Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 8 of 8
Like Tree4Likes
  • 2 Post By meteora
  • 1 Post By Sleath5
  • 1 Post By wildstorms

Thread: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

  1. #1
    wildstorms's Avatar
    wildstorms is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 379, Level: 7
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 51.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    152
    Points
    379
    Level
    7
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    24

    Default Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Ok so here is a little bit of background info on me and this girl.

    We randomly met and started seeing eachother for a while. I got many cues to k - close but I was a super afc at the time and didn't take em. So slowly I did sort of start to put her on a pedestal and what not. She mentioned we 're friends like once at this point, which I gave no power to and ignored. However I farked up and flirted with a blond chick in front of her same day thinking jealousy would make her go crazy, however, I believe I wasn't that deep in the friendzone for that tactic. So after that incident we stopped talking.

    So altogether we went on maybe 11 dates 5 of which I was not in the friendzone. So I don't think I was very deep into the friendzone.
    Now about 1 month n half later we got together last night and here is the breakdown:

    Conversation: childhood experiences, spirituality her friends family and her life, travel.
    Now she never talks to me about other guys, EXCEPT ex boy-friends AND basically loser guys who she thought was cool (because they had their own unique dhvs) from the past and mentioned how they made her sexualy uncomfortable like they wanted to rape her type of thing. Also I brought back sex into the conversation. One important thing also she talks about her girl that has boyfriend that are the same different religions as both of us, and said she wanted to learn more about my religion.

    Now for kino I could touch her anywhere on her body pretty much. I was talking to her about sex and the size of her boobs, it was kind of cool cause I showed her one of my birthspots on my back n she tried showed me some fake one on her lower back and she pulled up her shirt and pulled her pants down a little, I swear she wasn't wearing panties, regardless I was nice and gentle and just touched just above her crack and that whole area in a very non agressive way. She was comfortable with all that, and didn't mind me touching her at all.

    for framewise I owned it I believe, took her off the pedestal and started to disagree more and had a very solid opinion on things, which made her go kind of nuts as she would start to talk a lot more and try and convince me that I'm wrong.

    iois that were clear to me:

    tons of hair flicks
    pupils were super dilated the whole time
    after a nasty dhv (Thank you Vin Di Carlo for that one)
    She started telling me something funny and we both laughed but I would look the other way and kind of gave her some negative body language and she began to touch me on my arm a few times.

    My goal was to own her thoughts kind of, so I gave her this item or prop lets call it that just went with everything so well and she loved it, every time she uses it she will think about me .

    She met my mom and said we're friends, which again I gave no power to. Also I saw her today at my neighbourhood gas station, randomly she happnd to be there and when she saw me, her pupils instantly began to dilate and gave me very positive body language and a hug n a kiss. There's a lot more ,which are little details but I don't want this post to be super long, n I think I covered most of the important parts.

    So tell me how am I doing? Can I get out of the friendzone and become this girls lover? From what I could understand she wants a super serious relationship no bs, which is exactly what I want with her. Sex is not as important to her as much as the relationship is from what I could make out.

    Any other tips? And all advice is appreciated thanks !

  2. #2
    Sleath5's Avatar
    Sleath5 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 727, Level: 14
    Level completed: 27%, Points required for next Level: 73
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Location
    Vancouver
    Posts
    83
    Points
    727
    Level
    14
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    35

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Keep doing what your doing. Escalate a bit more, if you can have an intimate make out session more then one time on different days, the fruit is ripe for the picking. Just use some compliance testing to make sure she's not stringing you along.

  3. #3
    wildstorms's Avatar
    wildstorms is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 379, Level: 7
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 51.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    152
    Points
    379
    Level
    7
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    24

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Ok so does this count as compliance? I asked her to give me her hand like 2 or 3 times and she gave it to me every single time. Also when I was dropping her home, I parked right in front of her house , yet she started to yap away for like 30 minutes , and kept touching me on my arm. I wanted to k - close but I think I made it sort of awkward - didn't get or create any natural moments to do it, second my eyes swayed a bit away from her eyes and I looked at her lips a few times which was probably bad, so she gave me props but then I said give me a hug n so she did.

  4. #4
    Sleath5's Avatar
    Sleath5 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 727, Level: 14
    Level completed: 27%, Points required for next Level: 73
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Location
    Vancouver
    Posts
    83
    Points
    727
    Level
    14
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    35

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Bolded are my main points.

    Yeah those are mild ones, good signs so far. If she caught you looking at her lips she may know you want to kiss her- not necessarily a bad thing. It can actually be used as part of a seduction technique, if the timing is correct.

    I'm big into body language, so if she is biting her lip while talking to you, glancing down at your lips, or can't stop touching you then that means you are not in the friendzone.

    Note: Don't expect these signs to be like in a movie, prolonged and obvious. It will happen in a split second, and unconscious move by her. If you say something that implies her sleeping with you, and she looks away briefly, it means she's thought about it. Or if she briefly bites her lip. Or licks them. Or does anything in reaction to that comment. If your looking for it, it can be as minute as fiddling with a ring or as obvious as licking her lips and you will notice it, and then it becomes a trend. Do something she likes, she will do that subconsciously. Do something she doesn't, a different sign will show.

    Some woman dont show much body language at all, so be aware.

    What do you mean she gave you props. For what?

    Eventually, you need to escalate the conversation to something sexual, or else your gonna be tossed or put back in the friend zone. The pattern goes: Talk, laugh, light flirting, heavier flirting, move to a sexual topic, then use a line or find the right moment for the kiss. A perfectly natural way is just by finishing your sentence, be looking into each others eyes, and slowly move in for the kiss. If she starts freaked out midway through, just move to one side and whisper something in her ear to make her giggle.

