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Thread: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

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    Default Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    In mystery method, seeking rapport before the target becomes interested in you is low-value. During the early stage of the interaction(A1 and A2), we need to break rapport instead of seek rapport. Do we sometimes need to be rude to break rapport? Also when we neg a girl, do we sometimes need to be rude? If we are friendly and polite all the way, how can we neg a girl, how can we break rapport?

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    Default Re: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    There's NEVER a reason to be rude... ever.

    And most guys completely misunderstand what a "neg" actually is, & how/when to properly use one. (as well as how often)

    Honestly, most guys never need to neg a girl.
    They just think they're supposed to because they read something about being cocky/funny... but have no idea how to calibrate it.

    (I recommend NOT attempting that stuff if you're new to this.)

    The thing about rapport is, you want to stay AWAY from that at first. Don't work on building rapport until AFTER you build attraction.
    Otherwise you're a strong candidate for the friend zone.

    Build attraction by flirting... then work on rapport a little bit. But don't stay locked in rapport.... go back to flirting.

    Breaking rapport just means switching gears & staying in control of the interaction, which allows you to be fun & flirty. (That's what you want.)


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    Default Re: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    As usual, T-Mal is right on point.

    Always start with attracting a girl before moving onto rapport, and even then, you can always go back to attracting and flirting with her even when you get to the rapport stage.
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    So neg is to lower the target's value, and we do it unintentionally/innocently. For example, "Oh,your nose wiggles when you speak." We say this to the target as if we just burst it out without thinking, and we didn't want to humiliate her, but our ulterior motive is to let her feel self-conscious therefore lower her value, right?

    Can neg be considered as a way of flirting? For example, "Oh, you are so silly." and wink at her.

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    Default Re: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    A neg should only used if a girl is really snobby/snippy/bitchy...
    And thinks she's better than everyone else.

    And it would be something like "I really like that dress.. it reminds me of the apron my grandmother used to wear."

    Just to bump her down a notch.

    Again, I don't recommend trying to neg.
    A true neg is not intended to be flirty.

    Instead, you're better off to actually stick with playful razzing/teasing/bantering/flirting.

    Elbow nudges, light smacks with the back of your hand, calling her playful names like nerd & dork... those kinds of things are more effective for building attraction & creating a fun vibe.

    A true Alpha man never needs to lower anyone else's value.
    Instead, he's able to make other people feel MORE valuable.
    He's confident & people respect him because of who he is.


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    Default Re: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    Quote Originally Posted by ED11356 View Post
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.
    I don't think so. Mystery is not always be honest with women. Mystery tells us that you can say, "I'm the part owner of the club" which will increase your value. I personally know a pickup artist, he often fakes many things, but he also constantly gets girls. I am thinking the reason is that when he is telling something that is not true, he is congruent with it, he has no moral issue about telling something untrue, he doesn't feel uncomfortable about it. But for a long-term relationship, it is better to be honest.

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    Default Re: Mystery method: Breaking rapport

    Quote Originally Posted by Jack100 View Post
    I don't think so. Mystery is not always be honest with women. Mystery tells us that you can say, "I'm the part owner of the club" which will increase your value. I personally know a pickup artist, he often fakes many things, but he also constantly gets girls. I am thinking the reason is that when he is telling something that is not true, he is congruent with it, he has no moral issue about telling something untrue, he doesn't feel uncomfortable about it. But for a long-term relationship, it is better to be honest.
    Lol, the "Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA" line is actually in my signature, not in my post.

    At the end of day, being a PUA is about being honest about your intentions. Mystery might lie and fake some things, but he's been consistent about leaving the girl better than you found her (which every normal and real PUA swears by).
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.


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