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Thread: Should I text this girl back?

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    Default Should I text this girl back?

    My school hosted an exchange program with Germany and on their penultimate day here I "ran game" on one of the girls. A couple weeks after they left she Facebook friended me, (I never introduced myself), and we messaged afterwards. After about a month I asked for her phone number, she said to just add her on kik.

    Part 1: Our FB Conversations
    Feel free to give me pointers
    Conversations started December 11, 2013
    Me:
    12/11, 5:21pm
    Hey loser
    How was the flight
    12/11, 11:58pm
    Her:
    Oh it was good. But i still have a jetlag
    Me:
    12/12, 12:01am
    Still? Ha.
    Did you have school?
    Her:
    12/12, 12:05am
    Yes. Because i allways sleeped at day and was awake at night
    Since monday i go to school
    Me:
    12/12, 12:15am
    Night owl huh?
    Tell me some of the things you do at night.
    Her:
    12/12, 12:21am
    Her:
    I really tried to sleep, haha. And then i realized i won't and listened to music and was in the internet. I fell asleep in the school then yesterday...
    December 13, 2013

    Me:
    12/13, 5:32pm
    Haha Which class?
    Her:
    12/13, 5:54pm
    math, haha. math is unimportant
    Me:
    12/13, 7:28pm
    the MOST useless classes are the electives
    Like Architecture
    Me:
    12/14, 12:39am
    Me:
    Do you have any electives?
    Her:
    12/14, 5:34am
    No, i don't have architecture or something like that
    Me:
    12/15, 3:11pm
    All right, what is the most boring class you have?
    Her:
    12/15, 3:13pm
    mhh, i think school in general is boring. And i hate math, i really do. But the most boring...maybe history or something
    Me:
    12/20, 8:52pm
    English is WAYYY more boring than history.
    What's on your christmas list?
    Her:
    12/21, 8:16am
    Her:
    haha, you allways answer so early
    And no, i love english
    what chrismas list?
    Me:
    12/21, 1:42pm
    Ha no
    It's only early on your time
    Don't you have Christmas over there?
    Her:
    12/22, 5:04am
    no i meant you write something, then i write something and then you wait a long time until you answer haha. It was ironic. but early is the wrong word i think
    yes, of course we have chrismas
    Me:
    12/22, 3:46pm
    Yes, early is the wrong word
    ha
    Me:
    12/23, 3:16pm
    Tell me your phone number.
    Her:
    12/23, 5:00pm
    Her:
    haha ok, my english is not very good sometimes
    sorry, i wasnt online
    why my phone number?
    Me:
    12/23, 5:55pm
    So I can sell it
    Me:
    12/23, 5:55pm

    Her:
    12/25, 5:01pm
    hahaha yes of course
    Me:
    12/26, 12:46am
    I'm going off Facebook in a while
    Her:
    12/30, 10:16am
    ohh sorry
    im not often online too, haha
    but i have no whatsapp anymore soon, so i think theres no sence in giving you my number
    do you have 'kik'? I don't know if anyone in america knows it haha
    Me:
    1/6, 10:52am
    I have a kik.
    Tell me your username.
    Her:
    1/6, 11:37am
    you never answer me, haha
    my username is _____
    [/B]Me:
    1/6, 3:55pm
    Tell me what question I didn't answer.
    Me:
    1/6, 3:55pm
    [/B]
    Her:
    1/6, 3:55pm
    Her:
    Oh, you answered. But allways a few days later after reading it. I was just wondering xD
    Me:
    1/7, 3:40pm
    My username is (I donít trust you guys enough yet).
    Her:
    1/7, 3:48pm
    Her:
    just text me. then i have you in my contact list

    Part 2: Our kik Conversations

    NOTE: These MUST be viewed in respective order in order to make sense.

    https://scontent-b-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/...d6&oe=52E92300

    https://scontent-b-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/...fd&oe=52E91C2E

    https://scontent-b-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/...29&oe=52E96F56

    https://scontent-b-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/...f2&oe=52E8F2A4

    https://scontent-b-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/...eb&oe=52E980D2
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    My question to you is what are your goals with this girl? Are you trying to hook up with her? Be her friend? If you are looking to hook up with her then you got major obstacles with her living abroad in Germany. So you need to consider if the juice is worth the squeeze.

    I can't really judge on her level of attraction. You said you ran 'game' on her in person, but if your in-person game is as bland as this text game, then you got lucky with a girl who is somewhat interested based on 1) other factors (other than your game) or 2) is just being friendly to know someone in a different country for the amount of investment in the IM exchange.

