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Thread: Ex girlfriend getting worked up. Help!!!

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    Default Ex girlfriend getting worked up. Help!!!

    I was seeing a girl for 6 months and we became really attached to each other. She broke up with me and we agreed to stay friends. She likes to question my activities and don't know how to respond. I decided to take a vacation to see a friend that's a girl. She immediately started questioning me. Why would she do this if we are no longer together? I want to stay on good terms with her, how do I avoid her getting mad at me? Here is the subsequent text convo

    Her: So when do you leave to see your friend Ashley in Washington?

    Me: I leave on the 12th

    Her: You gonna sleep w her

    Me: Noooo

    Her: Yeah right. Who goes across country to see someone of the opposite sex and doesn't have the intention

    Me: Not me. I'm just going to get away. You know me better than that, at lest you should

    Her: You're a guy

    Me: Doesn't matter. Not everything holds true. You should know this.

    Her: U dated her

    Her: I just find it so weird that you're going across country to see some chick that you never mentioned

    Her: And now you suddenly wanna be stationed out there

    Me: Only a handful of bases in the states.

    Her: Sure

    Her: U avoided my statement/question. You dated her

    Me: We are strictly friends. Nothing more

    Her: So you dated. I know how you work. You're answering around the question.

    Me: That's not what I'm trying to do

    Her: Then answer the question

    Her: Idk why I care. Actually I don't.

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    Default Re: Ex girlfriend getting worked up. Help!!!

    She dumped you, why does she care? Furthermore, why do you even care what she thinks?

    She is only trying to keep a foothold in case she realizes she made the wrong decision when she dumped you. Girls do this all the time, they like to know that there is someone to fall back on in case things go wrong in the current situation.

    I would scrap the whole "staying on good terms" idea, and just ignore her flat out.. I know her type all too well.

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    Default Re: Ex girlfriend getting worked up. Help!!!

    She's jealous. Nothing more. Women are jealous people. Even though she broke up with you it appears that she still has some interest in you. I dated a girl two years ago that broke up with me. I go to school with her and every time she see's me in the hallway talking to some girl she gives the girl the "evil eye" then texts me later that day. She even accused me of flirting with our stats professor last year (we were in the same class).

    Some girls are like this. Stop caring if she's getting mad at you. It's none of her business why you're going to see your friend. She's your ex man, stop caring what she thinks. You could actually use this to your advantage and possibly get her back. Trying to defend yourself with women like this doesn't work. It would have worked out better if you just said "yea I'm going to f her". Then left it at that. If she gets super angry tell her "yea I'm a terrible guy. I'm surprised you even talk to me." It sounds counterintuitive but it really works. David X talks about this, and when I read it, I realized I've done this my whole life.

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    Default Re: Ex girlfriend getting worked up. Help!!!

    This all might sound harsh, but if you are in the service you need to hear it. Learn to deal with it now. Trust me, there is nothing worse than having girl problems when you are halfway across the world. I've seen so many of my buddies get burned by girls like this.

    Why is she doing this? Maybe I'm jaded, but all I see is a girl who really wants to keep control over her ex.

    Most guys make the mistake of thinking that since she keeps texting you she must still be interested. NO. If she still liked you she would still be dating you! She broke up with you. Remember that. Right now she is getting railed out by one or two other guys and she wants to keep you on the line just in case she gets hurt and needs somebody to make her feel better.

    Don't worry about her getting mad. Do yourself a favor and quit talking to her(the general's recommended remedy), but if you must talk to her, quit defending yourself. That is weak. She doesn't believe a word out of your mouth anyway, it doesn't matter what you say. When she accuses you of something don't deny it. She might get mad at first, but she will respect you more in the long run.

    When she says you are gonna sleep with this other girl say, "Yes I am."

    When she says you want to be stationed in Washington you say, "Yes, Ft. Lewis is one of the best bases in the country."

    While you are at it, go out and enjoy Washington when you aren't busy sleeping with Ashley. You will regret it if you don't.

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    Default Re: Ex girlfriend getting worked up. Help!!!

    Real solid advice, you guys never let me down. Thank you all for the help!


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