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    Default Nervous for girl coming over

    Girl invites herself to my place, known her for a long time, assume we kinda like each other, but now for the first time we know each other, we're both single.

    She invites herself to my place, and says: If you get me a place to sleep, I'll fix dinner.

    Not too bad, eh? I have this very obvious one-person sized empty spot in my 2-person bed, and i know she knows. Oh well...

    But i'm so fucking nervous i start to wonder how the hell i'm going to have any fun, don't even feel like eating really. I don't really have any outcome in mind. We get along great, and no matter what happens we're going to have a good time, still... SO FUCKING NERVOUS...!

    Any ideas on how to grow a set of balls in less than an hour?

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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    Lmao SHE'S JUST A GIRL. SHE'S NOT A SUPERSTAR. What's your goal for the night though
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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    Have a drink about 15 minutes before she comes it will help you relax. Don't overdo it and get drunk. When she comes over offer her a drink too.

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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    Start with the end in mind. A bottle of wine for the two of you to split will help with setting the mood. I'm assuming you want to sleep with her?
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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    You may be netting yourself a new roomate!

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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    Thanks guys!

    @marvillo, you should see this chick on stage!! ;-> (we know each other from bands), but turns out she has the opposite self-image. You're right though... although honestly... I still find that shit scary. She's not a rock star, but my self-confidence isn't rock star either... (yet...! hehe) Thanks for your clear wording :-)

    @cdharders, I was prepared to go all the way but contrary to what you said (read your comment too late), I didn't set an "end-goal" for this night, no strategy or game plan. Maybe I could have pushed it further if I had more dedication, but this is where my in-moment jugdement led me:

    She was totally surprised when I kissed her, which in turn totally surprised me. I even thought for a second she was bullshitting me, but she told me it kinda never even occurred to her she even "deserved it". I calibrated to slow my pace way down and focussed on building comfort. (Some might argue that was a mistake, I'd love to hear that). She slept over, but we didn't have sex. We slept arm in arm though and she had the biggest grin I've ever seen. She'll be back.

    So here's what I take as lessons out of it:
    1 staying in the moment
    2 calibrating
    3 taking the lead - she would have never initiated the first kiss, and without the set of instant-mini-balls I grew, neither would I. And it did turn out a good time.
    4 this girl is a walking IOI cannon. She does EVERYTHING (like inviting herself to sleep over), these were not intended as such and she was kinda shocked when I pointed them out. I thought I was way behind in her big scheme, but it was the other way around. I argue they're still valid IOI's though.

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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    Hmm..
    She was totally surprised when I kissed her, which in turn totally surprised me. I even thought for a second she was bullshitting me, but she told me it kinda never even occurred to her she even "deserved it".
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    She invites herself to my place, and says: If you get me a place to sleep, I'll fix dinner.
    Woah man calibrate!

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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    Quote Originally Posted by MajorThird View Post
    Thanks guys!

    @marvillo, you should see this chick on stage!! ;-> (we know each other from bands), but turns out she has the opposite self-image. You're right though... although honestly... I still find that shit scary. She's not a rock star, but my self-confidence isn't rock star either... (yet...! hehe) Thanks for your clear wording :-)

    @cdharders, I was prepared to go all the way but contrary to what you said (read your comment too late), I didn't set an "end-goal" for this night, no strategy or game plan. Maybe I could have pushed it further if I had more dedication, but this is where my in-moment jugdement led me:

    She was totally surprised when I kissed her, which in turn totally surprised me. I even thought for a second she was bullshitting me, but she told me it kinda never even occurred to her she even "deserved it". I calibrated to slow my pace way down and focussed on building comfort. (Some might argue that was a mistake, I'd love to hear that). She slept over, but we didn't have sex. We slept arm in arm though and she had the biggest grin I've ever seen. She'll be back.

    So here's what I take as lessons out of it:
    1 staying in the moment
    2 calibrating
    3 taking the lead - she would have never initiated the first kiss, and without the set of instant-mini-balls I grew, neither would I. And it did turn out a good time.
    4 this girl is a walking IOI cannon. She does EVERYTHING (like inviting herself to sleep over), these were not intended as such and she was kinda shocked when I pointed them out. I thought I was way behind in her big scheme, but it was the other way around. I argue they're still valid IOI's though.

    See what happens when you stop over thinking and just live in the present? Lol even if you are nervous( we all get that way, just make sure it doesn't show on the outside.) Good Jon though.
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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    She flaked last week because of migraine...!! Maybe I overcalibrated and now she lost interest, but my prejudice about migraine is that it's often stress-related, so maybe I still put too much pressure on it.

    I can guess, but I think you guys would advice me to use the time for some plate spinning instead... right?

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    Default Re: Nervous for girl coming over

    I'm a total newb to all this as well but I think you should freeze her out for a little bit and then give her one last shot... after that then go plate spinning (whatever that is :P)


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