I am posting this, because the chode in me did conquer me since Friday. It will be a long text, but this problem isn't just with her. IT IS NO ONEITIS, but since she's a collague I have to get this right again. Even if it is just neutral. There is no need for attraction building now, I just want to get the funny and nice girl in her back. I did mess up, yes. But tell me what was good in the conversations and which aspects I have to get better with. Get more girls doesn't really help, because I have to get serveral apects improved. But which exactly?
I am studying computer engineering and there is this very quite 9. For you she might be something different, but she definately got "orbiters" and has mostly guy friends.
So I once opened her over facebook, because am the students' delegate of my semester and she needed something. I flirted and she was warming up with me. This was in October. After that she started poking me on facebook, and I messaged her with: "This pokewar you will never win!". This was the opener of a chat, which ended with her giving me her number, because her facebook app didn't work properly.
Since Decembre she started tho occasionally text me in the middle of the night, while she was out with other guys. Just random shit. From December we teased and negged each other, ending by her saying, that we both could start being nice to each other (oh my calibration literally isn't present). So we did and it was really nice to chat and talk to her. Once we were both out with our friends, drinking, when she texted me: I think I am gonna go fuck now (friendzone sign, I wasn't sure, but honestly didn't care). So I found out, that she's got a fuckbuddy.
Now jumping to last Friday: My friends got my phone while I was partying with another girl (I've left it for them for taking photos). They sent messages to the 9, nothing bad, but really needy ones. I apologized the next day, she just took it with humour. On Monday I was out with her and other colleagues, celebrating another colleagues birthday. I missed my drinking limit and that's where I think the problems started. This is also a part, where I am not very sure if it was completely bad: I started to take the 9's cigarettes and lighter and let them disappear. Which brought me several scratches and punches. She never was really upset, most of the time laughed. IOI? We bounced (me, her and another colleague(her best friend) ) and my drunk self started to tease her by touches and negging her sharp nails etc. After that she switched places and wasn't sitting near me. Some time later she left because the bars were closing. I had to take another train. I texted her an apologize and spammed her with some senseless messages.
On the next day I sent her a screenshot of the number of whatsapp messages (33 in 6 chats) and our conversation was as followed:
Me: And not one of you? Did I behave thaaaaat badly? Do I have to be nicer?
Me: That's not really an answer xD
Her: What do you have in IKT? >> we did have an exam and have gotten the results on that day
Me: C :/ But if I overdid it, then you can tell me now
Her: Yes, you did. You even upset [a collague, her best friend]
Me: Ok sorry... What do you have?
Me: Fuck you nerd
Me: Now you've earned everything I did to you yesterday :P
Her: Not really
Me: My neck and arms are destroyed by your scratches. The next time I am carrying you around as apology. OK? DD
Her: It was your own fault, I'd say
Me: Didn't say any different. But you are crazy for sure :P
Me: I have to text [a collague]. We emptied the vodka bottle xD
after ten minutes without response
Me: Ugh, [another collague]'s got a B. How bad did I do :O
after eight minutes without response
Me: You destroyed my right ear, you know :P
Then I started to text her on facebook (CHODE?!):
Me: Are you really ignoring me now? Is this my punishment?
after two hours without response
Me: Seriously? :O
Two hours later she texted me an emticon of a rabbit eating a tacco.
Me: Oh, NOW you are talking to me again? >:/
Her: Maybe haha. What's with [a teacher, who should have sent the results by this time]?
Me: I don't tell you. I am ignoring you now :P
Me: In the evening I will send you pics of your artworks on mi
Man, I can't ignore you, sorry. [the teacher] said today or tomorrow.
Her: He is so stuuuuupiiiiiid
Me: Cute, do you start to cry now :P
(after that the conversation was as before the incident) That was all on Tuesday.
On Wednesday she ignored my message in the morning referring to the exam results she is looking forward to.
after two hours of no response I texted following (she was at the university, but she was online several times):
Me: Is it possible, that you are (still) angry with me because of Monday/Tuesday? Please tell me, this Ignore- and-one-word-answers are really getting on my nerves and I want to be good with you again.
two hours later:
Her: hahaha [our English teacher] is the best
Me: So you are just ignoring my serious concern about you being angry? Did she let you go earlier?
Her: (she did let them go earlier blabla)
Me: (y) No SAY if you are angry. That occupies my thoughts xD
four minutes without response:
Me: Or you are just answering my next question: (something about her day at university)
Her: (answers the question)
after that she was ignoring messages, she would have responded before Monday/Tuesday
She did answer one of them an hour later with: Thaaaaaankyyyyyy
Which satisfied me and I thought everything was ok. Which also did the photo I received on whatsapp at midnight. She sent a picture of a car with a flat tyre (bursted).
Me in the morning: Your car?
she was online didn't respond
ten minutes later
Me: Did you get injured? >> was a serious concern
fifteen minutes later, she's been online right after the last message
Me: Sending me such a picture and then not responding isn't nice >:/ :P
after fifteen minutes, she's been again online right after the message
Me: Do I have to get on your nerves every fucking fifteen minutes till you say what's wrong? You must want to say something with the picture to me. It's simply not fun anymore!
after half an hour without response but being online
Me: Since you are ignoring me here: Where is the cute, nice and funny [her name], which negged and teased me when I got on her nerves or I fooled myself? Is something wrong with your family again? Or is something different? You know you can tell me
After that a female friend of mine did stop me and told me, that it wouldn't be that big of a problem but I should let her be now and wait for a message.
Again, sorry for that long post, but I want you to see where my problems are. Feel free to give any advice, even it is "only" a link to a thread or article. Even shout at me, but I have to get the problems right and have to get neutral with her again.
Thank you very much!