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    Default How to react to negative body language

    So I was out sarging the other night, everything was going alright. I think I'm still in the very early learning stages. Still working on opening and my routine, etc etc.

    Anyway, I do a little game called The Cube as part of my routine. For those of you unfamiliar with this, it's a personality test to perform on women (read chick crack). I usually face the girl across the table and take her hands in mine.

    I did it on two girls that night, the first responded really well I think (squeezing my hand back, maintaining eye contact, etc). Unfortunately the other one did not respond as well. Her body language was very negative (she kept complaining about my hands being sweaty and kept looking away throughout the entire routine).

    Funnily enough I was getting good IOIs from this girl before I launched into the routine (unsolicited touching, came back to our table after she went to the bathroom, maintaining eye-contact and laughing)

    What ended up happening was that I just finished up the routine like nothing happened. What I think I should have done was stopped it all-together, and just been like "You know what, you don't seem like you're diggin' this, I'll let you go". Pretty much I think I should have responded to her negative body language like a shit test.

    What do you guys think? How would you usually handle negative body language 1 on 1? How do you handle negative body language in a group situation?

    I'd love to get peoples thoughts on the situation, or how they've handled similar scenarios.

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    Default Re: How to react to negative body language

    You're response is acceptable. Sometimes I've called them out on it like - Why you so frustrated? Whats wrong chika? Try to cheer em up a little.

    Alternatively, you should understand the negative body language means she's not receptive to what you're saying. Perhaps you should calibrate your read then. Instead of just doing a blind interpretation, change how you're presenting it when she starts to shift that way, try to find what she would respond positively to.

    The cube is cute and I used it for a while, but most veterans use other things now, its kinda been over done. Don't stop if its working for you, but I would recommend searching for "cold reads" and try to find something a little simpler you can work with.
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    Default Re: How to react to negative body language

    Quote Originally Posted by The Red Baron View Post
    You're response is acceptable. Sometimes I've called them out on it like - Why you so frustrated? Whats wrong chika? Try to cheer em up a little.

    Alternatively, you should understand the negative body language means she's not receptive to what you're saying. Perhaps you should calibrate your read then. Instead of just doing a blind interpretation, change how you're presenting it when she starts to shift that way, try to find what she would respond positively to.

    The cube is cute and I used it for a while, but most veterans use other things now, its kinda been over done. Don't stop if its working for you, but I would recommend searching for "cold reads" and try to find something a little simpler you can work with.
    Agreed with Red Baron. You have to be careful with things like Canned Openers, NEGS, the Cube, and any typical PUA thing for that matter because it has been used so much. I've found that people who have seen Mystery's TV show know pretty much when they're talking to a pick-up artist.

    I would recommend innovating. Try something new; research and come up with a new way to pick up women. One thing I was doing, and that I had tested and seen work, is dancing. If you know how to do really good ballroom dancing (like cha-cha, swing, shuffle, foxtrot), then you are very likely to pickup anyone in a club or dance setting. When I was single, I offered to teach it to my targets, and we ended up having not only some great kino but some awesome fun as well.

    Everybody loves to be entertained. Learn how to entertain effectively, and you can pretty much get anyone.
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    Default Re: How to react to negative body language

    I always call negative body language out and then start copying it. It's hilarious to watch peoples' reactions. Honestly, once they realize that you're doing the same thing it makes them very uncomfortable and 9 times out of 10 they'll stop doing it.

    Getting someone to stop engaging in negative body language is half the battle. If they are more physically open they'll be more receptive to you in general.
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