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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    Quote Originally Posted by andrewkrs27 View Post
    ER was filmed in Chicago and we talked about Chicago shows yesterday and I mentioned it was filmed in Evanston. She said really? I said yes, I think I was actually born in that hospital. She said "oh my god, u were born in Evanston?! I went to school there. Northwestern…" then we talked about schools and northwesterns theatre dept.

    I was just thinking her reaction was odd and it occurred to me she made a random connection out of essentially nothing. Pure chance of something 18 years apart. Was that an attempt to connect in someway? Show we have stuff in common? Or am I just far reaching? I just figure it's such an odd and intense reaction and I can't think of anything else to explain it.
    Andrew,

    This is one of the best posts I have seen you write. There is a lot of content and plenty of detail to give you good feedback on.

    The fact that you were born in the same town that she went to school in is a HUGE commonality and builds lots of attraction with women. In general, you want to demonstrate that you have commonalities with women, even if they are weak. When you know about places that she has been to, then it seems to her like you have known each other for a much longer time and have a stronger bond with each other.

    You can build commonalities out of almost nothing too. For instance, if a woman says she's from France you can say "Oh my God, I've eaten French food before! We have So Much in common." She realizes that there really isn't so much in common, but she can appreciate the effort and it's a little bit flirty and cute.

    Let this one sink in and see how you can apply it again in other ways.
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    I was the only one there. She never got the address from the person who knew, I'm betting that's why the guys didn't go, the person who did know had to work early tomorrow. heir go, I was the only one there.

    Just the one who we were going to see. It was the "other girl" from LAST week
    Is this a screw up: when I got there (10:30 pm) I texted Hannah and asked if she went to see Devins show. (Obviously Devin is the girl) no reply

    The reason I wonder is there's a good chance she doesn't know my # since she was so drunk when she gave it to me. She's also never used my name around me so she may not have recognized it when I sent it day 1 also given how late i sent it she may not have seen it and the other texts really didn't seem to have a response.

    she's a teacher. Maybe she had nothing tonight with out the show info so instead she got some sleep so she could teach.

    it was an open ended question "Did you go to Devins show tonight?" So if she gets it she could answer when she gets it.

    last night I noticed, I thought she had an iPhone (not positive) but she doesn't have iMessage. Monday she said she's never given out a fake #. She didn't say that to me but to fg so also no incentive to lie. Do u think it was a fake or that she's not using iMessage for some reason (I know my aunt doesn't and if my cousins turn it off to save data they can forget to turn it on), or could she have typed it wrong again?

    I was thinking, on Monday, I can at some point say to her "whats's your number?""I thought you had it""I decided if you were that drunk when you gave it to me, it doesn't count" but will that still work if she DID type it right and I sent 3 texts?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TomInVegas View Post
    Andrew,

    This is one of the best posts I have seen you write. There is a lot of content and plenty of detail to give you good feedback on.

    The fact that you were born in the same town that she went to school in is a HUGE commonality and builds lots of attraction with women. In general, you want to demonstrate that you have commonalities with women, even if they are weak. When you know about places that she has been to, then it seems to her like you have known each other for a much longer time and have a stronger bond with each other.

    You can build commonalities out of almost nothing too. For instance, if a woman says she's from France you can say "Oh my God, I've eaten French food before! We have So Much in common." She realizes that there really isn't so much in common, but she can appreciate the effort and it's a little bit flirty and cute.

    Let this one sink in and see how you can apply it again in other ways.
    I was doing that with the teaching, religion, passion for the stage, acting, all those deep topics I had mentioned were commonalities or commonality adjacent. Does the fact that she did that to me mean anything? it was such a far leap that she made.

    also whats your take on the phone thing?

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    There's a lot here bro so I'd be lying if I said I was fully able to process it all. Hometown mentioned you were making some progress and that's what it sounds like to me as well. Mostly your mind is in the right place. She didn't respond to your text, which blows, but it was late and you rationalized that she could be busy. This is an excellent step in separating yourself from being overwhelmed by the situation.

    As far as whats going on in her mind, its hard to tell. Honestly, if it was easy this site probably wouldn't exist. Even the best of em still have to put their head down and keep pushing in hopes they're going in the right direction. But I will say you can probably be at ease about the other guys. It in no way sounds like her interest is directed toward them at all, she is just being social. If she isn't interested or attracted to you yet, I'd say your closer than anyone else. This sh1t is tough, but it sounds like your doing okay, and your only going to get better, that I promise.

    As far as the phone thing. Yeah she may have not saved your number, and for that matter your name. So next time you throw her a text, put a "-andrew" at the end. This is good for anytime you meet a girl and get her number without you giving yours.

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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    Quote Originally Posted by TomInVegas View Post
    Andrew,
    You can build commonalities out of almost nothing too. For instance, if a woman says she's from France you can say "Oh my God, I've eaten French food before! We have So Much in common." She realizes that there really isn't so much in common, but she can appreciate the effort and it's a little bit flirty and cute.

    Let this one sink in and see how you can apply it again in other ways.
    Hmm... not really, lol. You might try this with a blonde though, it might work!

    If you are interacting with a higher value chick, you have to demonstrate some real value though. If you can find no commonality, you don't pretend by making one up. Instead, you show a vital interest to learn more about it. Then tie it back to a related experience or something you saw in the media or make a comparison and ask relevant questions. This is much more relaxed and real and you don't give her the impression that you are trying hard to find a commonality in order to impress her.

    Good luck!
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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    Hard to say what is up on this one, play it off like no big deal. Next editorial at least you showed up to the show. Props for supporting friends, even if others welshed.

    The phone thing I'd leave it at the texts you already sent out. Not bad idea to ask about it like outlined above. I think it gives you plausibility, if she says she gave it it you, and you think it is wrong in front of her message a simple hello. And see what it does to her phone, if asked just say oh that is so you can save my number easier.

    It is a instant shit test of your own, the idea being to gauge credibility.

    If you are lucky though in person she may mention the messages before that point, but before then unless texted by her I recommend complete text silence.

    Chin up buddy, you are still doing well, and definite social value for showing up even if alone.
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    Default Re: Dealing with a Flirt

    Thanks.
    She mentioned monday to fg that it pisses her off when the guy sends her a test message to see if she gave the right number. That it instantly burns a bridge. She said this at the same time she said she'd never given out a fake #. She was so drunk it's possible she gave me a fake by accident, typo
    Idk though. Does that wipeout the send a text when she's there? I realize I forgot to mention it before. I'm assuming it does.

    Is there a way to shit test that she bailed on the show?

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    Wonder if Devin knows you where the only one to show up? If she does know she may do all the work for you as far as the getting excuses and cutting through the B.S. is concerned.

    The phone thing it is up to you if it needs immediate resolution or not, however, I think that reliability is the bigger fish to fry in this equation.

    That being said you are definitely on to something about calling them out on seeing Devin's show. I'd just talk to Devin about her show, mention a memorable part of it. Just before the others show up to class or whatever. Just drives home point that you kept your word, also may make her ask the others what they thought IE set a trap for the others even better when someone else does the work for you.
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    As I read it it I was thinking of ways to do that and then I remembered that Devon said she wasn't gonna be at the next class. I actually texted her a joke after the show based on her scene and she replied how happy she was I came. I THINK she saw me cause I had like 8 chairs to myself. I'm assuming I can't use her directly since it'll be 2 weeks when she's in class. Is there another way? I really do pride myself that I ALWAYS keep my promises. I'm not positive Devin knows everyone was supposed to go. She MAY have thought I was surprising her.

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    Either way, I got ideas reading another posting of yours.
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