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    Default Why is she acting this way

    me and a girl started working together in June. she asked for my number. we would text nearly everyday up until November. she has had a boyfriend the entire time. she will not hangout with guys because she said she is afraid that if she does he will hangout with girls. up until November first she was doing 70% to 80% of the text initiating (saying hi). now as of December 4th she hasnt initiated however if i text her she'll talk. i called her out and asked why she doesnt talk anymore she said "im just busy with my boyfriend". shes 18 and he's 17 and im 22. the boyfriend is a senior in highschool and shes graduated. I really want this chick. also as of November first she hasnt really been active on Facebook she use to always be really active on facebook and twitter but now is just mildy active on Instagram. i dont think the boyfriend is telling her to stop anything cause he's known about me since the day me and her started talking. any insight would be helpful. id atleast like to stay active in her life for when they do breakup.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    she likes you. just tell her she can go on a date with you and do whatever u want.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    we would text nearly everyday up until November
    Don't be this chicks emotional escape from the relationship.

    She might not be getting attention from him and you're giving it to her. Unfortunately you're not getting anything in return. This is NOT how texting works. Anything could of went wrong there. You may have been responding too quickly, or failing to amp up the tension. I would suggest reading material on texting in this forum (read the stickies).

    Use your personal interaction to an advantage. Lots of kino would've worked there. She showed immense attraction to ask for your number. By touching her, you'd be giving her a taste of what's to come. If you're still working with the girl, do it and see how she responds. Come up behind her and touch her arm "Hey you're working tonight?". If she's challenging you or being sassy/flirty pinch her arm very lightly.

    i called her out and asked why she doesnt talk anymore
    This is needy on your part. Don't do this. Clearly it's just her lack of interest. You need to find a way to escalate again. Be spontaneous say "OMG you'll never guess what just happened" wait for a response, then reference something you saw that reminds you of a fun time you two had at work.

    This would be a little better:

    U "You must've been in jail last week"
    Her "Why?"
    U "You stopped texting so I thought I'd have to come bail you out."

    Get her our for coffee after work. Don't mention the boyfriend. He doesn't exist in your mind. Although if she's mentioning him, it's a bad sign.

    For whatever reason, she's getting disinterest. Think about some tendencies you have to put her on a pedestal or be needy and try to figure out how you can make yourself be the prize.
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    She actually quit work a few months ago. for 2 months after she quit me and her where pretty much still talking everyday. and ive tried the entire time we've been talking to set up some out of work meet up. however she says she would love to but is afraid her boyfriend would start hanging out with girls. whats weird is yesterday she liked one of my personal pictures of myself on instagram even though we havent really texted. in fact the day before that, i texted her to see what she was up to and never got a reply. so its confusing me at this point. its actually unexplainable for her disappearance. what do you guys think of me just stopping trying to get ahold of her till she gets ahold of me? i mean her liking my picture on instagram after days of not talking could be a small IOI correct? her and her boyfriend have been together 8 months as of yesterday. shes 18 and he's 17. the lovey dovey "luvu4ever" bull should start coming to an end soon?

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    So you messaged her, then she liked your post without responding to your message? She's playing a bit of a game here.

    Maybe she's still interested but the best thing to do right now is go into no-contact for a week. What's the longest you haven't messaged? If it's less than a week, do at least a week. Absence makes the heart grow fond. She might start to miss you and rekindle some interest for you.

    You're young and maybe inexperienced, so this may be lost on you, but there are many fish in the sea. Trust me. You may not have luck now, but starting to read about PUA this early in your life will go a long way.

    Make sure you learn something from this experience. Texting for a month without hanging out with her privately isn't a good idea. You need to get a meet-up next time, or if she's not willing then put her on the back-burner until she changes her mind. Use your time at work to game her more efficiently next time. Gaming girls at work is some of the easiest and best practise you can have.
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    yeah exactly man. i texted her tuesday just to check up on her and she never replied but was on facebook. so i never sent a second text i basically went on with my day. then the next day she liked a picture of me on instagram. the longest me and her have gone without talking is 4 days. today will be day 4 of no contact if i dont hear from her tonight. the last time we talked which was Dec 2nd i asked how she was feeling because she was severly sick for a couple months. she told me she was feeling okish and that i was "the only person to ask how she was feeling in forever. thank you!". i then said that i always wonder how she is feeling and she sent me a "<3" which the entire time ive known this chick (6months) ive never got the "<3". so i dunno might have been slightly needy saying that.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    i then said that i always wonder how she is feeling and she sent me a "<3" which the entire time ive known this chick (6months) ive never got the "<3". so i dunno might have been slightly needy saying that..
    Telling her that you always wonder about her is a sure fire way to get into the friend zone. I think you should take some time and do more reading/video watching on the subject.
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    so as for right now i need to stay under the radar for a week and see what happens? i dont think im in the friend zone currently. i think not hanging out with her has made that hard to avoid but i dont think im in it because i try to always keep things flirty when we do talk. for example we havent talked that much the past couple weeks but we where talking one night and she was telling me how she was in bed with her giant stuffed animals and i told her that im going to come to ehr house and swan dive into her bed. i told her she better not be a snorer and she said she wasnt but is a blanket hog. so thats a small example of how im trying to keep it on thin line of friend and potential mate. if i am in the friendzone i think im very lightly in it.

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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    Haha, nice line. Sounds good man. Couldn't tell you why she's falling off the radar except for the fact that you haven't set a time for you to meet.

    She may have resistance, but you can always go around it. Say "He won't mind, it's just us going for a coffee. I'm bored, lets go."
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    Default Re: Why is she acting this way

    I have an idea.. Replace her with a girl who doesn't have the added HUGE OBSTACLE OF A BOYFRIEND. I've never understood why guys bother with this shit. It's like trying to steal a porcshe that's under 6 feet of snow when there's a perfectly good unlocked lamborghini right next to it.


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