    The text exchange was just a spew of aimless shallow interview banter that really didn't escalate into anything. She might as well fill out a questionnaire. No flirting/teasing to generate attraction. I don't see anything here really that would spark her emotions. And the questions were too shallow for comfort. The bottom line is...This is how I would talk with a guy, not a girl that I am interested in.

    Texting her back is up to you. You weren't shut out or anything. You just went from one form of IM to another...

    But if you want anything more than just being her buddy from abroad, you gotta step it up like a PUA T-Mal's style.

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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    You said you ran 'game' on her in person, but if your in-person game is as bland as this text game...

    The text exchange was just a spew of aimless shallow interview banter that really didn't escalate into anything. She might as well fill out a questionnaire. No flirting/teasing to generate attraction. I don't see anything here really that would spark her emotions. And the questions were too shallow for comfort. The bottom line is...This is how I would talk with a guy, not a girl that I am interested in.
    Yeesh, I didn't realise it was that bad! What should I do to get better?
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    The bottom line is...This is how I would talk with a guy, not a girl that I am interested in.
    But I thought you were supposed to talk to women how you talk to guys? Or does that just another way of saying Don't put women on a pedestal?
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    More like, don't be intimidated just because she's a good looking female.

    You want to express interest & build curiosity with her, so you need to flirt. But be confident & razz her just like you would one of your guy friends.




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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    What T-Mal just said to your first question.

    Quote Originally Posted by sugartongue View Post
    Yeesh, I didn't realise it was that bad! What should I do to get better?
    Well, it was not that bad bad. I've seen way worst and at least she was invested in the conversation.

    In terms of what you should do to get better...There are numerous books/guides out there on texting you should get your hands on. That is how I got more knowledgeable and with application of that knowledge you get better.

    T-Mal has some guides on the forums he made on how to come across as being a fun person and I suggest you check them out. Other good books out there I recommend is Magnetic Messaging by Bobby Rio and Rob Judge. And b4utxther by Race De Priest which can be found if you do a google search.

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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    You want to express interest & build curiosity with her, so you need to flirt. But be confident & razz her just like you would one of your guy friends.
    Any suggestions on what I should text back then? I was gonna say "Tell me some of your favorite movies" and go from there. or should I not text her and wait until I go to Germany next month?
    All women are the same, but they just want different versions of the same thing.

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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    Asking about movies or other interests is "building rapport".
    You don't want to do much of that until you've built attraction first. Otherwise you're more likely to end up in the friend zone.

    To be more flirty & fun, keep the text subjects to playful content.

    One of the girls I'm currently working on (and focusing most of my attention) loves coca pebbles cereal. (So do I!)
    So I've texted her & said "What's up Pebbles? It's freezin over here! I need my cuddle bunny."

    Another time I took a picture of my box of cereal & texted it to her, & said "Thinking of you... "

    This morning I sent "Heya, my little penguin princess! I'm craving your kisses... we need to get our lips together again!"

    Little stuff like that will get her emotionally charged & will build attraction. I guarantee no other guys have sent texts to her like I do. So I always get positive response.


    I don't razz & tease her as much now.
    There's no need to use a whole lot of "push"... Only occasionally.
    But when I do, I'll tease her about being a dork, or a silly blonde, or goofball... etc.

    Once you get the attraction built & you know she's into you, THEN start the rapport topics. But do that in a more playful way too.

    "So, are you a 'chick-flick' kind of girl? or do you prefer action movies?"

    "Question: Pizza or tacos? ...And, cookies, cake or pie?"

    "Hey spunky pants, the beach or pool-side?"

    Things like that will let you find our her interests & preferences, but without boring her with the same questions asked in the same way every other guy would ask.



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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    Be careful about "what" questions, because they are less likely to get an invested response out of her. That is one thing I am noticing that you are doing a lot of. Aim for "why" questions, because they require detail in order to be answered. Instead of asking "What are your favorite movies" ask something like "What makes you love this movie so much" or "Why are you such a chik-flik girl". Notice that in the first "why" question, I actually used "what". It's not the word that counts, it's the subject that truly matters.

    Other than that, listen to T-Mal. He knows what he's talking about.
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    Default Re: Should I text this girl back?

    Good point man!
    "Why" questions are great in the rapport stage, because it can reveal more personal info about her.

    Just be willing to offer things about yourself too. A girl doesn't like being put on the spot & made to feel vulnerable like that, all be herself.

    I'll usually start first, & say it like "I don't know how it is for you, but for me.... blah blah blah" (whatever the story / experience is.)

    When you speak from the "I" perspective like that, it will put a girl more at ease & build a much deeper rapport.



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