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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    I respect all you're guys opinions and I appreciate your help. I think what I do need to do is dotheone month no contact. it will give me the answer I need. And if she does contact me I'llpayit cool and maybe slightly disinterested in her effort to contact me. And if it ends up being a month and I haven't heard from her I guess I'll know.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Sorry I forgot to mention that...

    If she contacts you, be very cordial and funny and cute... Whatever you would normally be. BUT don't brush her off. She will think you are an emotional AFC. Just say you're busy. Don't tell her what or why. Tease her for being all up in your business lol. The trick is stay busy. Be busy with school, other girls, work whatever. But don't give her your time. It will feel sucky for you to not get attention but trust me, it will be fine. Especially if you game other girls in the meantime. Don't be mad at her just give her time to miss you.

    Usually with this type of girl, I give it a month. Usually they will text u by then. Be busy like I said. And if she responds before the month ends, be busy and say we will get together soon. Then finally after a month (if you still care about her lol) text her to go to the mall or something while you do something else. Tell her you haven't hung out in awhile so she can join u on whateveractivity. Stay with her a couple hours and depending on your goal, leave to do something else (have something concrete to go to). You must not be as available as before in order to get your power back. If u want to f close, try to go for it at this meetup and stay longer with her. If it's not possible, end it at around two hours.
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    thanks lockdown. i really appreciate it! if i wouldnt have asked you guys for some advice i probably would have dug myself a hole. awesome advice from everyone. ill post if she contacts me and let you guys know whats going on. today is day 5 of no contact, 25 to go.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    well gentleman, she lasted 5 days. I was about to go to sleep and then heard my phone and it was her. She greeted me with a " hey!" and then She asked me what was up and I told her I just got home from work and she then asked how work was. there's a little more then that but that's the jist. I did tell her a funny story of something that happend at college. when I asked what she did today out of respect of her asking how my day was, she did say she just got home from her boyfriends I then pretty much ignored that and told her the story. it was pretty solid. She wanted to know how I was doing and how work was. I see this as good because she hasn't contacted me to actually talk in a month, I've done the initiating. so maybe she's coming out of a boyfriend indulgent phase? I don't know. what should my next move be? I was more then ready to go 30 days, she lasted 5.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    It may take longer to get a girl who already has a guy or you may need to go no contact awhile but it's not an obstacle
    It may take longer, or you may need to go no contact, but it's not an obstacle? I do believe in your own disagreement, that you just agreed it is an obstacle.

    I respect what you're saying though, as a concept. I'm not saying NEVER bother with a girl who has a boyfriend, I'm simply trying to say that there are no shortage of single chicks that are looking to hook up with an awesome guy, and that it's a much easier road to take than the one iamchance has decided to follow.

    Direct: You made some great points..

    You got it bro, I will definitely let you know!

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    @iamchance... Nothing has changed as far as I am concerned. Still give it a month. I think telling her a story was ok but the main goal of no contact is to build mystery. If she contacts you, and u tell her what u did and why you didn't call, the effect is lost. You are still available whenever she needs u. How u responded would be ok if you had some kind of personal contact with her on a regular basis (ex. A girl sees u at work everyday and texts you every day. You stop texting so she can only really talk to you when she sees you. She now has less chance to contact you because you took away one option for her). Since this girl only texts you, you have to be a little more extreme in cutting her off. Don't get back to her right away. Don't tell her a ton of info about your day. If you have any story, any at all involving other women just mention it in a funny passingway. You have to plant the seeds that you're busy, that you're not as avail as before. And please don't text anything that is outright mean. Nothing like. Can't talk busy or go a way. Being yourself is ok as long as you're not responding as soon as she does.

    Again, the month thing has not changed. You should stillbe off limits to her for the rest of the thirty days.


    @29... Wasn't trying to single people out but since you responded... A lot of guys have inner game issues (which I feel I'm good at. (Trust me, I had to read a ton of material to change my mindset). A lot of us look at any reason to not speak to a woman that we create. Once, I had an afc friend tell me he couldn't talk to a girl becuae the guy with her looked like her Bf. Then when I threw that logic out the window, he said she looked to young. After I overcame this hurdle for him he finally decided she's not even that cute. He basically gave three good reasons not to talk to the girl.

    Now many posters have similar issues. So I take care not to use a certain line of thinking/speaking when posting. Obstacle is a word that must be used sparingly (I'm generalizing what I read on this thread). By even saying that, guys will compound their already negative thinking. Also saying don't waste you're time you are reinforcing their Afc behaviors. Creating any type of barriers is not good for anyone trying out PU.

    Oh and my comment about taking longer does not contradict my previous statement. A farmer knows that he can't harvest tomorrow if he planted today. It takes awhile. It's not an obstacle but part of the natural process of that line of work. An obstacle is if it rains to hard and kills his crops or whatever. Unexpected events that he has no control over. A BF is a very common occurrence that goes with the territory. Girls often say they have Bf even if they just like a guy who they are friends with. We don't know every posters' girls boyfriend status so I feel it's better to just act like the poster has a chance.

    I totally agree that you shouldn't waste all your time chasing a girl if you have evidence that she and the BF have a strong relationship, but again if you have evidence. And imo even if your Bf destroying like crazy and it's working... Gaming other girls is always something you must do. Always. It's supposed to be a given.
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Thanks lockdown, she usually text me late at night around 11pm-2am. and its almost ALWAYS a greeting such as "hi, hey, or whats up".usually never a statement or anytihng. im usually awake around then so should i just starting waiting till the next day to get back to her? also if she mentions something like "just got home from (boyfriends name)" how should i respond to that in a manner that doesnt come off offensive? she barely ever mentions him and only does if i ask what she did that day or what shes up to. usually i just change the subject right away but is there a better way to do that? as always thanks for the help.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    It's called a BF destroyer. It's on this site. Look it up. You need to do that. The thread is by Xavier.
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    gentlemen we have our first sign of success. She texted me a couple days ago and that went alright. now two days later she texted me again and was talking normal and randomly out of know where she says "I miss you" and then disappears. She was rapid fire texting me and then said that and was gone. I think that's pretty substantial. should I continue the month?

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    In my opinion that's just her natural reaction to the fact that she isn't hearing from you. She could just mean she misses you as a friend, know what I mean?

    Continue with the month thing, it's good advice and it's working I think.


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