sorry might be a long read to get my situation typed out..
One of my good friends for years and i started hooking up.
everything was going great and we became like best friends after 3 months of hooking up.
she told her friend, thats also my good pal, that she liked me a lot but wasnt sure on "when to take it to the next level"
after two months we were already looking like bf and gf to all our friends, even people we dont know would say we looked like were in a relationship. it just happened, we never talked about it just went with what was going on, no questions.
been 4 months now of seeing each other,i posted a new years picture of us kissing to see if she would ask about it and give a bad vibe, but she liked it so i thought alright ill ask her out soon now things are going well.
so after a fun day at disnyland we head to our pals house to sleep.
and thats when i asked her to be my girlfriend.
i got a heavy sigh
then she said "i really didnt expect this right now"
and i said "what do you mean, you didnt see this coming?"
she replied "i dont know, we never talked about it and you just aksed out of no where"
and i said "you had to known id ask sooner or later"
she jsut said "i dont know i cant say yes, im not ready for a serious relationship, and i dont want to hurt you, you mean a lot to me, and i need time to think"
and i told her "you dont think this isnt going to hurt me right now"
and she cryed a lot.
backstory on her last ex. 9 months dating, talk of moving to SF together but he broke up with her with "i dont see myself marrying you" that was 3 months before we started hooking up.
after a day of not talking i txted
"i cant go back to being just friends, i have a lot of feeling toward you and if theres no chance of use being in a relationship then im not going to torture myself being just friends, im gone."
she replied a day later
im sorry i never replied. i just got overwhelmed. i just want to say that you are very important to me and i care about you a lot. im sorry and i feel really shitty about all this but i just cant put myself in a situation im not ready for. and you keep asking if i ever see us in a relationship but i really dont know how to answer that because i have no idea how i will feel a month from now, a year from now. the last thing i want is for you to be completely out of my life but i dont want you to torture yourself either. i just hope that you can eventually understand where im coming from"
"why are you acting this way when weve been acting like a couple. we were both happy with it to where it wasnt a thing u had to think and it just happed. ask any of our friends and theyd say we looked like we were already dating. you said you liked me a lot and i like you a lot too, your like a best friend and were both comfortable with being more then just friends already. theres nothing wrong with 2 people that like each other a lot and start dating when they already look like theyre dating, and know each other already really well. somte thing like that would be too good to be true, but this true and happend. i dont know how things will be in the long run if you give us a chance. at least u can say we gave it a shot and found out for ourselves. theres no way for things to go back to jsut friends between us. i have a lot of feelings toward you and if you dont feel the same then i cant stay just friends."
i talked 2 of her close friends which are my good friends too, both said they were surprised she said no and thought she would of said yes. all our friends thought she would of said yes
she hasnt replied to my last text
after a week of no reply i unfriended her on facebook and blocked her on instagram to get her attention about saying im gone. i havent texted her anything else
is there anyway to fix this situation im in now or what can i do about this?