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Thread: date tommorow, concerned with flaking and actual date

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    Default date tommorow, concerned with flaking and actual date

    so first things first i've already f-closed this girl, i met her first time at a EDM show that i went to , we danced and made all night number closed as well added her on facebook talked to her a bit, few weeks went by i was going to another show that i saw that she was going to also on facebook started talking to her again, once again dance and made out with her all that night, walked her to her car and let her wear my jacket and then f-closed in her car, told her that id like to hangout with her outside of a show cause shes cute and so far pretty cool and would like to see how things go

    my issue is im worrying about her flaking, we dont actually talk to frequently but i have been a bit more she lives about an hour away and was gonna come up saturday, gonna do sushi and a movie and then she already said she wanted to stay the night, wooo everything should be good but ill give the text convo starting from when the idea was first put in place

    hb7: we need to hangout soon! i'm just so busy ><
    me: well i'm down to hangout whenever just hit me up

    * next day *

    hb7: alright! i might be free sometime this weekend... Are you going to 'Groove' on saturday?

    me: ummm im down for this weekend, idk if i'll be going to groove or not cause moneys but maybe , i work saturday from 10 to 7 and free sunday

    hb7: ok! i might be going to groove cause this dude on facebook that goes to my school really wants me to take him to a rave but i still dont have a ti8cket so idk yet.

    *texts me again 2 minuets after*

    hb7: i work from 10-4 on saturday and sunday. But sunday i have a meeting to go to from about 6-7. So yeah, im free saturday after 4 and sunday after 7 i guess, whish is sort of late i guess haha

    me: ok well saturday seems like its gonna be the best bet out of all this so really depends on the whole groove thing

    me: how much are tickets, where is it and who is playing

    hb7: ill send you the event page thing on facebook cause that'll be easier lol

    * i didnt end up going cause i just didnt want to and didnt have the money for it *

    * transfer to fb convo *
    Aaron:
    unfortunately with money and work and such i don't think so we should definently figure out a time to hang out and a show to go to togeater cause you are absolutely kind of amazing
    HB7:
    11/15, 1:41pm
    Aw alright. We should definitely do that. I don't think ill be able to go to another show until Porter Robinson plays at echostage tho, but we can hang out otherwise! And thank you, you're prettt awesome yourself
    11/15, 1:44pm
    ME:
    Guess were just gonna have to do it old school where I take u out to dinner and maybe a movie and such, and thank you
    HB7
    11/15, 2:13pm
    HB7
    Damn, I haven't been taken out old school in a long time lol. That sounds great
    ME
    11/15, 2:14pm
    HB7:
    No school like the old school and I'm the principle lmao good I think it sounds great to, sometime next weekend perhaps, I would have money at that time
    11/15
    11/15, 5:15pm
    HB7
    Alright! My work schedule's the same every week so I'm free Saturday after 4
    ME:
    11/15, 5:50pm
    ME:
    Hella motherfucking yeaaaaaaaaaaaaa its a date
    Seen Nov 15

    * BACK TO TEXT MESSAGING *

    me: hey how was groove??

    hb7: it was insaaaane. the played lots of hardstyle which i loved. you should've went!

    me: i know i shouldve would have been awesome

    hb7: it would've! it sold out and everything

    me: thats what i heard, im glad u had fun though, i'm still taking u on the best date of your life saturday right?

    hb7: yes! so how will that work? should i just drive up to your place?

    me: yes! and if u don't wanna make the drive back your more then welcome to stay the night (she lives an hour away so it does kind of make sense)

    hb7: i'd love to stay the night ... but we'll have to see about that cause i have to think of something to tell my parents as to why i won't be coming home until the next day =u=

    me: okie dookie, i would just say your staying at a friends or something like that, u could always say u were abducted by aliens :/

    hb7: yea i usually tell my parents im sleeping at a friends if i stay out, but i sort of used that this week for groove lol

    me: hmmm.. try a differenct friends place?. also as much as it would suck to not stay the night u don't have to if we cant figure it out, u good with sushi btw?

    hb7: its a longish drive so im gonna try to stay the night, and i wanna like sleep with you and cuddle and stuff cause i like that shit. Sushi's good, i've only had it a few times honestly lol

    hb7: o what's your address?

