Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 10 of 10
Like Tree1Likes
  • 1 Post By LockDown

Thread: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

  1. #1
    Vidar is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 255, Level: 5
    Level completed: 10%, Points required for next Level: 45
    Overall activity: 30.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2013
    Location
    Liverpool, UK
    Posts
    49
    Points
    255
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Rep Power
    15

    Default Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    So I've been using the boyfriend destroyer as by what Xavier suggests and am a bit stuck, the conversation hasn't progressed as I'd expected and am looking on how to proceed... also any feed back on how I've done so far would be appreciated.

    Conversation so far...

    ME: "So does your boyfriend not mind you making new male friends via a dating site?

    I've got to admit I'm pretty curious as you've not mentioned him at all since we've been chatting, I take it you guys must have been together a while since you're living together, he must be awesome. I'm guessing he's like 6ft, alternative, y'know the most perfect guy in the world? haha"

    HER: "Hi, been sleeping most of the day lol. I thought this was a social site not dating site. Don't you have to pay for dating sites? lol what are you curious about? We've been together 10yrs, own a house together and have 2 cats & a dog. He's 5'9 into the same music etc as me very handsome & a good guy"

    ME: "You light weight and no not all of them need paying for... Haha he sounds perfect hehe you sound really happy to"

    HER: "Nobody's perfect but he does make me happy"

    ME: "Speak for yourself haha, you're probably way to hard on him all you women are hehe, to their partners I mean"

    HER: "Speaking from experience by any chance? lol"

    ME: "Not at all, I've always believed when you're with someone you show them how much you care you don't just tell them... but I've heard a lot of my friends grumble about it in the past. haha "





    So what do you guys think? Oh and please I don't need comments on how objectionable this is, this girl is incredible and I know if she wasn't already attached she'd be open to dating me.

  2. #2
    LockDown's Avatar
    LockDown is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 7,026, Level: 55
    Level completed: 38%, Points required for next Level: 124
    Overall activity: 17.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    873
    Points
    7,026
    Level
    55
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    332

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    Ok first off ... Way way WAY too many lol haha hehe on your end. Stop it. Those things relieve tension. Use them sparingly. Every post you did has that.

    Also your posts are way longer than hers. U should not need to be explaining yourself. She has u on the defensive it seems. Read more about passing tests on the forum.

    And no offense, I say all the time that a boyfriend is not aproblem... But she's with him 10 Years? House and stuff? Um dude there is a way to pull this out so u get her but seriously, why waste your time? There are sooo many girls out there. She has so much invested in him that it will be hard for her to let go. I'm just saying u may want to use your time in other pursuits.

    Btw she said this is not a dating site just a social site so u are probably in the friend zone. And u didn't really say anything to challenge that. Plus, have u even met her in person? Cuz if u haven't then that's a problem.

    Edit... Forgot. She said he is not perfect. U were supposed to follow that line of thought. U totally dropped the ball. Bf destroyer works off that topic of "he is not perfect."
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


  3. #3
    Vidar is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 255, Level: 5
    Level completed: 10%, Points required for next Level: 45
    Overall activity: 30.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2013
    Location
    Liverpool, UK
    Posts
    49
    Points
    255
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Rep Power
    15

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    Thanks for the response Lockdown, you've made some really valid points actually and I know you're right, I mean I really like this girl, more than any of the others I've got seemingly hooked...

    It's not something I'm overly comfortable with to be honest, maybe under different circumstances but actually breaking up a home is a bit much for me.

  4. #4
    xavier's Avatar
    xavier is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 15,104, Level: 79
    Level completed: 51%, Points required for next Level: 246
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social31 days registered10000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    Paris, France
    Posts
    1,120
    Points
    15,104
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts
    Rep Power
    667

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    ME: "So does your boyfriend not mind you making new male friends via a dating site?

