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Thread: Bad Boy or Nice guy?

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    Default Bad Boy or Nice guy?

    Hey,

    Ive known for years girls arent attracted to the nice guy. The girl I was with last week though kept telling me shes looking for a nice guy. I think that was bullsh*t and that was part of her game..

    When a girl says she wants a nice guy, do we try to put on the act, or do we just be ourselves?

    Newbie question lol
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    Default Re: Bad Boy or Nice guy?

    The whole concept of a "Nice Guy" is kind of a misnomer. In PUA terms, it's basically a beta who doesn't challenge her or excite her in any way, a compliant 'yes man,' wants to play safe, tries to substitute good game by being 'nice' throwing money at her or buy her expensive shit, and the list goes on.

    You can still be a PUA and be nice to her by being courteous, showing chivalry. It doesn't mean be an asshole to her. The whole idea of "if you want to make a girl stick, treat her like mud" are for fvcked up girls with baggage who gravitate towards abusive men or women who are so insecure that they not getting that confident alpha from the men in their lives so they find the next closest thing - some big abusive asshole - and they only end up getting their asses kicked themselves.

    The whole bad boy image is just a personality and demeanor. For some guys, that is how they really are based on their upbringing and life experiences (such as a rebellious teen).

    If that is not you, then don't be that way because it won't be congruent to your inner game. If you have to put on an act, it is not true confidence. It just reinforces the belief that you are not good enough and you have to put on an act to prove yourself.

    So the bottom line is not to be yourself, BUT BE THE BEST OF YOU.

    Learning the venusian arts is all about making the best of what you already have. Bringing out your potential, developing your existing personality so you will be more confident and charismatic without overcompensating.

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    Default Re: Bad Boy or Nice guy?

    I can hardly build on the previous post. He has said it all and then some. I want to reiterate part of his post though.

    A nice guy is:
    a beta who doesn't challenge her or excite her in any way
    This is exactly what you don't want to be. Be challenging. Be dynamic.

    Keep practising and you'll see what works and what doesn't, and that's the only way. Try daring lines you read about in these forums first and eventually you will recite them not as read material but as a true version of your personality.

    Her: "I want a nice guy"
    You: "Oh, you definitely don't want me then. I'm the worst! You probably have a secret crush on bad boys though, right?"

    I think that would qualify as a push-pull technique. Try it out next time.
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    Default Re: Bad Boy or Nice guy?

    The guy above me pretty much nailed it.

    I will add though that you definitely should look into what he means by CONGRUENCE. A lot of pua's and just guys that are trying to get into game in general, over look the idea of finding your own congruence.

    In a nutshell, it's learning to be yourself, and not over compensating; An alignment in your thoughts, words and actions.. Never trying to be over-charismatic etc, and therefore not coming off fake or as a try-hard.

    What's important here is coming off as YOURSELF and showing that you are CONFIDENT in who that person is, above all else. So at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter if you are the "nice guy" or the "bad boy", as long as you are the fucking man, and you know what you want.

    Good luck to you.

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    Default Re: Bad Boy or Nice guy?

    (I was talking about I.M.Mortal's reply)


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