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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    EDIT: at 2am she blows up my phone. with this

    hey
    hey
    hey
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    i tried to sleep but its not working..
    hhhhh
    eeeee
    wake youre booty up
    id appreciate it

    she sent me about 55 messages after that (yes 55) all rapid fire trying to get me to wake up. which it did wake me up. basically all begging me to talk to her....cause she was bored and couldnt sleep. I didnt give in and talk her back to sleep. i ignored all 55 text messages.....i mean its cute. did i approach that right? lol. shes done this before but it was AWHILE ago. the last text she sends me is "omg are you farking hibernating or something" whats you're opinion on this also? hahaha. i felt like a d1ck but that might have been the AFC in me talking. normally i would have woke up and talked to her, but this time i didnt.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    You said she moves very slow so def continue.

    Your going AFC and contacting her twice is ok as long as you give it another day or so. Continue to drop hints that you want to see her like I said in previous post.

    If you think she is showing more interest you can up your interest. A little bit!

    And please don't talk bad about BF destroyer. That's my bro! We had sooo many adventures together it's not funny lol!
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Alright so I've been having some success with this girl and have been making small positives strides. she is more active in the conversations. she's bringing up old conversations we've had because she's seen stuff that reminds her of the topic. ect...ect.. it's good. in fact at 130am I get a random text from her talking about how something she saw reminded her of a conversation we had like 2 months ago.

    however, I've never been able to handle it well when she post pictures of her and her boyfriend and captions "i love this boy" and shit. she doesn't do it often but when she does it stings. how should I handle it? WhenI see it, it just brings down the mood. what should I take from it? should I ignore it? I guess what I feel when I see her post a picture of him and her I feel like it's regression. even though that same night she text me @ 130am about the thing that reminded her of our conversation months ago that even I didn't remember really.

    I'm not friend zoned. she doesn't discuss her relationship with me. she doesn't talk about other guys. she doesn't use any type of reference to me such as " brother".....or anything like that. yet she still seems very interested. everytime we talk she always wants to know whats up. and I don't say anything that would really pump her ego up. as far as I'm concerned the only difference between me and the boyfriend is that he's with her everyday.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    At this point, you have to stop trying to make it work out. Each time you describe your conversations, I see a little more about her. I'm thinking you're being played. I actually was thinking it for awhile but being as I cant be there in real life, I gave it the benefit of the doubt.

    But now it's becoming pretty clear. And I also believe thay you are waay way more invested in her than you let on. That is not not good at all. In fact, that's the main reason I think you need drastic action.

    For the next week freeze out literally. Be not available. I mean literally just right back to her hey sorry but I'm busy. I will txt later. After the week reinitiate. But you have to start upping the seduction and dirty talk. No friendly bullcrap. Just up the seduction. And if you can, do it over the phone. Tell her you want to talk to her because you haven't in a long time. Her reactions should tell you a lot. Ask for the meetup.

    If she doesnt then my final suggestion is bail out. Move on. She either likes the attention you give her or doesnt know what she wants. You have built up enough tim.e with her already that there is a chance in the future she may be more open to dating you but you can't hang around worrying about her until then.

    Personally, if she says no to a meet up I would totally neg her saying "so we're friends enough that we text a lot but we can't hang out? You are pretty weird lol."

    Do not go overboard with getting angry and stuff. Just be of the mind that she is your FRIEND and that she is not a very good one.

    If she brings up the BF. Tell her you understand now... You know that she wants you badly. Tell her it's ok, it happens to most girls you know. And then follow along the line that you don't see her like that.

    This is all a set up for later. If you have some kind of breakthrough with her... I doubt it... You can continue right there. But if not, you can reengage later. In this case, leave on good terms. Don't be like I do t want to talk again to you. Just leave it be. AND MOVE ON. Perhaps you may feel like contacting her after a few months or maybe she will but leave her for now.

