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    Default Being positive

    I know that it is a lot easier to attract a girl if we are positive. However, I don't want to be positive, I just want to be rational. I feel sometimes being positive just means wishful thinking. I don't want to cheat myself. Being negative can make me cautious therefore help me. I will try to fend off or minimize the negative possibilities. Of course it is not good if we are overly negative.

    I also fear that being positive will alienate people, because they think that they are in a different world from you. Because you don’t share the same feelings as them.

    What do you think of it?

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    Default Re: Being positive

    I think you're over-thinking this.
    Just be FUN.

    That's the real secret.


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    Default Re: Being positive

    Jack, a lot of your threads all circulate around how you see yourself and how you convey that to others and in between all this you're over thinking in regards to those others' perception of you.

    If you look at it in terms of stages then right now you're in the early stage which is defining who you are. Once you figure out your values and belief system and live by them then your body, mind and soul will be in congruence.

    Don't worry about all these smiling and impressing and whatever because it's simply just a show that your mind concocted, body acted out but your soul isn't actually feeling it. People WILL notice that slight incongruence you show and even if it's the slightest bit.

    I'm in the same boat as you but granted I've been working on this stage for a while now. Your belief and value system are not your personality but they form a paradigm where within your personality (and ego) function under.

    First, go out there and start searching on value and belief system. Learn and study those definitions and then look inside and identify yours. This will help you create a platform (paradigm) where you can build and define your identity.

    It all comes down to learning to accept yourself and then physically & mentally conveying that to others through the flawless body language and conversations. Let's ride this boat together buddy!


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