Re: Suddenly found myself in a long term relationship!
Take responsibility for your behavior. Stating things like "I can't not open sets" makes you sound so absurd that it's laughable. That's something you choose to engage in, not something you have no control over. And, quite frankly, it's insulting to people who actually have ailments that they can't control.
If you aren't into her like that then own up to it and break it off. That's the responsible and respectful thing to do. But don't come here and try to justify your behavior to us with bullshit excuses.
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."