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    Hey guys!

    So I am going to get right into it. I am going out to coffee with this girl who has given me some strong IOI's (Kino happens every time we talk, she always starts up a conversation with me, and when we are out she hangs around me) but I have not yet kiss closed her. Should I try to sarge her while I am out on this coffee date? And possibly kiss close at the end? Any thoughts? Thanks

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    Hey Charm!

    Great job on getting this girl attracted and qualifying herself to you. My suggestion is that you should kiss her as soon as the opportunity comes up. If you can do it before the end of your date, that would be even better. Girls are expecting guys to try and kiss them at the end of dates and it puts a lot of pressure on the situation.

    If you do not kiss her on this date, there is a very strong chance that she will put you into the friend zone.
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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    What Tom said. You should definitely go for the k-close with her. If you don't have an opportunity before the end of the date, walk her to her car, hug her, then go for it after the hug. Yes girls expect guys to go for it at the end of the date, and yes it can be allot of pressure but I have done that allot and NEVER got turned down. My philosophy is this: If she agree's to go out with you she is interested. I always go for the k-close on the first date.

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    So I was going to try it at the end of the date like you guys said. However, she was going straight to class after and when I was walking her to class, her friend showed up in third wheeled hard. She asked to see me tonight out so I am absolutely going to try tonight. Do you guys think I should wait until she talks to me about tonight right not the other way around?

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    I would go for it as soon as you two are alone. That's what I would do. Another fool proof way to ensure that she wants it is to grab her hand first. If she holds your hand you know your in, then go for the k-close.

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    I did this a couple months ago. I took a girl out to coffee and she was not interesting at all, but she was very attractive. I played the whole date pretty hands off but at the end I walked her back to her car and pulled a K-close out of nowhere. Needless to say, she ended up obsessed with me.

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    It's my rules too to k-close at the first date. Escalate kino step by step (touching, hugging etc.) and then, kiss. It is recommended to pull the triger, before the end of the date - goodbye-kiss is not only too cheesy, but both of you would think 'Ok, so here's the end, everybody go for kiss at this time. Should I try it/Will he try it?" - it makes both of you anxious, and it lowers her attraction, lower your value.

    It's also important that kissing should be a natural next step - not something you go for out of nowhere. After touching, hugging etc, it should feel casual to kiss as a next step. When you reach this point, but don't kiss her, she could get bored, and you could loose everything you built up. I was on a first date 2 days ago - I reached the point where it was obvious that kissing is the next step, both of us knew that. As for me, I love this situation and I love teasing her and watching as she know I'm about to do it, but still hold on, waiting - priceless lol. Anyway, kissed her and after that she mentioned that yes, she was waiting for it for a while then - but if I hadn't go for a kiss, only at goodbyes, she would not let me - because the window would be closed by that at her part.

    So in this case,I don't agree with DirectIsBest - if you failed kissing her in the first date, you have to build up attraction and comfort again. Kino escalate again - because everything you built up at the first date, probably faded away. And what is more, if she was waiting for the kiss but didn't get it, you have to work even harder, because it was a DLV not to kiss her.

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    I have to disagree with Adam on this one. I agree that it should be a natural step and Kino should be involved. That's a definite must. BUT waiting till the end is not a DLV. Sometimes you don't have the privacy to K-close during the date (although k-closing before the end is the best way). I have NEVER been denied the kiss at the end if it came down to that. I've always hugged, pulled away, then went for it. I've done this somewhere around 20 times and it hasn't failed.

    When you two are alone kino, then go and grab her hand, if she holds your hand your in dude. Hold hands and talk for a bit then go for it. If she turns away but still enjoys the kino/hand holding etc. it's just a test. Keep flirting, kino'ing and go for it again. Don't let the denial effect you. She will respect you more for having the balls to try. It also doesn't mean she's not into you.

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    Default Re: kiss close after coffee date?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    I would go for it as soon as you two are alone. That's what I would do. Another fool proof way to ensure that she wants it is to grab her hand first. If she holds your hand you know your in, then go for the k-close.
    Pretty much this.

    That's almost the best way to find out if she wants you to kiss her. If she doesn't want you to grab her hand, then she either might not like you like that, or you have to build up more comfort.
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