Re: How to smooth over a relationship with an ex & not wanting her back!
Wow, that's just awful man. No guy should have to go through that sh1t
This woman sounds controlling, self-centered, and just a bad influence in your life. She can't even see that her negativity could be potentially harmful to the well-being of your kids.
Your best bet is this: the next time you go to pick up your kids, or drop them off, just have a moment with her, sit down, and bring up your concerns. Tell her that you want what is best for the kids, and what is best is if the two of you got along and actually did things together with them. Also tell her that the fighting and anger between you two needs to stop. Such things like that can have a bad impact on your children.
If she still responds negatively or virtually shoots you down, then there's only one thing left you can do: ignore her and move on. Don't occupy yourself with a mother who is too blind to see the consequences of her actions. Don't talk to her, don't try to bridge any gaps with her, don't do anything. The only thing that should concern you is making the most of every moment you get to have with your kids. Show them what a great father you are, and maybe even bring a new woman into your life, one who would be wonderful, supportive, and a good mother-model for your kids. In due time, they will choose you over the abusive mother.
I wish you the best in this situation, and I hope the light at the end of the tunnel comes soon and bright for you.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X