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    ‚Hy guys, I need help facebook gaming this HB7 that opened me on facebook..The problem is that we haven't met in person and she lives miles away..How do I heat things up and make my intentions clear that I don't want to be a text buddy..so that it will be natural for us to meet soon..so in short my sticking point is to engage her in electrified convo over text that will spark attraction within her, so that when i set appointment, she will be willing to go out with me..any help will be much appreciated guys
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    She initiated the convo by saying 'Vere ' and I texted back with 'hey I just came across your profile and it is splendid creative an elegant'. She then responded with 'thanq'. So I invested further by saying 'I wanna chat with you but I am really a busy person..are you available for a chat?'..she then replied with 'I am busy with my school exams too but we will make time for a chat'..Is things going well so far or am I missing crucial aspects of the game?
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    So I logged on facebook this morning only to find her online..I sent her this 'Hey I just came across your photo, the one you are wearing glasses on(lol..swag I guess). You look smart and I am going to call you smarty pants ..so what are you doing now miss smarty pants?'..she replied with 'lol aww thanq and you are mr smarty pants, I am just chillin you?'..I then replied with ' I am listening to music smarty but I am going to be busy all day..so do you really live in neilspruit?' she never responded???
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    After waiting for 5 minutes for her to respond..which she ddnt..I sent her this 'Hey..I gotta go, see you later' and logged of..so should I initiate the convo again..if so how?..Is this the end of facebook gaming for me..Is it really possible to meet a girl straight from cold approach via facebook or am I wasting my time..Gentlemen..ple ase help me out where possible
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    Default Re: Cold approach through facebook

    I really have no experience with trying to game a girl cold on the book. If she added you first, I'd be dubious of whether or not she's real (unless you have mutual friends that know her).

    All that being said, you ran some ok game, but you need to learn to calibrate a bit better. In this case you showed to much attraction, qualified to her too soon, and never forced her to qualify to you except by opening you. Basically, there was no edge in your game, so you didn't build any attraction past the initial bit.

    Let's look at your messages:
    'hey I just came across your profile and it is splendid creative an elegant'
    First message is a compliment. Compliments in general are a form of showing attraction. You start with this compliment and where do you go from there?
    'I wanna chat with you but I am really a busy person..are you available for a chat?'
    Ok, so you go from a big pull (showing of attraction) right to another one. Telling a girl you want to chat with her is another pull. Points for attempting to show non-neediness by stating that your busy though.
    'Hey I just came across your photo, the one you are wearing glasses on(lol..swag I guess). You look smart and I am going to call you smarty pants ..so what are you doing now miss smarty pants?'
    Again, you're complimenting her. Instead of going for, "you look smart and I am going to call you smarty pants," you should have gone for a push/tease with something like "You look like such a dork! Haha, I'm calling you dorkbutt from now on!" Finally:
    ' I am listening to music smarty but I am going to be busy all day..so do you really live in neilspruit?'
    This is one of those "boring" messages we preach that guys should avoid. Don't feel bad though, everyone makes this mistake occasionally. Finally:
    'Hey..I gotta go, see you later'
    You made this message because you found the silence awkward. If she didn't respond to you then don't start giving second and third messages--even if they are a simple good bye. You're a busy guy, so if she doesn't have time for you, then you don't have time for her.

    Basically, the overall gist of your conversation hasn't built any attraction. You seem to be stuck in a nice guy mentality, but you're at least understanding some of the principles.

    It's important to realize that all of these messages are fine in isolation, but stacked on top of each other they do not create the picture you should be going for.

    As a final piece of advice, watch out for your own congruency. What I mean by this is that saying things like "I'm busy," but then talking about topics like where someone lives is incongruent.
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    Default Re: Cold approach through facebook

    ‚Great points Indeed..Eish now I can see where I went wrong..The reason I avoided teases and negs is that I was afraid she will mis-interpret them..I realise now that my phone game is all about being a nice guy..I was afraid to run normal pickup game on her..I thought there was no way you can build attraction over text..Is it possible to build it? Thanx for your insight by the way
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