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    Default Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    so i have this chick i like that long story short we had a falling out about 4 months ago, recently we started talking again via pm online. i ask her today does she think im too serious? (i often times come across like a meanie online)

    she told me the following:

    not serious. but intense. you come on too strong.


    guys what should i do?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    With the girl or about coming on to strong?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Never ask a girl what she thinks of you. it comes across as needy and approval seeking. Similar AFC questions not to ask a girl:

    Are you mad at me?
    Did I do something wrong?
    Why didn't you text me last night?
    Do you like me?
    Am I too (insert adjective here)?
    Do you like small wieners?

    A high value man doesn't need approval from others and is his own source of validation. As long as you move a girl emotionally and physically, care less about a woman's logical reasoning. Don't apologize for things you say either. Mean what you say. Goodluck!

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    With the girl or about coming on to strong?
    both currently were just friends though.

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by Dizzie View Post
    Never ask a girl what she thinks of you. it comes across as needy and approval seeking. Similar AFC questions not to ask a girl:

    Are you mad at me?
    Did I do something wrong?
    Why didn't you text me last night?
    Do you like me?
    Am I too (insert adjective here)?
    Do you like small wieners?

    A high value man doesn't need approval from others and is his own source of validation. As long as you move a girl emotionally and physically, care less about a woman's logical reasoning. Don't apologize for things you say either. Mean what you say. Goodluck!
    what if you were wrong though?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbbot View Post
    what if you were wrong though?
    Are you asking what if it was alright to ask AFC questions? I really think you need to write clearly on what you are asking and what the issue is, because I think all of us are just as lost trying to help you and understand you.
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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    Are you asking what if it was alright to ask AFC questions? I really think you need to write clearly on what you are asking and what the issue is, because I think all of us are just as lost trying to help you and understand you.
    no what im saying is that i was in fact wrong. (i was sending her about 20 text messages a day,etc.). things was she was doing things to tick me off being distant etc(she was fighting a bout of breast cancer....maybe im reading it wrong). i realize it was over excessive imo.

    also just a general question: should a guy be concern with a girl apologizing? just wondering if that would fall into the validation category?

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Well that bit about the breast cancer is an extremely important detail. Fighting cancer is a painful and awful thing to go through, and she could be emotionally fragile. If you're too tough on her, or too overbearing, then it can stress her out a lot.

    If she was also sending about the same amount of messages back to you every day, then the amount of messages you send isn't that big of a deal. What would matter in that case would be the content of those messages. If you're very demanding, asking her to do things all the time, attempting to get her to swing your way, then of course she's going to be distant. You're a big worry on her plate that she doesn't need, and people tend to try and get away from things that make them uncomfortable.

    Her apologizing to you isn't necessarily a sign of validation. It could be a way of passing you off and trying to get you to calm down. Like I said before, it's just an escape method to try and get away from the things that cause her stress and pain.

    Now on the other hand, YOU apologizing and owning up to the fact that you're not making her life ordeals any easier would not be considered validation. It would be considered the right thing to do. She's fighting cancer for Christ's sake. If you want to get her, you should be at her right hand helping her through it and doing what you can to alleviate the torment she has to go through. Be a source of carefree bliss in her life, and she will certainly not forget it.
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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    thanks man and i have. i told her that even though she push me away and demand her space (in some not so nice words) but y'know give her a sense that i would be a support.

    we just started talking back again and trying to redevelop our friendship. she is a FSU fan (thumbs down lol) so that created a venue for me to kid around (with the game coming up.)

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    Default Re: Girl Says Im Too Intense.....

    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbbot View Post
    thanks man and i have. i told her that even though she push me away and demand her space (in some not so nice words) but y'know give her a sense that i would be a support.

    we just started talking back again and trying to redevelop our friendship. she is a FSU fan (thumbs down lol) so that created a venue for me to kid around (with the game coming up.)
    Good job. Remember, don't be too overbearing. That means sending her an avalanche of text messages and driving her insane. Just give her the space and peace that she needs. She will come towards you when she is ready.
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