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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    "General convo" mode will bore her to death... and some other guy will swoop in & snag her, while you're being too timid.

    If she's making an effort on FB to like & comment on your posts, then there's a a decent chance that she's hinting for you to make a move.

    So don't wuss out & be all "nice guy" & bore her with fluffy conversations. Start flirting & building attraction.





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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    She just got out of a long and serious relationship, so she is absolutely not looking to jump into anything serious right now. If you want to be just a rebound you could try building some comfort with her. Talk about her past relationship and sympathize with her etc.

    I don't think this is what you are looking for with this girl though. We've talked alot about this in the past, you clearly aren't looking to just be some sort of sexual rebound for this girl.

    Right now, in your situation, I would step back. Send the odd text so that she doesn't forget about you, and so that she knows you are there. Be supportive. Tease her a bit, let her know that you are there for her.. Be flirty and engaging, but don't make a move.. It's too early. Give it a while before you actually try to swoop in, she's gonna need some time, unless you want to be just be a rebound.

    This goes back to everything I talked about much earlier in this situation. You're going to need to wait it out a bit. If she is actually single now, then congrats, you are closer to your goal. don't fuck this up by getting anxious and pushing too early.

    Be there for her if need be. Tell her it will all be okay. Flirt when the opportunity arises. Tease her in the same respect. Don't rush into meeting up and trying to be her new man. It's going to take some time before she is even going to consider romances with other people.

    Don't be overly available. Now is the time to take everything you've learned about attraction and put it into place. You are not in any rush, don't forget that.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    thanks so much gentleman. and twentynine you're right, I have absolutely no interest in being a rebound. I'm going to see how the next few days play out and see how I should go about this. I've been initiating once or twice a week for a couple months now. so I'll talk to her Thursday maybe.

    however, should I even acknowledge the breakup or just try to get her laughing the next time we talk?

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    It depends. How did you even find out about the breakup? Is it just a hunch?

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    it was on Facebook. all her friends where commenting on it and her best friend was basicallysoakingfor her but the girl was liking all the bestfriends comments. so they are broke up. I could tell it was coming for about two months because she wasn't with him as much and my buddy was saying that he's been retweeting depressing stuff for awhile.


    so that's what I know. have to remember that earlier in the thread I said he was moving two states away for school in June or August. so that could have contributed to this.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Don't mention the break up. Let me repeat that: DO NOT mention the break up. Act exactly the same as you normally would as if nothing ever happened. Let her bring it up, if she does it's a good thing. Don't belittle the ex boyfriend or try to justify the break up. Don't let her go on and on about it, when she mentions the situation show that you care and tell her you're sorry to hear it. Remember that your role is not as a shoulder to cry on, but rather as someone who can make her feel better by being funny and taking her mind off of it. If she goes on and on about it change the subject.

    Like I said though, hang back a bit. Don't give in to the urge to try to swoop in now that she's single. She's gonna need a while before she is ready to be in any sort of romantic situation with anyone else, and rather than being the guy that jumped the gun too early and ruined his chances, you wanna be the guy who was there with open arms when she was ready. Play it cool for now.

    Take my advice on this...

    You owe me a beer.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    you're exactly right man. I'll let you know how things progress from here. and yeah hahahai definitely owe you and everyone else a beer... or 6. if I don't hear from her by Thursday I'll shoot her a text and try to get her smiling. thanks again

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Alright guys so shits kind of confusing at the moment.

    First, She seems completely fine. She's acting normal/happy/fine on social networks ect...

    Secound, I texted her last night just a funny picture with an inside joke caption. it was funny. no reply. So i decided to go AFC about an hour ago and send her another text. no reply.

    Third, I dont think shes on the rebound. she seems over him. kind of like its been coming but she was waiting for him to give her a reason to leave.

    Now heres my major issue. the bestfriend is trying to play matchmaker already. me and her have NO mutual friends. infact the bestfriend already has a guy shes trying to line up.

    Im lost on how to move forward. this sucks. my confidence is low, because i dont know where i stand right now. pretty bummed. The only reason i can think of why she'd ignore my texts is because she knows im interested? like i said prior to her breakup (about 3 days before) she was pretty much commenting and liking anything i posted....so now she breaks up and completely ignores me? BUT continues doing normal stuff......not grieving or anything....

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    I've been following this thread kind of to see how it turns out,to be honest I feel like you haven't listened to what 29 and LockDown have been trying to tell you,they told you to freeze her out,you did half of it,they told you not to spill the beans when you're freezing her out - you did just that,they told you TO HAVE FUN while you're freezing her out....and you didn't.

    You're friendzoned,you're like a pet to her at this point,I have a cat at home and whenever I feel bad or I just want to feel something furry in my hands I go to it and it will always be available to me and will always give me attention.This is what you are to her at this point,she bothers you when she can't sleep,she bothers you when she feels like shit,she bothers you when she wants attention...and you are always available,you're no challenge to her.She even thinks you will feel bad if you couldn't buy her drinks = think about it for a moment,she asks you for a favor,yet she thinks you should feel bad for not being able to do it ?You have no value in her eyes unfortunately.

    I might sound like a jackass,but this is what it looks like to me,in my opinion the only way for you to have a chance with this girl is MOVE ON,you should game other girls with every intention of moving on,you should FRIENDZONE HER and send her pics with you hooking up with other girls,this is the only solution in my opinion,and while you game other girls,she will try to approach you and try to get you back(but not as a bf,she will want her puppy back - that's the nature of women),but this time you will reject her,you keep in touch with her like she did with you,and only after that you wait a period of time and then make a move with confidence and with an approach of a king whom she can't say no.

    This looks like a hard thing to pull and to be honest it looks much better on paper,but this is the only way at this point,don't text her for a while and don't respond to her(Don't wait it out,you're not freezing her,you're going to have fun and forget about her).Then after a couple of weeks you get back to her with pics of you having a blast with friends and more importantly girl-friends.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    no no no. i did follow the advice. all my post on her have been stretched since December when i started this. reading all the replies in order kind of makes it look that way. there was an entire month where things where really good it was after i froze her out and pretty much up until her break up things have been decent.

    Its only recently, (her break up a few days ago) that shes been acting weird. she doesnt only come to me when she needs something, that was the first time and it was because her friends pressured her into it. she doesnt drink. infact shes never asked for anything from me.


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