i forgot to add this in my original post...but shes going to college in a town 30mins away. shes going to have to live there. the boyfriend is still in highschool but in august is moving 2 states away. im in college and can drive wherever i want when i want. shes moving there in April. i think shes worth the wait of 4 months. i mean dont get me wrong if another chick comes along ill definitely jump on it. however whats the best way for me to stay relevant in this girls life? text her once a week maybe?
A Maserati with someone else's keys in the ignition! Lolll :P
You may find you only want her so bad because she's taken, and you can't have her.. And when she finally does become single, you don't feel like you want her as much, and by that point, you will have wasted several months chasing this chick when you could have been banging 10-15 other girls.
One day I'm sure you will have a Maserati of your own my friend, and if someone comes along and tries to steal it everyday, you would have no right to get the least bit upset.
Just my 2 cents! But what do I know..
However.. If you really do want to stick it out for 4 months, it's gonna be tricky to keep her interested. Mind you, you've kept this going as long as you have with just texting, so who knows..
I would say play it like any other text game, pop up once in a while with something funny and light, but dont over do it and show too much interest and availability. She needs to get the sense that you are busy and doing other things, but that you are still intrigued by her at the same time. Maintaining attraction and interest over that period of time without a very strong foundation is tricky business, you'll need to handle it just right.
Also, if another chick does come along, don't hesitate to mention it... Don't bring it up but just slip it in there that you're hanging out with someone. It'll make her want you more. She should never know that you are waiting for her, or it's all over.
Lol I should add that I do make an exception if I know that the girl's bf is a complete douchebag, but it sounds like in your case you have never met him.
you're exactly right i have never met the boyfriend. in fact the ONLY time she ever brings him up is if i asked what she did that day for example if she was with him she'll mention him. do you think poping in once a week is too little? maybe twice a week couple days apart? ALSO, during this time of her slowing down with me not texting me as much, her activity on social networks such as twitter and facebook have slowed down immensly as well as his. the only social networks shes ever active on is instagram. and she is mildly active on facebook. she use to use twitter and facebook like crazy but stopped around the time she slowed down texting me. i dont think the boyfriend has caused this because he seems like hes really submissive and lets her have control of the relationship.
I find allot of women with boyfriends and women that are married are not content. They stay with the guy because they don't have the balls to end it. I've seen it SOO many times it's unbelievable.
I really have no advice for the poster. I've hooked up with a few women who had bf's but it happened right away. Not four months down the road. Judge me if you want, but if it wasn't me, it would be someone else and her relationship would have ended. It's not a priority of mine to do this...but when you get enough experience you just KNOW it will happen. Shit, I can talk to a couple for half an hour the FIRST time I meet them and know if it will last!
But hey two nine, I like your attitude. If your ever in MN let me know. If I'm in hockey land I'll do the same.
Bro, analysis paralysis, don't pay attention to her Facebook. Virtually none of that stuff matters. Konman is on his a-game with everything he's writing. It's just one girl. You are thinking way too much about the future. Game more girls then decide how special this one girl is.
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With all due respect to all posters on this thread... (And yes some of you did mention this in passing)
OP is clearly in friendzone. The way she is baiting him along little by little is probably because she is trying to be nice. A smiley here, a like there... There is no actual, tangible progress here. This girl is only 18. She probably is just starting to get herself together as far as keeping guys on a leesh. She may not even know why she wants iamchance around. She probably just loved the attentionof an older mature guy. But she's prob still banging the 17 year old (and she strongly suggests that 17y.o. can or has gotten other girls in the past so he may be a player).
Iamchance... All I see in your responses to her is teasing. No calling out her crap, no disqualifying, no strong flirting. You are trying to wait for her. So she has your power. Please go total no contact for a month at least. Yes a month at least. You are totally missing opportunities right now. I guarantee it.
And ps... Please guys don't ever say boyfriends are no win situations. Please. These boards are not places where we come to create MORE barriers for other guys. There is a ton of info here as to why a boyfriend is no big deal. But when we start saying a BF is an obstacle the original poster will only get that part. Not the actual reasons why it is an obstacle in particular circumstances. So do them a favor and don't mention this as a complete obstacle. IT NEVER IS.
It may take longer to get a girl who already has a guy or you may need to go no contact awhile but it's not an obstacle
Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
if I go no contact for a month and she gets ahold of me within that time, what should I do? remember this is a girl that doesn't have many friends and will not hang with guys for fear of the boyfriend being with girls. which on her part is irrational because I strongly do not believe the boyfriend is a player.
Don't talk to her. I agree with Lockdown, she's got you on a hook and honestly it doesn't look like you want to get off or else you would've stop acting like you NEED this girl in your life or you're going to die. Afte a month of not being in contact with her and she doesn't contact you that's her loss but if she does then play it cool, don't go teasing or letting her lead you. If she's interested she'll try to get you and if she's not then it's her loss again. But I promise you if you listen to this little advice you wil get over that needy bull crap attitude.
You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!