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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    im not sure i understand. this is what i took away. some of its an edited copy and paste job so bare with me.

    if this is the part you mean i should work on then:

    I think my buddy said i should greet her (in hebrew)" hey movie star" and write a note/“reference sheet” with the phrase (in hebrew) “i don’t like that beer” so when she asks what it means i can tell her and she can crack up.

    theres another part i thought of that i want to ask you so...

    The reason for that joke is:
    early on she was refusing to drink her beer. She kept saying I don't like that kind. so she was having trouble finishing her first beer. I told her "how are you not able to finish that, you are such a prude" and she CRACKED UP. She was irked for maybe a second but then she started laughing and laughing and finally choked out "oh my god, nobodies ever called me that before, I'm so not, you know what? I take that as a compliment. Thank you. Thank you for calling me a prude. " then she continued to crack up.

    Remembering that part, should I also translate "I'm a prude" for her reference sheet?

    if thats not what you meant, then i need clarification and an answer to that.

    oh, and what about the "is it bad she didn't accept the friend request" since i was pretty sure thats what we were doing

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    The reason I'm so concise is because idk what is a good thing and what is a bad thing but since people don't want to read that much detail I'm gonna try to narrow it down. I'd appreciate if you could take a crack at it though, and tell me what is good or not.

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    The girl came a few minutes late and asked me what she missed, that's exactly what I did last time I saw a girl I was attracted to and wanted start a convo with. She touched me a lot but it was so light I doubt it was kino.

    She got everyone's age, commented I was younger then qualified that she was barely a year older. She laughed whenever I wanted her to, no matter how dumb. I got her to mirror me by leaning near her. Whenever I was outside earshot she flirted with other guys a lot more, I think. Whenever fg interrupted me she stopped him and tried to let me finish but he was persistent and she unsuccessful.

    I danced with both girls and both girls danced with all 3 guys. There seemed to be a lot of chemistry between me and her. She practically let me feel her up while we were dancing, I even pressed my arm on her breasts several times.

    She let me touch her as much as I wanted with almost no resistance. The only resistance I recall is she pulled away slightly when I touched her chin but she didn't break contact. She told off the other guy for touching her chin (b4 me) but she made no mention of mine even though it was less than a second after emt. The emt got her to slap him. I got her to slap him harder. Then I got her to slap me but I think she was qualifying again. She was trying prove her strength and not hurt me at the same time.

    She challenged me to a fight, while laughing, did the movie move, I used frame control and let her try it. She bumped her stomach and chest against me repeatedly then started laughing so hard she stopped and sat down. I stood ground, frame control.

    Emt couldn't make her laugh at 1 point so I tried and even though she didn't it was obviously a much tougher fight. She even steeled holding it in.

    She took my hand when I showed her the shot glass I bought. She barely touched my fingers but she didn't need to at all.

    She saw a text on my phone asking if I'd kiss her, while she was trying give me her #. I covered but I'm not positive she believed me. She gave me her # anyway. She smiled and made a joke instead of getting awkward which is y I thought she did at first.

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    That is as concise as I can get, sans detail. I feel like you missed out on a lot of possibly critical stuff. I'm concerned this doesn't show the "flirt" aspect and makes her seem into me but there was other stuff too. I'm not sure how to describe it without detail.

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    Andrew,

    Thanks so much for making a more concise summary of the evening. This really helps me see how you perceived how the whole interaction went.

    If we wanted to make it even simpler we could say that you had a fun and flirtatious evening with two girls and two other guys. All of the guys spiked the attention of your target at some point. She was having fun getting all of the attention. One of the guys (fg) may have kissed her at some point. You got her number. At the end on the night the emt gave her a ride home.

    The next time you're in this situation, you want to be the guy that kisses her and gives her a ride home. Keep going out and getting more experience with more girls and this will become easier.
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    i don't think anyone kissed her. the angle that i saw was her directly behind him because i was at a distance so all i know is they weren't arms length. as i got closer, she seemed to get further but i think it was an optical illusion caused by paranoia and my getting closer and a new angle.

    they went outside right after and i went a few seconds later. they were chatting friendly, more than arms length away, no signs of sexual tension, even before either saw me. it was also freezing, perfect excuse to be close but they weren't. they (or at least she but i think both) were even leaning against opposite walls, away from each other.
    i just said it looked like they kissed but id bet i was mistaken, otherwise there would be more tension, especially since i thought i saw her push him away to (as i got closer) so she would be uncomfortable or he his ego bruised. while the 3 of us were outside the canadian guy came and asked if she was single. he had watched her dancing and there were other girls on her par there, only they did have an obvious bf. he was watching her dance and ignored the taken girls so if he'd seen them kiss, he probably wouldn't have pursued her so hard.

    at least thats what i think. i also think that while she enjoyed flirting with the fireman, the more i think about it, the more i think he was kinda desperate, and i think she saw through him. plus she qualified how close she and i are in age so while age isn't a big deal to girls, i think she saw him, on some lvl, as a creepy old dude that was hitting on her. my biggest worry with him is what happened after he dropped me off and was alone with her.

