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Thread: Need advice!

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    Default Need advice!

    Okay so I recently posted about a girl I was trying to get... And really I got "date other people then go back" so I went on a date with a girl I know. It went good but I got a few things from her that I don't know how to really read.

    For example( during dinner) she said" I have a bad disconnection issue!!" I asked what that meant, she said " well for example I could be with you one week and if I get bored be with another person the next... I don't like sticking around if I am bored... I really need to change that" I then made up a story of a girl I was dating that when I broke it off she started stoking me. And that it would be way easier for both of us if when one of us got bored we walked!

    Another thing she said was " I asked her about a friend of mine, and if they were ever together." Her words " hell no I never would touch that' you don't have to worry we were never together!" ( kinda seems like she was trying to justify herself to me.)

    And then we connected about being made fun of in high school and the issues that brung. And how she is a daddy's girl, doesn't like her mom.

    So long story short she doesn't like needy people, if she gets bored she leaves, and she seems to have trust issues with people. I don't really know how to play this one out. After dinner I told her we should go play putt putt, and she said she would see what her schedual looked like( for the day we choice).

    Then we the day came she flaked..
    Her-"can't make it, sorry"
    Me-" cool, I found someone to go with, talk to you later" and left it at that.


    Do you think I am right in playing it that way??

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    Default Re: Need advice!

    Not a good play. Don't think too far into virtually anything a woman claims she wants. She is usually wrong.

    Instead of inventing a story, just nod and say "Cool." You chose to qualify.

    My guess is you didn't escalate. She'd rather get banged than play putt putt. She pretty much told you that at dinner (Also, never go to dinner. Maybe after sex, but that's the only situation if you want to start a special relationship with her)

    She said she goes from guy to guy with the wind. AKA "Sleep with me now or forever hold your peace"

    Still have a shot with her, but not escalating set you back

    Good luck!
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    Default Re: Need advice!

    Okay so then second question, what the heck do I do now? I mean it is obviouse that she is in to sex and not dating, how the hell do you F-Close that. Is it even possible to get a Friend to be a FWB??

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    Default Re: Need advice!

    What do you want from this girl??
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Need advice!

    Just because she says she is into sex doesn't mean she actually is. Talk is cheap. Actions are all that matter. Girls talk to see how you'll react. FWB clomes from sex. Get sex and the rest falls into place. Usually, you will not need to define the relationship at all
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    Default Re: Need advice!

    First mistake ... "I made up"

    Never lie. Trust me. It's gets you off on the wrong foot.

    Second... She gets bored... She is testing you. Women never say exactly what they mean. They go around the issue and say things in a roundabout way. She basically said she gets bored blah blah so that tells me she doesn't want anything serious with you. Sex yes most likely but nothing serious. She probably doesn't know how you would take the sex... I.e. would you get attached or be non committal.

    I don't know her personality so sorry I can't say what answer she wanted. Usually, when women talk about non committal stuff I say things like,"boy I'm the same way... I'm so bad. I get bored but I found out if I do find one girl who thrills me, I really get into her. It's like someone who cares about keeping it fresh... Wow I turn into a romantic beast. But the problem is finding someone who is as fun as me. Cuz I don't break hearts. I'm just completely honest. If I don't find you interesting, then sorry don't need Ya lol!"

    They usually call me mean and stuff and I usually respond I'm a realist honey. I don't string girls along just hoping to get some sex. If we are incompatible, I'll let you know.

    Usually works out ok for me anyway.

    And p.s. cdharders is the man. Good stuff bro!

    P.p.s. don't ever say that you found someone else. Could be seen as needy. Like you're trying to spite her. Just be like, ok np. I'll let you know how it goes!

    Leave it more ambiguous.
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