Title says it all really, and this post is going to be long. I personally hate reading long posts so I apologize in advance.
I work food service in a massive casino, that literally sits less than 3 miles away from a huge party university. So they hire Indians, and college kids naturally to work it except for the higher-ups and supervisors.
Cashiers, Security, fellow food service peeps, 80% college kids.
I started getting serious about getting into pick up after my ex girlfriend dumped me about 7 months ago for my best friend. I was a noobie at first, and i went far away to college so it was a fresh start. I knew NOBODY. But i knew i wanted to get seriously good with girls for myself so i just spent every day reading and re-reading material until it was second nature.
So reading about all this game, and stuff on this website, and being new to this college town i knew i needed to get my social proof up, make some new friends, and just become the man. So first thing at my job, i started making friends with every single girl i worked with as i was being trained. Cashiers, Security girls, all the girls in my department, i slowly became close friends with all of them just so i could build a huge social circle of girls to fall back on and give me social proof wherever i wanted to go. (I closed a few discreetly but that's for another post lol) I'm only 18 (almost 19) and the youngest in my department, and 1 of 2 guys in my entire food service department so i kind of had an advantage, oh and all of these girls are between 20-23. (just to think about when giving me advice)
But there is just this one girl in my department that I just can't close for the life of me, and it drives me crazy on the inside. Lol
She was the first girl that i actually worked with. So naturally trying to build my social circle i just built intense rapport and comfort with her as we worked. Talked about our families, interests, everything. Found out she's into Raves, Smoking weed, hard drugs like Molly, acid, snowboarding, shes got daddy issues, and she's just fresh out of a break up with an ex-boyfriend who dumped her. Oh, and did i mention shes incredibly shy?
(Talk about a crazy amount of baggage)- so naturally i invested very little into her.
BUT, shes incredibly cute, sensitive, fun, and we just connect on things on such a deep level its crazy. The biggest thing that has me hooked about her is how much of a challenge she is.
(This is over the course of 6 months)
At first, I remember building rapport and comfort and getting her number and texting her and she never texted me back. Talked to her to her at work and she brought up how she's a horrible texter or some excuse, whatever.
Then didn't work with her for a solid 2 months straight when I saw her again. This time when I saw her, she was super happy to see me, giggly, mentioned that somebody from the college told her that i had a crush on her? Which i played off as her wishing i did, and just ran super solid game on her the entire shift discreetly. (My game improved massively over these months as well) Basicly froze her out the entire 2 months and then when i saw her again just acted like i didn't care because i genuinely didn't. Worked with her again the next day, and its the same thing. She just kept giving me these huge IOI's and i kept kino escalating with her and running qualifiers on her. At the end of my shift though i told her a crazy 3 some story that I just had and then got her to open up to me about some crazy stories that nobody knew about even her roommates. Then I mentioned that we should hangout sometime because i really enjoy the connection we have together. Told her that I should come over and try out her new bong or something that she was super excited to tell me about and that I'd text her when i was free. She then hit me with the "Maybe, i'll think about it and let you know." Which i quickly responded with, "Well, that's BS, Forget it. I'll hang out with some other girls" as she walked out the door. I genuinely have a surplus of girls so it didn't matter to me.
A week later she calls me up on a Saturday night at 3:20 A.M. in the morning and it kind of surprises me. It woke me up out of my sleep and I pick up and she's super drunk asking me where I am and what i'm doing. I tell her that I'm sleeping its 3:20 in the morning and shes like nooooooooo you should be out partying with me!
We talk for a few minutes, she mentions how she's drunk, and how some friend drove 3 hours to see her and wanted to drink so she did. (She never drinks, only does drugs because she already has 2 alcohol related MIPS from living in the dorms her freshman year LOL) Tells me she was at a party but it got busted up and now she's in a car in a parking lot and she's bored. I tease her and we banter a little bit, she genuinely wants to know what I've been up to and then she wants me to talk to her friends so i amuse the idea and then she starts telling me that she hates me so much and that this never happened blah blah and then I just let her go and hang up.