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    The girl, I'd imagine, has to be quite gorgeous to get you and three other guys as riled up as she did. And she probably ate up every second of it. I'm going to take from this she is a HB9 or HB10. In which case, it makes sense to get a little caught up in it all. Forget about the night bro. It sounded like a good time. If there is anything you want to take from it..try not to think of those guys as competition. No one should ever be your competition. In fact, they should be someone to game as well. Get them interested in you, she will see it, and will soon be buying for interest as well. Or, as hometown said, grab a pivot. Or two. You don't even necessarily need to talk to the girls very long. A minute or two will suffice and then simply say "come with me, I want to introduce you to someone." Introduce them to the guys and play mediator for a minute, then bounce back to your target.

    I can't imagine going out with a group of people you barely know is easy, so props for staying in set all night and working as much as you could. Honestly, at this point, I'd say screw the text. Don't hit her up at all. Wait til class on Monday and then dive right into banter. Which route you take doesn't matter, its how you take it. If you say the hebrew thing to her, and you've been thinking about it all week, chances are it will come of rehearsed (suppose its good your taking a theater class than ). Pop into class and make her the second or third person you talk to. If she is truly a flirt, you'll only fall into her frame by b lining it straight to her and diving into conversation. Ignoring her while gaining social proof around her is going to be your best route. However, if your feeling ballsy and think you could hold the frame... be a bigger flirt than she is. Think about the way she "flirts" with you. She throws out an IOI and then immediately does a take back. Her seeming interest and complete lack there of at the same time has you thrown for a loop. Time to give her a taste of her own medicine. The key is to show interest in kino, but no interest in conversation. If you were sitting next to her in class it would involve something like reaching over and placing your hand on her side while you said something. But remaining neutral in all other aspects of your body language and immediately after taking your hand off her, returning your focus to the teacher. You basically have to become uninterested the second you show any type of interest. She'll farking gobble it up.

    And just befriend the other guys. You'll soon find it much easier to make your advances on her when you don't feel like you have to beat out someone else.

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    I'll add on a little more, it's all thought out to much man. Your making this much bigger than it is. Analyzing every aspect is only going to drive you crazy. Try not to imagine everything you did as a crucial part of what she sees of you. Instead realize there is a larger image of yourself that she, and everyone else sees. If you want to analyze anything, analyze that. How do other people see as a personality type? Don't change it, just work on becoming the best version of that you can. That's all you can do. Stop looking into this man, it's going to drive you crazy!

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    on that note, for your first post i think i actually did that. during class she was the only one next to me and she came late so she didn't see me talk a little before class and there was no one else to talk to during. i didn't really kino because i was still to shy. my intentional touches were as light as her (probably) accidental touches. that said every time i talked to her, i went right back to listening to the teacher and basically pretending she wasn't there. it was kinda like u described. sans the touching.

    for what they saw of my personality, several people (i think mostly her) said they were jealous of my ability to be so subtle and they saw me as a quiet subtle guy who's a little reserved. the french guy kept trying point out flaws and suggesting i change this or try that but the way he said it he sounded like he liked me. the emt had me convinced, at the time, he liked me to and i know the other girl liked me so she would have at least saw that. thinking back on it it feels more like the guys were try sabotage me then help me but if i didn't see that, neither did she, right?

    ill definitely at least act like they are still my friends. if nothing else the class has 6 more weeks. i don't need them complicating it if they get petty. I'm a good enough actor to trick them like that.

    she is cute and fun. when i first saw her walk in i put her as a 7 or 8, still hottest in the class, but as we talked i started to see her as more of a 9 or 10. maybe because i like her, maybe because she took off her coat, maybe because at the club she pulled the hair band out of her hair (it did practically nothing because it held so little and she has curly hair yet somehow it was really sexy to see it all the way down)

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    The biggest thing you can do is not imagine that you have to go into the class and be this crazy out going super fun guy. If your energy levels aren't there yet, and your naturally reserved, this will be forced and put an immense pressure on you. Totally not what you need.

    Obviously you absorbed the game to pick up girls. But it should also be about becoming more social in general. There always seems to be this push for keeping everything 'light and fun,' and being Mr. Alpha Male as often as possible. But if you jump into the deep end without knowing how to swim, chances are you'll end up sinking right to the bottom. (If the lifeguard is hot enough, by all means, dive in. If your unconscious, by law she has to give you mouth to mouth). For right now, look at the little things that can help you. Check your body language. When you walk in, is your chin up, your shoulders back, and your chest slightly out? Move slowly, don't rush to your seat. Make eye contact with those you know. If you don't want to talk to them, smile, then proceed to your seat. Cognitively, for right now, do the same thing. Slow down. Work on making your movements and your thoughts lethargic.

    Mostly, if your subtle and reserved, it means you know what to do socially, your just a little too shy to do them. You gotta trust yourself here man. You know what to do, you just don't believe its right yet. If you feel like talking to someone, do so. If you don't, don't. Don't hesitate to grab a seat next to HB either. You don't need to seem that aloof. You can go with one of your banter lines. Or you can just start into a new conversation. "Hey, how are you?" Like your old friends. Good luck dude


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