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Thread: Should I deal with my sadness or just be happy, confident and cocky?

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    Default Should I deal with my sadness or just be happy, confident and cocky?

    My mother died when I was 11. Since then I have been in & out of depression due to her influence over my life. I've tried therapy, self-help books and a bunch of other ****, so should I continue to try and seek help for my "depression", just accept it and move on, or just convince my brain to be happy, confident and cocky?
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    Default Re: Should I deal with my sadness or just be happy, confident and cocky?

    Just accept it and move on.

    Whatever you focus on you get more of.

    Feelings are never a good reason to do something or not do something. Self discipline, which is one of the primary sources of self esteem and positive emotions, is doing what you have to do to succeed regardless of how your feel.
    Acceptance of reality, yourself, and others for what it, you, they are, is another key piece to healthy self esteem and generally having great interactions with everyone.

    One other thing I can promise you is that inspiration comes from action. Don't wait until you feel inspired to take action. Take action now and you will get inspired.

    Life is meant to be lived. Turn off the television. Set some goals. Find some hobbies. Get out there and live life to the fullest!

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    Default Re: Should I deal with my sadness or just be happy, confident and cocky?

    Understand that people come and go. Holding on to the past is a sign of immaturity, and selfishness. Do you think you're mother would be happy if X amount years later you're still depressed that she passed away. I know your pain my friend, I lost my mother when I was 13. It's not easy, but don't try to convince or falsify confidence and happiness within yourself. You need to accept what has happened, and grow from it. Live the life I know you're capable of living, and make your mother proud.

    How did I get over death at the feeble age of 13? It took a lot of time, but I realized that we are MORTAL. If I stuck a knife through my heart right now, I would die. People WILL die, and it WILL hurt. That is the universe in which we live. It is not something that we can change, so why waste your life living in darkness?

    I know nothing about you, but I'm telling you right now that you're special. You're taking progressive measures to try and better yourself. Nothing will change unless you allow change to happen. You have to let go. Don't confuse letting go with forgetting. Letting go is having the strength to remember and cherish your connections with out it consuming your humanity. Forgetting is weakness; it's an excuse that those who are not strong enough to let go use.

    I'm always open for more conversation so feel free to keep this thread going, or ask me for my number, or my skype, or my facebook, or whatever you feel like. If you don't want to continue this any further, I wish you all the best brother.

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    Default Re: Should I deal with my sadness or just be happy, confident and cocky?

    I'd like to thank you both a lot. I've also been reading The Power of Intention and that's helped a lot.
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I deal with my sadness or just be happy, confident and cocky?

    There's only so much self-help books can do. THe next step is to take positive actions to help you.
    There is the inner game and outer game approach to all situations. If you start with inner game, your outer game will eventually have to catch up. If you start with outer game, your inner game will have to catch up. YOu already have teh inner game understanding. You need to employ outer game techniques to start feeling different and better about yourself. Start smiling even when you don't think you have anything to smile about. Say "Hi" to people, even if it doesn't make sense. Start there and sky is the limit on what opportunities will start to come your way.
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