effort.
    They're always worth the effort when your 6 inches inside of them. Keep it at. Spend a little more time with her than you want to, and it will surely pay off.


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