    me:################# ##(address lol) , and i want cuddle and stuff cause i like that shit too, and alrite we'll get good sushi then

    hb7: oof yeah, thats an hour away from my house. i'm not tryna drive x2 that in one night lol. yay good sushi

    me: haha guess ther's nother left other then for me to have to wake up to your pretty face then ... oh well surprised your only an hour away though

    * she didn't text me back, this last convo was on the 18th, texted her back on the 21st *

    me: Hey! we still on for saturday

    hb7: i hope so. my relatives decided to come down today and my mom gets weird about going out cause she wants me spend time with them. i'll find a way tho

    me: ok just let me know, so i was thinking some bomb ass sushi and seeing the new THOR movie, and the most awesome cuddling ever, good?

    hb7: 0o, yes yes, very good!i was supposed to see the new thor movie with my friend but she saw it on a date w/o me lol. very excited for the cuddling

    me: see this would be the best way to get back to her cause this date is gonna be like 10 times better then hers! and im also very ecited for said cuddling

    no reply this was on thursday, todays friday, dates suppost to be tommorow, so im a little concernec, that last text i sent really fast after hers which i know im not supposed to do but i did :/
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    Default Re: date tommorow, concerned with flaking and actual date

    Thx for sharing. There's some really strong IOIs here. Since you already f-closed her, then really everything is usually easier after that point so I wouldn't stress out too much about it. So personally, I think you have it easy.

    Couple points in the future.
    - I would personally avoid talking about you not having any money. That is just DLVing yourself. It's on a need to know basis and she don't need to know that.

    - One advice to safeguarding yourself in the future from flaking is to make it appear that you have a busy schedule. Your time is valuable and you are fitting her into your schedule or else she won't respect your time (or any other girl for that matter). You do that buy scoping out days and times she is free and telling her that certain days you are busy because you have x and y going on (even if you don't). What she did to you here: "hb7: i work from 10-4 on saturday and sunday. But sunday i have a meeting to go to from about 6-7. So yeah, im free saturday after 4 and sunday after 7 i guess, whish is sort of late i guess haha" You should be doing to her. For example you: "This week is pretty insane. My weekdays are out. But, saturday nites looks pretty good but I can only do after 6 pm."

    Right now, you are coming across a bit too excited looking forward towards the date (as if you would cancel everything to make time for her). You DHV yourself on text when she is the last one to respond and leave it at that (as tempting it is to respond and get the last word in.) Sometimes it is good to cut the convo at the peak of excitement.

    Hopefully, she doesn't flake. Doesn't look like she will and if she does, there will probably be a good reason behind it and she may want to reschedule. You already f-closed her so things should be downhill. The fish is pretty much hooked.

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    Default Re: date tommorow, concerned with flaking and actual date

    thank you so much i appreciate it, i am a little bit more excited then i should be i suppose just been awhile since i've had any possible feelings for a girl, and i agree that if she plans to rescheduale it probably is for a good reason and not an actual flake

    actually she texted me while i was typing this out

    hb7: Hey! so we're definitely on for tonight . What time should i come over?

    hell motherfucking yea, im excited this should be awesome, im waiting for about an hour till i text her back try to build some tension/suspense

    in terms of actual date, im gonna have her come over 7:30, sushi, choose appropiate time for THOR 2 and then back to my place for whatever happens

    thanks again ill keep your advice in mind for next time and ill also post how it goes
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    Default Re: date tommorow, concerned with flaking and actual date

    Looks like I came into this one a little late. Regardless, I still have some advise. Tell her to come over at 7:34 (makes you different and she wont forget), have dinner, then back to your place for a movie. Public movie dates are for couples, not first, second, or third dates. They're too cliche and there's never enough interaction. Classic movie at your place is more relaxed and controlled... it's also open for interpretation, if you know what I mean
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    Default Re: date tommorow, concerned with flaking and actual date

    Well I'm happy for you that you are excited. Looks like the deal is sealed on this one. My situation is a bit more tougher than yours lol.

    I do agree with what Bimmer said though. Dinner + Movies = cliche. Fine for couples who are already comfortable in a secured relationship. Plus at theatre, you are pretty much isolated in your own world without interaction for almost 2 hours. I almost always avoid taking girls to the movies period, especially when you need all the time to establish attraction, comfort, etc.

    But you lucked out here since this girl already likes you so it doesn't matter to her where you take her.

    In the future, come up with something creative and inexpensive. For example, a picnic at a park or beach works well.


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