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Thread: Should I pay for everything on the first date?

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    Default Should I pay for everything on the first date?

    and be the stereotypical gentleman, or should I push for the woman to pay for some of her sh*t? For example, if I was gonna take her to an Arcade and a movie, I'd pay for the Arcade tokens and she'd pay for her movie ticket right?
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I pay for everything on the first date?

    It depends on the dynamic you set up ahead of time.

    If you ask her out, you probably spent some time talking with her already. It's OK to pay for stuff after you both have time invested in each other like that.

    The whole "don't pay" thing, really only applies when you first meet a girl... like at a bar... DON'T immediately offer to buy her a drink. ONLY because every other schmuck is trying the same old lame approach.

    BUT, after you've been talking to a girl & you've gotten to know each other a bit, then by all means, buy her a drink, or a pizza or something. It's not an AFC move at that point.

    So, if you ask her out, then be prepared to pay; unless you specify & agree ahead of time that you're splitting the cost, or whatever other arrangements you may make.

    I'd skip the movie idea if this is the first "date" though. You can't talk, so you can't flirt & escalate your interaction.

    But again, don't be worried about the stigma of paying for stuff... that only applies in the initial meeting & first few moments of talking to her.

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    Default Re: Should I pay for everything on the first date?

    It's more how you react about the money than anything else. If you pay for it like it's a big deal and she should be appreciative or owes you something or you feel stupid, it will not go well. It's fine to pay. Paying builds comfort because you seem more mainstream. If you've been breaking rapport fine, you'll be good. I remember asking a chick after she slept with me if she cared that I paid for her drink, she said, "No, but I let you do nastier things to me in bed because I knew you were a good guy."
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    Default Re: Should I pay for everything on the first date?

    Yeah get idea why are you buying her something. Its usually something bf does for her girlfriend (provides her).

    I usually go 50/50 and split the bill. If she doesnt want to pay (never happened) I would pay it without saying a word. I never make big deal out of it. They always appreciate it and they usually pay next time and want to find me gifts etc. to make for it. In my mind alpha male should be generous but shouldnt try to use money to make someone to like him.
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    Default Re: Should I pay for everything on the first date?

    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    I remember asking a chick after she slept with me if she cared that I paid for her drink, she said, "No, but I let you do nastier things to me in bed because I knew you were a good guy."
    But I thought women don't respect men who buy them drinks?
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I pay for everything on the first date?

    When I ask a girl out on a date and the bill comes I will pick up the bill.

    I tell her, "Hey, I am in a generous mood today. How about about I make you a deal. I will pay for the drinks and you cover the 20% tip? Or...... you pay the bill and I'll cover the tip?" I say it in a cocky,funny way.

    Most will say they'll cover the tip. I have had several girls now just pay the bill and the tip. I have also had numerous girls just tell me to cover the tip and they'll pay the bill.

    Try it and you'll come across as an Alpha.

    Unless I am in a relationship I never take a girl out for dinner. I keep all of my dates to $65 or less. About 80% of my dates are under $40. I challenge myself to spend as little as possible on a D1 and get laid the same night. My lowest, which was last summer, was $12 including the $2 she tipped. She had a glass of wine and I had a beer.

    It's YOUR money spend as little of it on others as possible and as much as you want on yourself/close friends/family or give to a charity you support. Remember that you are the prize and she's lucky to be spending time with YOU.


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