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Thread: Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

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    Default Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

    So one of my first posts on this forum was about an Italian girl that I eventually kissed several times, but haven't f-closed yet. Problem is, she has a bf. We still hooked up a few times while she was with him, but I feel guilty...I met the guy and hung out with him a few times and their relationship seems a bit strained, but I'm not entirely sure what's going on.

    I'm pretty sure she has feelings for me regardless and we are supposed to hang out this week. Now, I would love an LTR with her because we click. Simple as that. However, I'm not sure if it's worth (lets say morally) breaking her up with her bf to be with her. One thing that irks me is that I know that eventually I will have to end things with her and I don't want to ruin her shot at happiness with her bf now or in general.

    Then again, if she was ok with cheating on him a few times, I guess it's all bound to end anyway, right? I'm really stuck here, guys - moral dilemma far more than anymore else, so I'd love to hear some other perspectives!
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    Default Re: Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

    If you think the limited amount of time she'll spent with you will make her happier than her being with her bf, just go with it.

    Don't think about the ending just yet. Focus on getting the best out of the relationship while you can.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

    Don't think about the ending just yet.

    Sorry, Wolf, but I'm personally going to disagree with this.

    We have two rules in the game. TWO RULES. That's it. Whether you're an asshole, douchebag, nice guy, white knight, whatever, we are all supposed to agree upon this.

    1. Never lie to a woman.

    2. Leave her better than when you met her.


    Let's talk morals. If you knew going into a situation that it probably, most realistically wouldn't end well, why would you do it? I count cards. When the count is sh*t and the odds are far from in my favor, I don't raise my bet and think, "Hey, what the heck, I'm just really feeling this one (sound like oneitis?). Except this isn't about money. This is about people. Real people. Real people with feelings and emotions that, in all probability, will leave her worse than when you met her.




    That was a rant. All I really meant to say was If it can happen with you, it will happen to you. You are not an exception. The problem isn't with you, it's with her. She's a sh*tty person. It might work out for a while, maybe even a few years, but eventually it will blow up in your face. Boyfriend destroying wasn't meant for loyal relationships; it was meant for fun and people with the self-awareness of a potato, or guys who ran out of f*cks to give.
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    Default Re: Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

    That's exactly what I was thinking - real people, real feelings. Wouldn't call this the itis, though. I always think about the ending because that's what determines whether or not any action, not just this one, is worth the time and effort. I doubt that it'll blow up in ny face, but it will screw things up for her; sh*tty person or not, I'd rather have the relationship play out without my influence.

    I'll be in once she's single - way too many other girls available that I can acquaint myself with
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    Default Re: Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

    I'll be in once she's single - way too many other girls available that I can acquaint myself with

    That's what I like to hear. My favorite scenario that I used to do when I ran into beautiful women with boyfriends went something like this: (Oh, note that this is social circle game/college game. I knew these girls decently well.)

    I would run into them in passing and then we would have small talk <--legit small talk. She has a boyfriend, so she's not worth my time. 30 seconds on average, 1 minute max. Ask her what's good, how her life's going, tell her she looks nice (assuming she does), then say this,

    "You still have that boyfriend of yours?"

    "Yeah, blah blah blah (or no blah blah blah, either way)."

    "You know who to call when that's over now, don't you?"

    I don't care how she responds. Just wink at her and walk away.

    If they break up, she always calls; if they don't, all the best to her.
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    Default Re: Vicodin - Girl has a BF...might be falling for her.

    Dude, I love doing that! When they get in touch with you, they always beat around the bush, so I get to the point and say, "Great, you're single! I volunteer to be the rebound guy!" Then I just set the date 8)
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