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    Default The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    The meaning of your communication is the response you get. When you interact with a girl, do you always focus on her response and improvise
    the proper response? If so, how can it be done? How can you think so quickly? You know, it takes time to figure out the proper response to her response.

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    Default Re: The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    The hesitation is what transforms you from cool to creepy. It will take a lot of failures before you get it right, but at any given poitn in the set, you need to think: Should I be building attraction or connection with this next statement? Then, make a statement to do that.
    First, you will need to get good at identifying which is the correct path (attraction vs. connection) then you will need to determine what words to say to transfer the correct message.
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    Default Re: The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    Quote Originally Posted by cdharders View Post
    (attraction vs. connection)
    I like that statement, but how can you determine which is which?
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    Default Re: The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    I like that statement, but how can you determine which is which?
    attraction is all about displaying your value. connecting is all about relating your life to hers.

    ideally you could create both at the same time.

    example:

    me: what do you like to do for fun?

    her: I like to go skiing during the colder months.

    me: oh really? that reminds me of the first time I went skiing, it was so scary yet so exhilarating. one of my friends broke his leg and I had to cary him to the ski lodge.

    her; wow that must have been exciting!

    (of course this is just a hypothetical convo)
    (relating and building attraction at roughly the same time is how the pros do it)

    The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
    I believe the term your looking for is known as semantics (the study of words and what they mean to different people)

    the easiest way to see hidden meanings in the things people say is to watch their body language. oftentimes girls use subtle wording and body language to suggest what they want.

    for instance if a girl wants me to leave the club with her, she might suggest going out for a "walk" or if once we get back to her apartment and she wants rough sex, she might bite my lip while we are making out. (get the idea?)

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    Default Re: The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    attraction is all about displaying your value. connecting is all about relating your life to hers.

    ideally you could create both at the same time.

    example:

    me: what do you like to do for fun?

    her: I like to go skiing during the colder months.

    me: oh really? that reminds me of the first time I went skiing, it was so scary yet so exhilarating. one of my friends broke his leg and I had to cary him to the ski lodge.

    her; wow that must have been exciting!

    (of course this is just a hypothetical convo)
    (relating and building attraction at roughly the same time is how the pros do it)



    I believe the term your looking for is known as semantics (the study of words and what they mean to different people)

    the easiest way to see hidden meanings in the things people say is to watch their body language. oftentimes girls use subtle wording and body language to suggest what they want.

    for instance if a girl wants me to leave the club with her, she might suggest going out for a "walk" or if once we get back to her apartment and she wants rough sex, she might bite my lip while we are making out. (get the idea?)
    Lmao you just reminded me: I was talking to this girl and we start talking about her ex bf. I lead the conversation into what she wants in a relationship. She tells me that she actually so want a relationship but someone to just kiss. Lmao so I mess with her and names an unattractive guy in our class and she starts laughing and says no. I continue this and she keeps saying no. My point here is she was basically saying she wanted me and her to be friends with benefits but I never said "hb me." I just said wow, I never thought of you as that kind of girl. Anyways I blew it because I didn't want to take the risk even though I know she's attracted to me.
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    Default Re: The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    (relating and building attraction at roughly the same time is how the pros do it)
    Yes yes yes! Stole the words right off my keyboard.

    Ya know, it's really amazing how much your body language and your demeanor in general have to do with having a successful conversation. Try not to think too much about what you're saying, think more about staying relaxed and having fun, you will notice that the words come more natural that way. It's a win-win.

    Also remember to breathe. It's natural but also very counter productive to hinder your own breathing in a situation such as talking to an attractive woman. Be concious of your breathing in between sentences, breathe through your nose while she's talking.. This will also help you to stay present, and you will have a much easier time conducting thoughts and responses if you aren't holding your breath.

    Be calm, be cool, be yourself, smile, make eye contact, speak with conviction.. And breathe

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    Default Re: The meaning of your communication is the response you get

    Anyways I blew it because I didn't want to take the risk even though I know she's attracted to me.
    really?!?? ugh.... you gotta learn to take risks in life. this girl was clearly into you, why not take a chance? I've taken chances with girls who showed less interest. sometimes I succeed sometimes I don't, that's life.

    I think you could have easily had a friend with benefits.

    Be calm, be cool, be yourself, smile, make eye contact, speak with conviction.. And breathe
    yes! you stole the words off of my keyboard lol

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