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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    There are so many potential scenarios here.
    Agreed, but I'm listing two as most probable:

    1. It's an anchor.

    Just as everyone has already said, she wants a reason to see you again once she gets back (and possibly a stimulus to spark memories of her while she's gone). Cool, BUT this is low self-esteem behavior and another way of saying she doesn't trust you enough yet not to forget her. You should be able to reassure her, if the situation should arise, that this is unnecessary.

    Honestly it's a bit of a stab at you as a man implying weak integrity. I doubt she would even realize that, but that's what it is.

    2. It's a sh*t test.

    I don't know why nobody has mentioned this yet, but this is just as likely. Reasonably you don't know her well enough yet for her to ask this of you. Allowing this could imply that you are either a) a "nice guy" or b) a pushover, neither of which help in building or maintaining attraction.

    In either scenario I would still suggest not taking her stuff, though not shutting her down outright. Say you don't have room or something along those lines.

    To parallel this to my own life, I've known my current girlfriend now for three years and have been dating exclusively for nine months. A few months ago she asked to leave a toothbrush at my place. I said no, to keep a travel one in her purse. Last week I mentioned moving and she shared that we could live together because it would make rent cheaper; I said no. Some would say that I'm being a rigid, unnecessary prick; I would say she's infringing upon my independence and you can't put a price on that.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    ...... Cool, BUT this is low self-esteem behavior and another way of saying she doesn't trust you enough yet not to forget her. You should be able to reassure her, if the situation should arise, that this is unnecessary.

    Honestly it's a bit of a stab at you as a man implying weak integrity.
    Cody you are still around. Cool!

    Low self-esteem behavior of who? Of her or him? implying weak integrity? Are you not reading in too much?
    What is the big deal if she leaves her stuff with him? He can just put it in the garage or cellar until she gets back and that would not at all be infringing his independence. Depends on how it is played but to reject could imply a DLV. Of course unless it is problematic. Anyway I would not have a headache over it and play it cool.
    Girls have left stuff at my place and I honestly did not give a shit. Of course it meant throwing some stuff out, but I am still friends with some of them.
    Make the impossible possible!

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    I don't think you are over-reacting. I take it you are someone who can pretty much pick up on red flags easily. If something seems a bit 'off' with a girl, I'm pretty sure you will know.

    You have every valid reason to be concerned. I would too. I just want to add that Nick Savoy posted top 10 signs that a person is bad news. Not to scare you, but she could be what is called the "Helpless Princess."

    Helpless Princess - She seems to be incapable of solving any problem herself. Everything is always a crisis, and even if you suggest solutions, she's only interested in dropping the problem in your lap. Yet if there's something really important to her, she'll figure out how to get it.

    From my experience, when something that makes you uncomfortable manifests too early in the dating process, it is not a good sign. It's almost a foreshadow of what is to come when you really get to know the person well and see the true colors. And even if she is not a helpless princess, then it's a +1 incompatibility.

    Again, not trying to scare you, but just adding it to the list of possibilities. The whole idea of an anchor...it is just way too soon.

    I agree with you that if I am attracted to someone, I definitely won't be inconveniencing that person with my problems. Not attractive. That is like airing out your dirty laundry in the front of the person's face that you are trying to impress.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    Some really great points guys, thanks a lot. I haven't quite decided exactly how to play this out.. But I 'm leaning towards telling her I won't be taking her stuff. I have til tomorrow to figure it out.

    I'm with you Mortal.. It just seems off.

    I'm very attracted to this girl.. I think it'll be a good night regardless of my decision.. I hope haha.

    You guys come up with any other thoeries I'd be happy to hear them.

    Thanks again!

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    Have fun man

    In terms of your decision, I would tell her that you would only hold on to her valuable stuff lol. If she only wants to leave junk behind, then you know...bad news.

    And if you do tell her that make it playful like..."I'll think about it, but you can only leave things of value with me though.
    You leave it with me as a symbol that when you return we will be reunited."

    Play that anchor angle against her. If she is thinking along the same lines, then she would agree and you can be somewhat relieved.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    What exactly do you mean by 'bad news' though? I'm thinking you're referring to something along the lines of what Cody said, where it could just be a shit test, or clingyness.

    I've decided I'm gonna seduce her anyways, in case anyone was wondering ..It's worth it.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    As someone else already said in this thread, take her stuff, but don't just wait for her to come back. Live your life while she's gone, and if you end up being with someone else, just give her stuff back and that's it. If she starts throwing some sort of fit, then tell her that just because you allowed her to leave some of her stuff with you, that doesn't mean that you should have been tied down and waiting for her. You barely knew her as it is. Treat her like you'd do any other guy friend. Unless, you really want to be with her, then that's different.
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    Lol I'm sure as hell not going to be waiting around for her to come back or changing anything in my life for her after 2 or 3 dates. Just trying avoid any crazy shit that could be prevented here.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    Quote Originally Posted by twentynine View Post
    Lol I'm sure as hell not going to be waiting around for her to come back or changing anything in my life for her after 2 or 3 dates. Just trying avoid any crazy shit that could be prevented here.
    Well, yeah. Just throwing out that you're not at all obligated to wait for her, even if she might think that (cause she either likes you, or worst case, figures she can use you heavily).
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: 29 needs a quick opinion here boys

    When I read this I thought exactly the same thing as Cody. Possible shit test. Just remember that. Follow your intuition and you will come to the right decision.


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