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Thread: Would you breakup for not being satisfied?

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    Default Would you breakup for not being satisfied?

    Hi guys,
    I've been dating a girl for 6 months. She has been the nicest, kindest and most caring girl I've ever seen. She always seeks new ways to make me happy and she has never annoyed me on anything. We have done many things together such as cooking, traveling, joining the gym etc so we have been very much involved in that relationship.

    However she is not looking very sexy to me because my ideal shape is slim and probably I like blonde women but this girl is a bit overweight and has dark hair etc. She is not really very good at sex too! Because of this I was feeling a bit unsatisfied with her so I've been approaching other girls and gaming them ever since I met this lovely girl.

    Unfortunately the other day she sneaked into my mobile phone and saw one of my text messages to another girl then she left my house with tears! I managed to say that I was just trying to learn approaching and talking to women because it has been always a problem with me and so I did not have an intention to actually date other women! She kind of accepted this but she still says it's a kind of cheating!

    Now I am stuck between two things: 1- Letting her go and losing a super kind and nice girl and miss her for a long time. 2- Try and get her back but say goodbye to good sex forever!

    My mind is fooked up now and I cannot think clearly, so please tell me what would you do in such a situation. Plus, what can I do to get her back do you think? Unfortunately just a day before that this happened she told me that she loved me! I've screwed it have not I?!

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    Default Re: Would you breakup for not being satisfied?

    I think you'll be able to bounce back, with a rocky beginning. The question is, is it worth it?

    I had this problem with an ex, and I didn't know what I really wanted. I still have mixed feeling about my choice and it's been 1.5 years since.

    The choice may haunt you for a long time, so know if that's something you can live with or not. You have to look deep inside, because letting her drift away even for a little while could have her find someone new, and I've seen it happen fast.

    She might be willing to pursue a more active gym lifestyle if you initiate.
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    Default Re: Would you breakup for not being satisfied?

    Aussie, this is something that a lot of folks guys and gals are faced with - at first you settle for mediocrity and the relationship gets boring. Hence the term "suffer in mediocrity"

    It happens to girls too and that is why they cheat. The guy stops being attractive - sex gets routine, not much in common to keep the interest up, the guy stops fighting for her because he is so secured, the relationship gets comfortable, etc.

    Here is the thing...being comfortable does not equal happiness.

    Here, as PUAs, we learn the art so we don't have to suffer in mediocrity.

    Would I break up for not being satisfied? My answer is I would not allow myself to get to that point or get into a relationship that I can foresee that will not be up to my standards.

    I am of the firm belief that a man owes it to himself to find the best woman for him - one that will make him happy. Only you can answer what makes you happy. So if you are not satisfied or happy, then you should keep on looking or else if you are not happy, then you will be tempted in the future to compromise your morals. 6 months is not that long comparing to say 2 years. The longer you wait, the harder it is to break up.

    The best woman for me is honestly a girl who is physically attractive (fvck I'm a guy after all) so I don't have the desire to look at other girls. As well as a girl that has a good head on her shoulders (I had my share of dealing with unstable girls and insecure attention whores). It seems you and I are looking for the same thing. To tell you the truth, it is not much to ask.

    The thing about relationships is there is always a better relationship. The hard part is doing the legwork to weed out for it.

    The girl who is beautiful and has all the traits that you want is out there. For a while, I thought they don't exist, but I just found one and is working on her. Took goddamn forever. She is 26 and I am 41.

    Be honest with yourself and I hope it all works out.

    All the best.

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    Default Re: Would you breakup for not being satisfied?

    If it's not what you want 100%, leave. Don't get lazy and let the fear of not having sex as regularly skew your decision.

    The texting thing was framed wrong. She shouldn't have been looking through your phone, and you could have called her out on that and the whole thug would have dropped. Don't qualify about Pua. She will not understand. Even if you frame it as self-improvement, she won't understnadx
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    Default Re: Would you breakup for not being satisfied?

    you need to make a decision, either leave her and pursue other girls or stay with her and don't pursue other girls.

    be honest with yourself.
    if you want to cheat on her, that means you like other girls better, and if you like other girls better, then you should friend zone her and go after those better girls.

    dreams are just manifestations of our unconscious desires. if you desire to be with other women than go after those other women and break up with her.

    you don't want to cheat on her and feel guilty about it. so break up if you want someone else.


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