    I really have nothing else to offer. After all that I have said, you have to figure the rest out for yourself. If you fail, you learn. Sorry because it can be rough. But it will be ok in the end. Hope it goes well! Post a follow up if she says ok to meet or no.
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    I've been following along and I really do agree with everything LockDown has told you, you've gotten some incredibly spot on advice here I think, and for the most part you've done well.

    You are clearly extremely invested in this girl, to the point of obsession perhaps, and I suspected that from the start. It's okay, we've all been there.. It doesn't mean you're some crazy stalker, and it's perfectly natural. Like I said from the start though, that is a hell of a lot of time and effort to put into a girl that seems to be such a long shot.. She has a serious, live in boyfriend. She lives far away. You never see her etc etc.

    You need to do as LockDown has said, and have a positive and confident approach and mind set to it, but you also have to be willing to accept defeat and move on. If it doesn't work out YOU WILL BE FINE. You've invested enough into this, don't waste time moaning about it if you end up having to bail out. You'll meet an even better girl that isn't just interested in pulling on your heart strings and begging for your attention, girls can be really shitty man, be above it and stay there. And if it works out, you'll feel like a million bucks! You can't lose here

    Good luck to you! LockDown is a genius, follow that shit to the letter my friend.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    you guys are both right. I think what I'll do is just stay relevant. she's initiated conversations 3 days in a row and has initiated the entire month. so there's interest somewhere, idk what type of interest but it's there. we'll see what happens fellas. I don't feed here attention or call her beautiful every 5secs. so I've left a foot print somewhere.

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    God...i didnt want to come back to this thread but something has happend.

    i'm still in contact with this girl we talk a couple times a week. i still havent hanged out with her. still havent seen her since she quit. but we still talk.

    My problem is this.....shes 18 and cant buy alchohol...i'm 22. i get a text and she ask if id buy vodka for her and her friends since there other buyer gave LMR. soon as i got this text it instantly pissed me off i havent replied.

    She followed up the text with "dont feel bad if you dont want to lol. I understand".....that pissed me off even more. cause honestly i wouldnt feel bad I have no problem at all telling any chick "NO".

    What bothers me is I havent seen her in months and the one time we do anything out of work she wants to do a alchohol run for her and her girlfriends. how farking lame.

    How should i move forward? should i just not reply? cause right now im just so turned off. Is there anything i could say besides no? to kind of give the message that im pissed? This really caught me off guard I really didnt want to bring this thread back guys but i need guidance on this.

    EDIT: As of right now i just replied "No."

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Quote Originally Posted by iamchance View Post
    .....that pissed me off even more. cause honestly i wouldnt feel bad I have no problem at all telling any chick "NO".
    Now's your chance to prove it.

    This has gone on way too long and now she's using you to buy her alcohol. You wanna show her you're pissed? That she's gotten under your skin? Why? Don't give her the satisfaction..

    Stop talking to her all together. I've been here before and I'm telling you right now it was the best decision I could have made. She texts you, don't reply. She calls, don't answer.. etc. You wanna send her a message? This is the only way to do it. Do it for yourself so that you can at least walk away with your dignity and some pride.

    Walk away bro.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    it turns out it was her and her other friend. so I think she actually wanted to hang out. I think she was using the alcohol as an exscuse to see me cause she'd feel guilty just saying " come over". Besides she doesn't even drink. I wrote that post without really thinking about the situation. all in all it was a ploy so she could hang with me without feeling guilty about it because of the boyfriend.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Gentleman, she has officially broke up with her boyfriend as of tonight. Over the past week anything i would post on facebook she would like and comment on which was very odd she never did that before so i knew something was up.

    How should i move forward? im 80% sure SHE broke up with him, so i believe i have that in my favor. we havent talked in a few days but over these few days she has liked/ commented on my statuses like i said. right now she has got all her friends blowing up her phone ect...

    So how should i move forward intelligently? I was thinking maybe wait for her to come to me. Or maybe initiate in a couple days just general convo? i'm not sure


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