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    There is this girl in my dorms that is always checking me out. Since highschool after oubert i became really attractive but im still shy . Like terrified . I wont even say anything cause im shy . I know she thinks im cute . Should i just say hi when i pass her walking by. I have female friends but im just akward sometimes. I also learned one of my closest friends knows her so we have mutual friends. Should i like use him to get to her .

    To explain how bad i am well be stuck in the elevator together and ill do nothing . I get like anxiety . Tge same thing happens when im doing sppeeches. I think about it all day so when i get the chance i freeze. Ive done this before so many times and evebtually after about 5-6 montgs they get someone else . Which is why im here . Im sick of this cycle

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    Sounds like you have a combo of severe Approach Anxiety and low confidence. first thing you need to recognize is that only you can change this we can give you advice but ultimately you have to be proactive to get over it. when your getting nervous stop and take a slow, deep breath and picture something calming to you, it seems basic but it works wonders. and if you walk by the girl stop her be calm and confident and then say something to her.

    you: hey you know (mutual friend) right?
    HB: yeah blah blah
    you: so how do you guys know each other?
    HB: blah blah blah
    you: cool we're going out to (place) later, you should join us (if shes with a friend tell her to bring them too, in fact even if shes alone tell her to bring a friend).

    you just had a friendly convo with her and even if she doesnt hang with you guys you have established your a confident friendly guy.

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    I wrote this previously in another thread where someone asked about a problem with shyness. Hope it can help you:


    You should at EVERY chance you get with a female be practicing on holding a conversation.

    This girl could be your neighbor, buddy's sister, your grandma, your cousin, store clerk, librarian, the girl at the fast food place or just about anyone. Try to prolong each conversation. Start at 15 seconds. Then up to 30 seconds and so on. Pretty soon you will be able to hold very, very lengthy conversations.

    I have talked to females that I have only met once , got their number and when I called them I have talked to them for up to 8 hours in 1 night. They had to work in the morning but they didn't want to put the phone down. I offered to end the conversation but they wanted it to continue.

    My point isn't to brag about myself, my point is that I was a shy kid when I was 15. I refused to stand up in front of the class to present my project. I was willing to lose all marks on the project just so I wouldn't have to stand in front of the class. This was in the middle of the school year. I did very well in school but for public speaking I was willing to fail the class. In my mind at the time the pain for failing the class would be less than the pain I would feel by going up and speaking in front of the class.

    My teacher, with 2 weeks left in the school year, told me that I had to speak in front of the class for 5 minutes or that I would fail the class. It was either an A+ or an F.

    To the credit of my teacher he told me that for the next 2 weeks that the very first question in every class would be mine to answer. He told me to stand up at my desk and give an answer that was 15 seconds or longer.

    Next class it was 30 seconds or longer and so on. The increase in the amount of time required for the answer kept progressing over the next 2 weeks.

    Long story made short, I did my presentation and I stood up there for more than 15 minutes. My teacher had helped me conquer my fear. I went well past the 5 minutes and I was talking confidently without looking at my notes.

    How does this help you?

    You can do the same by taking the very same small steps to build your confidence. Start with opening girls and who cares if you get blown out 2 minutes later. As long as you are learning from those mistakes and prolonging each conversation. You too will conquer your fear and get rid of AA.

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    8 hours????

    What sort of topics did you talk about in those 8 hours? I want to know the ways! ; p

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    Lots of past relationship talk. I try to be a good listener and I will ask open ended questions based on the thread we are talking about and let her free to yap away. Listening carefully and formulating the next statement followed by a question will send her off to yap again.

    I use the:

    -ask a question, wait for her answer
    -make a statement, let her respond
    - ask next question, let her answer
    the cycle repeats over and over

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    Shes starting to look a little pissed. I saw her on the way to class looking at me through the window when i was getting breakfast at starbucks. Ive done this a few times before being to shy. Well i suck anyway. Its like there are other girls just as cute who have crushes on me im just like crazily attracted to this girl. Like today the girl i think is cute sat the table next to me and my friends. She was with some dude and her friend. I actually found myself jealous. I got up and got a drink so i had to sit on the edge of the table near her.But i just froze up. God i suck. Vacations next week and then our month long winter break is coming up soon a few weeks after.

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    Rather than saying that you suck. How about reframing yourself and validating yourself self-worth? You really need to work on your inner game and start looking at yourself as "the prize." A guy with good looks and confidence is a lady killing machine.

    The way you get over this 'anxiety' like Dave said is repetition. Talk to people. If you get rejected, it's okay. Learn from it and move on. The most successful ppl are those who get rejected the most.

    As Babe Ruth said "Every strike leads me closer to the next home run." This is a guy who made record in his time for the highest batting average, but struck out the most.

    When I was training in stunts, many of the trainees couldn't do a 10 ft. fall. Looking down, it's scary. But the more you do it, the less scary it is until fear and anxiety is no longer an issue.

    If you like that girl, then just go up and talk to her. It could be as simple as "Hey, I've seen you in passing so many times, I just wanted to come up and say 'hello'" That's usually my direct opener if I can't think of anything. "I saw you. And I just wanted to come over and meet you."

    Just remember:

    He who hesitates masturbates.
    You fail 100% of the time IF you don't try.

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    Well i kinda want to talk to this other chick to now when before it was just her. The othef one just like showed up this week . She was there on the table on the other side of me do it was weird. i was at the library earlier this week and she kept checking me oit but i was to shy. I had a good idea to talk to her. She also lives in the other dofms but comes to ours to eat lately to. Like ive noticed it for a week. Ive learned ive been90% sure in the pastwhen judging if someone is interestes. Should i just practice approaching and try either or. I couldnt do both because they'll run into eachother.

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    You should always be practicing talking to women. There's some great books/resources out there on conversation to buff your social conversational skills. I strongly suggest you read them.

    It doesn't matter if the girl is interested or not. Just talk to them. You don't even have to ask them out or get an n-close.

    Just close on the ones you really like, get yourself rejected, reflect, learn, move on...like sales. But in all honesty, with age and time the girls you encounter will be more attractive. Right now, they girls. Wait til u deal with women. You are going to look back and realize how trivial all this is.

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    Default Re: how to get girl in dorms

    Thanks i already know how im going to talk to the 2nd girl. Realized i use the same line with talking to girls i dont find attractive. Ill just view her as no different.


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