(I do have a reputation for throwing parties and for always knowing where they're at among my co-workers because I'm tight with guys in the frathouses, so i don't know if she was actually calling me because she liked me and was DTF or because she wanted to know what was going on that night, which there wasn't anything big)
HERES where things get interesting.
She then texts me 10 minutes later saying that never happened and that she hates me. i ignore it.
texts me again 5 minutes later begging me for help. So being concerned I tell her to call me.
She calls me, tells me that her sh1tty friends left her at a party, and its just her and 2 roommates and they're all super drunk and she wants to know if i'd please please help her because they have no money.
I say, " I guess so" because regardless of "GAME" if somebody really needs my help i'll be there regardless as long as i'm not enabling them or getting used"
She then goes on and babbles on about how she doesn't want me to be mad at her, and how she doesn't want it to be a big deal, and how i don't have to blah blah please don't be mad at me.
So i tell her that i'm coming to pick her up and she's omg we're going to be BFFS and i hangup and go get her. Pick her and her friends up and they're all super drunk. She goes on about how she hates me so much and how this never happened over and over again. I meet her friends, and i remark to her that you only say i hate you to the guys you like. She's super giggly, and i mention that im the super cool co-worker that she always talks about, and her friends go, "THATS YOU?!"
I was just joking, but okay..
(This is a part where i don't know if i messed up)
Anyways, go back to her apartment, she sits next to me and is giving me passive IOI's, lingering hand contact, doing favors for me, sitting super close to me, legs touching mine. and we start smoking. Everybody can like feel the tension in the room as everybody is staring at us as they talk or maybe i was high idk. Anyways, i didn't kino escalate because of all her friends watching me, and I just teased her and bantered with everybody and then after like half an hour, decided i'd leave at the peak of everything and hugged her and left.
So i figured she was finally coming around.
A few days later i texted her something fun, and light about the night and didn't get a response. A week goes by and i text her again and this time i get a few responses but then she stops again. So instead of chasing her i froze her out again.
2 more months go by, and i finally see her across a room from me as i'm leaving work. We make intense eye contact for like literally 9-10 seconds and she smiles and i leave. The next day i run into her for like 1 minute and she mentions that she wishes she was working what i was, and that her shifts suck. (Creeped on my shifts on the schedule sheet?)
I laugh and banter for a few seconds and go on about my way.
Over Christmas break though, i figured id text her and try to set up a meeting. So i text her and we're super flirty and fun over texting like we've never been before, and in my teasing i mention that i find her taste in music attractive and she doesnt reply.
A few days later i text her again but more direct to try and switch my game up, and tell her im busy at 8pm, but i'd like to hangout and see her for a few hours (it was like 5pm). I'm pretty good at pulling these causal hangout with girls, so i figured she's bite but she told me she was with her friends from another state and she didn't want to leave them.
So a few days later i text her again, on a casual hangout and she doesn't text me back. So i decided i'd freeze her out again not knowing what to do.
I saw her at work yesterday and she was super quiet, and shy, and like reserved. I don't know what to do at this point. I don't feel like i have oneitus, because I've been had it before and this doesn't feel like it at all. Its just one of those things where I've been so patient for so long trying to close her because i feel like its right at my finger tips but I just can't get her to come hangout. She always flakes. I have 10-15 girls that i always text as just friends and a few FWB's so its not like I'm acting needy around her. I don't know, any and all advice would be appreciated.
I was thinking, the next time I work a full shift with her, to just build some attraction, and then mention how i feel like we really connect and how its so disappointing that she always flakes. Then say something like, before I felt like I could trust you, but now i feel like you're so flakey, and unreliable, and that's just so unattractive and its disappointing that you're that type of girl and then do a small take away and go on break and let her think about what i said before i come back.
Opinions? like i said, any all will be appreciated, and im sorry about the long post lol.