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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    Omit going with friend part otherwise then she is just friend or may presume so. That isn't congruent with your plans so I'd scrap that part of it, shoot out the invite for her to join you at the concert and just stick to the shadows it is like nine days away just be casually doing your own thing until then and make your moves.
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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    You're getting some great advice here..

    Should he try to set something up earlier than the 20th though? I feel like that is a long ways away and he runs the risk of letting things go cold and losing attraction.

    The advantage you do have here though with her being on your FB is that you can keep social proofing throughout the week with fun status's and/or pics etc. Just don't over-do it.

    Don't be predictable with your texts. Wait a day sometimes, sometimes give it an hour. Other times reply instantly. A good rule is to wait at least as long as it took her to reply, to reply to hers. Keep your texts short, sweet and to the point, and don't ever give her 2 texts if she only sent 1.. If she's sending 2 or 3 texts before you even reply, it's one hell of an IOI.

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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    Thanks guys for all the advice!

    I called her around 4:30 yesterday. She texted back half an hour later saying , "I'm in class :P". I gave it a few hours, then texted with some playful banter and a neg, and told, not asked, her to call me.

    She hasn't responded at all yet. I was gonna ask her to the concert over the phone after some banter. What now guys?

    Edit: twentynine, the concert's been changed to this Saturday, the 16th. I'm thinking about giving it a few more hours until tonight and texting something like, "that's funny, I didn't take you for the shy type."

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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    You called her, she said she was in class and basically "leave me alone".. She didn't call back and you kept texting. See what I'm getting at?

    In my opinion you need to leave it alone for a couple days. Did you end up texting her tonight?

    Make a fb status about how awesome your day was, make something up if you have to.. and post something funny on your wall, something that she would also find funny but don't make anything obviously directed towards her, don't over-comment on the posts either.

    fb is your outlet right now to stop her from thinking you are miserable that she isn't responding to you.

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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    Hey bro! Love the excitement. You're definitely overthinking things, but that's great as a starting PUA making sure you dot all the i's and cross all the t's. Personally, I text back immediately to get a text conversation going. If she constantly doesn't respond immediately, then I'll slow down on response rate. I think the text in class was playful, not a "fuck off" text, which is why she had a at the end. I would have texted back and forth because she was in class and probably bored. She was just letting you know she couldn't answer the phone. Personally, not a fan of calling unless there is a good reason to clarify things. If you do the concert, make her buy her own ticket or tell her a friend hooked you up with free tickets. Don't give yourself a chance to fall into provider frame. Never double text. If you have any more specific advice, respond to this thread or hit me up.
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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    Hey man I'm new to this community too but I have read over the posts about your problem and I am sure that you need to not talk to her and absolutely invite another girl to the concert. After the concert post the photos from it (take a lot with the girl and others at the concert) when she is on Facebook so you know she sees it. Wait a day of two after without contact with her in particular. Maybe talk to one of her friends if she has a mutual friend with you about the concert and be sure to say how much fun it was. You know the mutual friend will say tell her about your time at the concert. Hope this helps

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    Default Re: Help me out, did I screw this up?

    Quote Originally Posted by twentynine View Post
    You called her, she said she was in class and basically "leave me alone"..
    No, I didn't end up texting her, held off a little longer. I thought she answered playfully, perhaps she was actually busy. I still waited a couple hours to reply.

    Yup, been doing that. Posted a bunch of cool stuff I've been doing.

    Also, a couple days ago, she posted a status along the lines of, "why are some people so hard to understand?!" I dunno if it was directed towards me..


    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    Hey bro! Love the excitement..
    I'm better on the phone, I think my text game is weak so I resort to calling. Don't think I'll have the time to ask her, the concert is saturday. Maybe I'll let it go and invite her to something next weekend instead? I just don't want the attraction to drop in the meantime.

    Quote Originally Posted by Charm139 View Post
    Hey man I'm new to this community too but I have read over the posts about your problem and I am sure that you need to not talk to her and absolutely invite another girl to the concert...
    I won't be going to the concert if not with her. I prob would be hitting up a bar though, can check in/take pics and post that on FB. Don't have any mutual friends though.

    Thanks for all the help fellas! Keep it coming,she's a tricky one!


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