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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    Good job. Remember, don't be too overbearing. That means sending her an avalanche of text messages and driving her insane. Just give her the space and peace that she needs. She will come towards you when she is ready.
    iyo how often should i pm her/text her?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Take it easy at first. Give it a few days, and if she doesn't start up a conversation, then you start it up, and take it nice and easy. Don't be sending her a message immediately after she replies every time. Just every forty minutes to an hour send her something. From there, once she relaxes and develops a pattern of being prompt with you, then you can speed up the response time a bit.
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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    ^with the above what i have been doing is what you stated but i only response to her on Tuesdays or Thursday (lol, dont know why but yeah).

    also i wanted to point on which i forgot to do earlier. was around the time she told me she had cancer a close best friend of mine passed away. i told her this (maybe i shouldnt but at the time i was vulnerable and real upset.....prolly something she didnt need as you explain yesterday).

    on top of that she was once insinuated that she has a bf (recently she made a statement online that she was newly single).


    any thoughts on this.

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    also i was wondering what a guy should do when he likes a girl and she makes statements which he may disagree with.

    for example on this site im on a thread was made asking the ladies of the forum, can a woman tell if a man has on latex (sex related)

    my target response was : of course it feel like latex being inserted repeatedly.

    do i ignore these assertions made by her or do i address them?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbbot View Post
    ^with the above what i have been doing is what you stated but i only response to her on Tuesdays or Thursday (lol, dont know why but yeah).
    That's not really a lot of time to do or create anything if you're only messaging her every Tuesday and Thursday. I know I said that you have to take things down a notch, but if you want to escalate again, you have to put the effort in when it counts. Try to randomize things, and don't have specific times of the week when you are going to text her.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbbot View Post
    also i wanted to point on which i forgot to do earlier. was around the time she told me she had cancer a close best friend of mine passed away. i told her this (maybe i shouldnt but at the time i was vulnerable and real upset.....prolly something she didnt need as you explain yesterday).
    Nah, you're all fine with telling her. In fact, it helps you because it serves as a way to build rapport. Both of you have been inflicted by life-changing events, and thus you both can feel each other's pain. I would actually say that was an excellent move.

    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbbot View Post
    on top of that she was once insinuated that she has a bf (recently she made a statement online that she was newly single).
    She may have not had her relationship status set before. Then again, she could have been seeing someone else, and that's why she was less responsive to you. Has she ever brought up another guy or a boyfriend with you before when you were trying to talk to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbbot View Post
    also i was wondering what a guy should do when he likes a girl and she makes statements which he may disagree with.

    for example on this site im on a thread was made asking the ladies of the forum, can a woman tell if a man has on latex (sex related)

    my target response was : of course it feel like latex being inserted repeatedly.

    do i ignore these assertions made by her or do i address them?
    If she makes a statement that you disagree with, then politely say that you don't agree with it. One important trait of a good man is to hold firm to his beliefs, no matter what happens. Of course, there are times where you can be liberal and try to learn new things. For example, my opinions on the forums and in pickup are very liberal. I am open to all viewpoints and I try to learn and accept them all. When it comes to picking the right one to follow, however, I am as firm as it comes.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    she never mention a boyfriend i pm her today (she responded to a message i send to her (this was sunday) pertaining to christmas etc. i didnt responded until today with her.

    here the thing should i when if she does this as far as responding to the sexual threads (should i be selective in my assertiveness), i think if i was to swandive in every thread she is in it would hurt my chances and she may place me on ignore

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Once again, you can't wait so long to text her. If you wait whole days to text her again, then it is virtually impossible to build up attraction or rapport. You have to speed up the response times A LOT more. When she responds, you respond in a half an hour to an hour. No excuses.

    If she hasn't brought up a boyfriend, then just leave it be. Don't ask her about it. If she hasn't brought it up, then she either didn't have one or she just didn't feel like bringing it up with you. Either way, if she didn't want you talking to her, then she would have brought a boyfriend up by now.

    You're right in that openly striking out to every single thing she posts is wrong. The only time where you can disagree with her opinion when it is you talking to her, no one else involved. In addition, you don't want to be getting into debates with her every time. Politics and religion have no place in the attraction process, so avoid those topics at all costs. You also don't want to remain on a negative topic for too long. If you want to switch the topic of the conversation, then do it.
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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    ^ would you do the same with the pms (private messages online) as you would with the texts. after the 20 texts she may have change her number. also i believe that a couple of other guys on this site have her number, should i be concern with that?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    You're texting her AND private messaging her? If you are, stop all forms of contact besides texting. All you're going to do is texting.

    And what website are you talking about? Are there other men involved with her?
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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    ^not so much bf/gf but friends. the site im on is a hip-hop forum. i mostly have been pming dont feel to comfortable texting her cell number since the incident with the excessive text messages.


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