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    Default Need help.. Cant break through to dates or farther( attraction needed)

    Ive posted this before on how to build attraction and Ive been trying to work on this, so maybe this next week will be different.

    I have been able to get several numbers the past few weeks, but through one way or another I'm not breaking through into attraction. I know, I, probably, am screwing up one way or another in several of these instances, but in the ones I'm not I just don't get it.

    To the examples...
    1. I slept with a girl Ive know for years, but never talked with her or hung out, except once. We were drunk and the next day we hung out, got breakfast and she was interested in hanging out in the future. Hardly responded to my texts and I eventually called, to little avail. Would like to be able to sleep with her again. Other than that, I don't care.. shes kinda a ***
    2. I meet a girl at starbucks. Dead tired from the night before. Have a great conversation. She knows im interested. I probably talked too much. Was with another girl (a friend, who I slept with..refer to 1). Afterward, I mix up her name and she doesn't respond to text.
    3. Went to a bar late with a friend who is a great wingman. Approached 2 HB's at a table. Have conversation and they plan to meet up with us when they return to town. We get their numbers, but mine doesn't respond to my text the next day. I pushed strong and we will see what becomes of that.
    4a. Met a girl I used to work at the same place she currently does. I coax her into teaching me Spanish. I think I should've been more direct in this instance. Planned for coffee tomorrow ( I asked if this "would work for you?" mistake), but she is busy with an out of town friend.
    4b. I called today to check on the meet up tomorrow and she informed me of the above. I told her "just let me know when youre not busy" I wanted to be indifferent, but maybe I could've handle this better?
    5. I met a girl(Mexican) at school, who would consistently walk by me and I would say, on occasion, "hola, Chiquita" like hey my little love, jokingly. She thought it was funny and I talked to her one day, got her number and planned for her to teach me Spanish too. I called the next day and assertively said.. " lets go get a late luncher at..." It didn't work, she was working and said she would be busy later and tomorrow would be better. So, I set it up and gave a time for earlier today. I did; however, make a mistake and say " do you just want to meet me here.. then, ok where do you live? Ill just come pick up if that works better?....." Anyway, I call about 5 mins after the designated time we set up and no answer. I was kinda busy, so after I got ready I called 15 mins later and no answer.
    6. I got a girls number at the gym. I feel I was assertive and confident. I left on a good note, as I had a time-constraint. Texted her later ( a couple of hours) and she texted back a couple of times. I didn't say anything after awhile, because I was tired. And figured I may try back.
    7.I met a girl on okcupid. I followed the procedure listedin a thread to outfit my profile and guidelines to message a girl and it worked like a charm, first time. So, I got her number and she lives about 40mins away and we kinda planned to meet at a college, whenever she comes into town for a party. After, the initial meeting, I haven't talked to her.

    I guess my point is... I would like for these women to be texting me and calling me saying Oh, Im free today or can you come meet me, blablabla. And if not, at least be compliant when I say lets meet.

    Any help?
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    Default Re: Need help.. Cant break through to dates or farther( attraction needed)

    You sure talk a lot yo. That's one.

    Also a common mistake in all the encounters you've listed, and you're probably aware of it: No instant attraction and projecting to future non specific and sexual tension free meetings.
    Well let me break it to you buddy, those meetings never happen! If you can't close instantly then you need to create enough attraction and project to something very specific.

    "Call me next time you're in town" isn't really specific, it's actually the equivalent of "see you never". "I'll hit you up next week so you can come help me pick a shirt, I hope you got taste" is specific and lets her think about it.

    Work on your game, you're obviously a n00b.

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    campeonfuturo is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help.. Cant break through to dates or farther( attraction needed)

    Thank you and I'm trying. Do you suggest I try to keep my trap shut and let them talk? Open directly? And the one I'm most confused about is setting a meeting that is, actually, a date?

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    Default Re: Need help.. Cant break through to dates or farther( attraction needed)

    First of all I would say work on your text game. I have a feeling you're blowing it with your texts. It sounds like you aren't showing a lot of confidence, you don't seem like you're very confident that these girls want anything to do with you, and perhaps that shines through. Girls pick up on that shit, they are fucking emotional ninjas.

    The simple answer is to always be confident and if you can get yourself to relax and be funny around girls you can even be a bit cocky about it.

    Girls want to be with guys who are confident and state projecting. What that means is; Always be confident in yourself and project POSITIVE energy by showing how interesting you are. Project your confident and positive emotions onto her and make her feel good about the interaction. Be assertive with girls and show them you aren't a pussy, but also don't be a douchebag and make them feel like you just want them for sex.

    Masculine energy knows where it's going. TELL her to give you her number. TELL her where you guys are gonna go to eat. TELL her you would prefer to pick her up at a given time. Stop being a sissy about things and asking her whats good for her, she's not interested in that sh1t.

    Work on your text game, build some confidence, and stop worrying. Relax and be yourself and remember that girls will love you for it.

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    campeonfuturo is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Need help.. Cant break through to dates or farther( attraction needed)

    Thank you, Twentynine. I have been implementing a lot of things I have read over the past month. Obviously, I have mistaken several things in the heat of the moment.
    I will read up more on the guides and keep you updated.


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