    I've got to admit I'm pretty curious as you've not mentioned him at all since we've been chatting, I take it you guys must have been together a while since you're living together, he must be awesome. I'm guessing he's like 6ft, alternative, y'know the most perfect guy in the world? haha"
    Perfect
    ME: "Speak for yourself haha, you're probably way to hard on him all you women are hehe, to their partners I mean"
    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OOOOO! why did you ruin it? she gave you an opening!!!!!
    Edit: I didn't notice you haven't met this girl live yet. This is going to be so hard! Listen to lockdown's advice on texting he's right.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

  5. #5
    LockDown's Avatar
    LockDown is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 7,026, Level: 55
    Level completed: 38%, Points required for next Level: 124
    Overall activity: 17.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    873
    Points
    7,026
    Level
    55
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    332

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    The X Man Returns!

    Lol sorry to hijack you're thread X. Didn't know if you were going to answer. U ever finish that book ???
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


  6. #6
    xavier's Avatar
    xavier is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 15,104, Level: 79
    Level completed: 51%, Points required for next Level: 246
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social31 days registered10000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    Paris, France
    Posts
    1,120
    Points
    15,104
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts
    Rep Power
    667

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    It's alright man . No, I'm kind of focusing on uni now, it's a very tough semester. You'll be one of the first to read it I promise.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

  7. #7
    Vidar is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 255, Level: 5
    Level completed: 10%, Points required for next Level: 45
    Overall activity: 30.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered250 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Dec 2013
    Location
    Liverpool, UK
    Posts
    49
    Points
    255
    Level
    5
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
    Rep Power
    15

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    Thanks guys for taking the time.... Well its well and truly borked I think, can't say am that cut up about it to be honest... when it comes down to it the thought of possibly breaking up a couple who've been in it together that long just wouldn't sit right...

    But at the time I didn't mean to ruin it, haha I thought I was not to put the other guy down but sort of devalue him by pumping him up.... this stuff is so hard to wrap my head around...

  8. #8
    metalmulisha is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 244, Level: 4
    Level completed: 88%, Points required for next Level: 6
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Location
    brooklyn,new york
    Posts
    108
    Points
    244
    Level
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    18

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    you should look up 'zebra method bf destroyer technique' its powerful stuff.

  9. #9
    LockDown's Avatar
    LockDown is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 7,026, Level: 55
    Level completed: 38%, Points required for next Level: 124
    Overall activity: 17.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    873
    Points
    7,026
    Level
    55
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    332

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    Don't worry Vidar. You will get better as time goes on. Keep talking to her just to practice your game. You already have some comfort with her so you never know what could happen after a freeze out. Give it like two weeks before u contact her again. Then ramp up the seduction and attraction. You never ever know what's going on in her relationship. She may be the type that will have a one off fark and not tell him. Or she may just he friendly.

    But as I always say," AN IOI IS AN IOI IS AN IOI." if she really didn't want to talk to you she wouldn't. Just don't focus all your energy on her.
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


  10. #10
    xavier's Avatar
    xavier is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 15,104, Level: 79
    Level completed: 51%, Points required for next Level: 246
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social31 days registered10000 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    Location
    Paris, France
    Posts
    1,120
    Points
    15,104
    Level
    79
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts
    Rep Power
    667

    Default Re: Boyfriend destroyer technique, how should I proceed?

    He can't do the zebra method he's still a newb. I have a method like the zebra method that works for newbs too bad you have to wait until my book comes out.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.


Similar Threads

  1. BF Destroyer Technique
    By xavier in forum Isolating And Pulling
    Replies: 112
    Last Thread: 12-20-2016, 10:48 AM
  2. Using the Boyfriend Destroyer technique to get my ex back?
    By ImThatGuy in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 08-18-2014, 03:08 AM
  3. Bf destroyer technique?
    By tru3demon in forum General Questions
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 08-17-2013, 08:29 AM
  4. Help with boyfriend destroyer
    By DennisBear in forum General Questions
    Replies: 0
    Last Thread: 12-01-2012, 07:41 PM
  5. Boyfriend Destroyer Counters To Try
    By Sam in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 01-27-2009, 10:44 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com