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    Default Need help with this girl in my class

    So there's this HB 6.5-7(although very sweet and intelligent) chick in my class. I had never really taken much interest in her, I only talked to her one time very briefly the 1st week of the semester (about 2 months ago) when we were waiting for the elevator, but nada since. There's something about her that's attracting (I think the fact that she appears to be very smart is the main reason). I want to ask her out, but not sure how to approach as I've never dated a classmate before. I kinda have the opener ready, but not sure what to do otherwise. Keep in mind, this class has like 10 rows (left, center, and right). She's near the center front, and I'm all the way in the center back. The class has pretty much pre-selected their seats, so I won't be able to sit next to her or anything like that. So after class will be the time to talk to her.

    Is something like this good? I approach her after class and use the opener, make as much small talk as possible (ask her questions about herself basically and vice versa hopefully), then use a false time constraint, get her number and tell her that "I want to get to know you better outside of class, because in class I won't be able to seeing as I sit all the way in the back row (with a smile)."

    Would something like that suffice for a first real encounter with her? I would even ask her out for drinks or something casual during a weekend, but I don't want to throw too much stuff at her at once.

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    And for anyone wondering, my opener will consist of taking something from her introduction. At the beginning of the semester in this class..roughly 2 months ago. Every student had to submit an introduction about themselves. In her intro, she put where she interns, and her linkedin profile. I went to her linkedin profile, and saw the visitors section. Another person is interning at the same company.

    So my plan is to use an opener that will basically tell her that I went over the introduction page a couple days ago out of curiosity, and noticed that hers said that she interned at a company where I know someone. I'll pretend to know this other someone through a couple of old friends a while back (and thus knew she interned there). This is basically my excuse to talk to her lol because I'll ask if she knows this person. From there, starts small talk.

    My false time constraint will be that at some point, I'll tell her that I have to go tutor a friend of mine in math at the library (class gets dismissed at 7:05, so maybe after like 10 minutes or so of talking, I'll tell her at 7:30 I have to be at the library). This gives me an excuse to leave the set, and then get her number and I'll tell her what I wrote in my first post. It seems like she goes home after this class Tuesdays and Thursdays, and she takes the transportation that I don't even go to, so the FTC is perfect timing right there for me too.

    Does this look good overall?

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    hey, so i think in this situation you should try to get an insta-date right after class. try not to use to much small talk, most of the time this leads to an awkward pause which is never good when you haven't built up any comfort. try to ask her about something going on in class, use an opinion opener, complement her on something you like about her (but NOT her physical looks) like her sense of style, or you can just go direct, anyway is fine really.
    Ex: "hey what was the homework again?", or "what do you think of (insert topic)"

    as far as your opener i personally wouldn't bring up knowing someone because IF you plan on seeing her regularly there's always a chance she'll bring that friend and wat then? also going out of your way to look at her profile and then comment to her about it might come of as you being to invested. keep it spontaneous with your first "meeting" with her. try matching her speed so when you both are leaving class you just so happen to be walking beside her, then go for the opener. and again try to get an insta-date take it from me just cause you get her number doesnt mean she'll text you back.

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    Well, she wouldn't know I viewed her linkedin profile. I would tell her that I read her introduction on the site where we had to post it, and I could tell her that I know someone at the place where she interns (she posted in her intro that she interns at that particular company).

    I would say that person was more of an acquaintance, and not really a friend. I don't think she would bring her up again. I do see what you mean though.

    Does everything else in my approach look solid?

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    The Opener should be about your teacher ..... "so what do you think about Professor SO and SO " and then maybe swing into something about RateMyTeachers.com ... "we should check to see if he is there" ..... and then go into the story of how when you were in 8th grade you were studying the book 1984 in your English class and the teacher would force you to write in-class essays while blasting MC Hammer at max volume in order to "simulate the environment you would live in under Big Brother" ..... then go into your time constraint but of course ask for her number before you leave. I would avoid "I want to get to know you better outside of class" , I think this may might put up red flags for her and she might panic, say something like "maybe we can go grab coffee after class one day"
    At this point grabbing coffe is a lot less threating then I want to get to know you better ..... this all of course is IMHO .... Good Luck

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    Thanks for the advice!

    I talked to a friend of mine about this girl today, and he told me how old is she and if she can drink. I found out she's about 19-20 (I'm 23), so inviting her out for drinks is out of the question. Coffee date sounds like a very good idea. Something simple and casual for a first meetup.

    Any other advice from anyone?

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    I actually like drgnsfire12's post. I mean, I think you can still use your opener that you came up with, then quickly go to the teacher line that drgnsfire came up with. Then make some small talk and then use the 8th grade story that drgnsfire came up with, then FTC and invite her for coffee

    Good luck!
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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    Well, I'm planning to talk to her and ask her out for lunch tomorrow (the week before thanksgiving she was absent and this past week was Thanksgiving). I go to school in the city near Madison Square Park (there's a shake shack right there). Is that a good enough 1st date? I'm planning to take her to a nice, fun, and exciting bowling place (Bowlmor Lanes Union Square) for a hopeful 2nd date.

    What do you fellow New Yorkers recommend for a nice date? Something that she probably has never experienced before.

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    Well..I managed to finally introduce myself to her in a funny way. As I was walking towards the elevator, it was about to close and I held it open and she was running after it and made it. I jokingly said "saved it" and she chuckled. I then told her with a smirk"you know I'm in your class right?" She was then like oh really you are?! and stuff like that. I said I recognize people's faces well, got that from my mom and she laughed slightly. I then introduced myself and shook her hand and exchanged names. I then asked her what she did on thanksgiving and vice versa. Then as we walked and waited outside of class, asked about this class, major and her other class schedule and vice versa. Her friend from class then came and the conversation ended. Then shortly after walked in class with the intention that I was gonna talk to her after class. Once class ended, she and her friend walked towards the elevator. Got off at the 2nd floor and they both went the opposite direction and said bye. I then caught up with her and asked if she did the project that's due on Thursday (said she finished it, was gonna offer to help her out if she hadn't). She then talked about briefly about the professor of the class and blah blah. I was then gonna go into the story that drgnsfire12 came up with it (then use a FTC and ask her out to lunch and getting her number) when she went on the phone and called someone (was either a female friend or her Mom most likely). She exited the campus and I decided to eject as she was talking on the phone (damn phone ruined it lol). I'll try asking her before class on Thursday (I've seen her in the past sit outside the building of where my class is, I'll try approaching her there if she's alone and try there).

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    Default Re: Need help with this girl in my class

    Well, turns out she was absent today lol. Figures that when I'm trying to pursue her I'm getting a lot of bad luck. Next week is the only chance I have cause the week after is final exam week. This also gives me an advantage because she knows next week is the last week before finals, so if I'm interested in her, that week is basically the only week to really ask her out and get her number.


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