Re: Sweetheart When Texting, B***h in Person
It's probably one of two things, it's either her slut defense or she's shit testing you.
If it's her slut defense, it just means you have to get with her outside of your regular social circles. Sounds like you've only engaged her in front of other people, which means she's never had the chance to show you who she is outside of social boundaries. This is a huge deal for women because being labeled a "slut" by the community lowers a woman's value significantly. It also suggests to her that you're not interested because you haven't isolated her. She's probably wondering why you haven't shown interest in her exclusively yet, and as a result you're becoming unattainable. As a guy becomes more unattainable women's bitch shields become bigger. Thus, you should try and bounce with her or take her on a date. If this is the problem, you will reap bountiful rewards by doing so.
The other possible problem is just that she's shit testing you. Lots of women won't shit test a guy over text because it's too easy for guys to pass congruence tests when there's no body language to read. So she's really sweet on the phone, but in person she's testing you to make sure you pass muster. If this is the problem, then you just need to remain congruent and pass her shit tests.
Likely it's a combination of the two and you should try to isolate her outside of your normal social circles and then pass her shit tests. You do this, you'll likely be golden.
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