  5. #5
    wildstorms's Avatar
    wildstorms is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 379, Level: 7
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 51.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    152
    Points
    379
    Level
    7
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    24

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Quote Originally Posted by Sleath5 View Post
    Bolded are my main points.

    Yeah those are mild ones, good signs so far. If she caught you looking at her lips she may know you want to kiss her- not necessarily a bad thing. It can actually be used as part of a seduction technique, if the timing is correct.

    I'm big into body language, so if she is biting her lip while talking to you, glancing down at your lips, or can't stop touching you then that means you are not in the friendzone.

    Note: Don't expect these signs to be like in a movie, prolonged and obvious. It will happen in a split second, and unconscious move by her. If you say something that implies her sleeping with you, and she looks away briefly, it means she's thought about it. Or if she briefly bites her lip. Or licks them. Or does anything in reaction to that comment. If your looking for it, it can be as minute as fiddling with a ring or as obvious as licking her lips and you will notice it, and then it becomes a trend. Do something she likes, she will do that subconsciously. Do something she doesn't, a different sign will show.

    Some woman dont show much body language at all, so be aware.

    What do you mean she gave you props. For what?

    Eventually, you need to escalate the conversation to something sexual, or else your gonna be tossed or put back in the friend zone. The pattern goes: Talk, laugh, light flirting, heavier flirting, move to a sexual topic, then use a line or find the right moment for the kiss. A perfectly natural way is just by finishing your sentence, be looking into each others eyes, and slowly move in for the kiss. If she starts freaked out midway through, just move to one side and whisper something in her ear to make her giggle.

    thanks for the replies sleath.

    I feel the need to share these few points.

    First off shes not super hot or anything just about HB6, so my game has to change based on that I believe, I used 0 negs on her. Second I've only mentioned a girl that is a friend maybe once or twice ever, both times she seems to have gone kind of crazy and asked me if that was my girlfriend ( that was a heavy ioi when she first asked me but being a dum afc at that time I didn't think about it) I said no in both cases. Should I bring up one of my girls next time n, hopefully if she asks I should let her know I'm single? Also how long should I wait for our next date, you are basically saying I need to farking K- close her next date or by third time or I'm pretty much screwed 4ever right. She gave me props as in a fist bump type of thing. Also on our date she seemed to have put an effort into looking good, because when I saw her at the gas station next day she didn't look that great. Also during one of our txt convos, I told her something about the "time being right" about something else. She replied " the time was right, now its just annoying" reading between the lines for that one kind of hurt lol. Does that mean shes not looking for a relationship atm? Or did I just overthink that one. geez if only I kissed her when she gave me those cues months back I wouldn't be so miserable lol, FML.

    Thanks in advance!

  6. #6
    meteora's Avatar
    meteora is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 14,800, Level: 78
    Level completed: 88%, Points required for next Level: 50
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Jul 2012
    Location
    west virginia
    Posts
    1,667
    Points
    14,800
    Level
    78
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 20 Times in 17 Posts
    Rep Power
    685

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Can I get out of the friendzone and become this girls lover?
    your not in the friendzone!!!!!

    get that idea out of your head. just because the girl isn't in a relationship with you doesn't mean your friendzoned.

    She met my mom and said we're friends
    she only did that to keep things from being awekward and to avoid the possibility of you rejecting her.

    she tried showed me some fake one on her lower back and she pulled up her shirt and pulled her pants down a little, I swear she wasn't wearing panties, regardless I was nice and gentle and just touched just above her crack and that whole area in a very non agressive way. She was comfortable with all that, and didn't mind me touching her at all.
    if it was just friendship she wouldn't have let you do that.

    seriously dude, your not doing bad. you just think you aren't doing as well as you really are, and that's going to cripple your success if you keep thinking that you aren't succeeding.

    honestly I think that all you would have to do to get this girl in bed would be to get her on an emotional high and then throw some direct game her way. she obviously likes you. go for it while she is still super attracted.

  7. #7
    Sleath5's Avatar
    Sleath5 is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 727, Level: 14
    Level completed: 27%, Points required for next Level: 73
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    500 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Location
    Vancouver
    Posts
    83
    Points
    727
    Level
    14
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    35

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    ^^ check, check, yup, yup, eh!

    We laid out what you need to do: exactly what your doing now, and escalate, and use a line, direct game, etc.

    Now go do it, and come back with a field report. Go get 'em tiger

  8. #8
    wildstorms's Avatar
    wildstorms is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 379, Level: 7
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 51.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    152
    Points
    379
    Level
    7
    Thanks
    10
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    24

    Default Re: Working my way out of the friendzone, critique my date!

    Thank you very much for all the replies guys. I dont think I was ever friendzoned either, this is more like husbandzoned LOL. But yeah i know what to do now, love you all and thanks! I'm going to stop doubting myself from now on.


Similar Threads

  1. Need help after a first date with this girl working at my gym
    By jouny in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 09-16-2013, 07:13 PM
  2. FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT
    By Ace24 in forum General Questions
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 09-03-2013, 02:30 AM
  3. 1 Week to the date, how do I avoid the FriendZone?
    By BetMunch in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 07-18-2013, 12:13 PM
  4. Second Date. How to proceed? Critique?
    By botas in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 04-02-2013, 12:33 PM
  5. First date, friendzone? Taking it slow?
    By RussellJ in forum Help Getting A Girlfriend
    Replies: 16
    Last Thread: 03-21-2013, 10:35 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com