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Thread: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

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    Exclamation She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    So I met a HB9 during a daygame cold approach. Didn't have my phone with me, so gave her my number, she texted me a couple days later. Built up some comfort + rapport through text, turns out we had a lot in common. Asked her out for coffee. Cancelled on her. Re-scheduled for later in the week and went for said coffee.

    Date went great. She was very talkative, very responsive, and generally seemed to enjoy my company. I had good body language and tone, used decent neghits, etc. I usually keep coffee dates under 2 hours, and I gave her a false time constraint. She gave me an IOI, said "it's so early!?", basically wanted me to stick around longer.

    Walked her to the subway, she tried to wave me goodbye. I gave her a look and asked, "really?". She hugged me. I went in for a kiss, she said, "no, it's too soon". I laughed it off, and replied, "you missed out!" She laughed.

    Right off the bat, I know I didn't kino enough during the date. Didn't hug/handshake when we met. Did use some triangulation throughout though. Experts, weigh in please. Should I bother with a second date? Is she just playing hard to get? Is she just conservative (she's a bit of a party freak, so that's hard to imagine).

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    Default Re: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    Stop over analyzing, setup another date, see where it goes. She gave you no reason to doubt, so stop doubting and keep pushing forward.

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    Default Re: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    Stop over analyzing, setup another date, see where it goes. She gave you no reason to doubt, so stop doubting and keep pushing forward.
    I hear ya, but my time/energy are valuable and I don't want to waste them on her if she's not interested or playing really hard to get.

    I've never been in a situation where I didn't at least k-close on the first date; can't blame me for being somewhat confused.

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    Default Re: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    Quote Originally Posted by Lookatmenow View Post
    I hear ya, but my time/energy are valuable and I don't want to waste them on her if she's not interested or playing really hard to get.

    I've never been in a situation where I didn't at least k-close on the first date; can't blame me for being somewhat confused.
    You know the answers, and answered your own questions, you're just over analyzing. That's all I was pointing out. You deduced that although she was into you, you probably didn't get the kiss because you hadn't kino'd enough. You felt like she was interested and she dropped IOI's. I can't really look into much more than that. Not getting a kiss is not a big deal at all. You're not wasting much time if you giver her a call, talk for 10 minutes and set up another date. If she start's acting up, not returning your calls, not answering text, then feel free to kick her to the curve, but until you actually have a sign of her not being interested, assume she's interested.

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    Default Re: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    Seriously don't wait until the end to go for a kiss. That kiss should happen in the middle. Man up and go for it early. Avoid that awkward high pressure ending.

    Plus get her chasing you using push pull. If she's chasing you more than you're chasing her it's far more likely to be Donkey Kong.

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    Default Re: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    You know the answers, and answered your own questions, you're just over analyzing. That's all I was pointing out. You deduced that although she was into you, you probably didn't get the kiss because you hadn't kino'd enough. You felt like she was interested and she dropped IOI's. I can't really look into much more than that. Not getting a kiss is not a big deal at all. You're not wasting much time if you giver her a call, talk for 10 minutes and set up another date. If she start's acting up, not returning your calls, not answering text, then feel free to kick her to the curve, but until you actually have a sign of her not being interested, assume she's interested.
    lilsting is right on the money with this. You're looking into this so much that you're not seeing the simple obvious. She is clearly showing interest in you, you're playing your game generally good, and you know what you need to improve on. Not all girls will immediately open up on the first date, so it's not surprising she shot you down. Just go for the second date and get on with it!
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: She was really into me, but didn't kiss on the first date

    Swagman and Lilsting may be right but dont go for the second date just yet.build more interest.good that you followed through with iois.Peace


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