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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Hahaha what an irritating chick. She's really taking the "playing hard to get" overboard. I feel like going cold may not have a big a impact on this one because you're not being needy to begin with. It's so obvious that she's playing games that it's actually kind of funny! You can tell she knows that she's hot, and guys reaffirm that to her all the time. Be the guy who doesn't. When she said, "Hope this distracts you and you FALL!" you should have given her some shit back. "I was distracted for all of 3 seconds. Try again :P" Really making her work for your validation. Other than that I don't really see much else you can do besides just "gaming on." Keep her on the back burner and just keep chipping away at her occasionally. All the mean while disqualifying her when you can, and making her seek your validation. Don't be afraid to make really risky statements that could potentially blow you out, or send you straight to the top because those are the kind of statements that work best on this type. There will come a point in time when she's super horny, and and she stops with all the games. If you play your cards right, she'll be coming after YOU for some satisfaction

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    I mean I've tried calling a couple times since I last posted here... Not today.

    I'm thinking of calling her out. Full on ultimatum. fark this sh1t.

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Yeah that's exactly it, your obversation is bang on. She's on the back burner and I'm chipping away.. Making sure not to give her the confidence boosts etc that shes after.

    I won't actually give her an ultimatum, but I'm tempted to. I'll keep doing what I'm doing. And you're right, I wouldn't wanna miss out on that with her.. It's worth it to keep this going for a while.

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Haha so she sent another snapchat and I just had had enough. Texted her an hour later "I'm off work all this week. Let's get a drink", to which she replied (a couple hours later) "Yea sure". Me: "I'm free any night but Fri or Sat". Her: "Monday night is good".

    Hahaaaa.. We'll see if she follows through.

    I'm gonna bring some hard game. She's gonna find out she farked with the wrong dude. Muahaha.

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    She may follow through. Be positive. Negative thoughts literally do nothing and only hinder you in any situation.


    I'm currently dealing with a girl kinda like this. I can totally relate. It takes everything in my power not to lose my damn mind with the whole "playing hard to get" game. Not because I don't have other options, but just because it's so mentally exhausting on a girl you actually have feelings for. LOL

    This is my advice.
    I want you to take a look at this from a bigger perspective and different view.
    She's playing hard to get, but the real secret is figuring out why.

    Some girls play hard to get because of trust issues, they want to feel that a guy actually cares and likes them, before they get emotionally attached. Others, because they love feeling wanted, especially by a high value guy, or that they're wanted. She could be insecure, she could just straight up be testing how you handle her rejecting you or playing hard to get, to see what kind of man you are. There is like 50 different reasons why.

    But it all comes down to... SHE'S TESTING YOU. PERIOD.

    This is tricky, because you need to figure out why.
    If it's trust issues, you need to be persistent, in a playful fun way, and actually act like you care about her. Drop the PUA mentality, and build deep rapport with the girl.

    My take? She loves the attention from you, or feeling like you want her. ESPECIALLY since she's sending you provocative snapchats.
    That means, she's confident as fuck, and knows she's sexy, she probably hears it from guys all the time, like previous posters said.

    Don't give her an ultimatum. Why, what does that do in your situation honestly? Because you're frustrated? Don't be. Its a test and you instantly fail if you get angry or frustrated. In your case, since you don't have much deep rapport, she's just going to let you go. YOU COULD pull the ultimatum if she actually cared about you and had a lot invested emotionally, but she doesn't.


    You need to keep chipping away at it, slowly but surely. Persistence, mixed with fun, cocky vibes, especially over text since she's so confident.
    Run disqualifiers, and like she would be LUCKY TO FUCK YOU in your case.
    Mix that in, with false time restraints and a "busy" schedule, and you should score her.

    So text her things like, (This is more adapted for a girl like she is. Sexually confident, sexy, conceited, and bitchy.)

    You could be challenging and cocky and call her out on her shit kinda.. It may work. It'll definitely up your value in her eyes, even though she'll think its mean. Call her out on her shit in a non needy way..
    "Why are you blowing up my snapchats with pictures like that when you could be with me getting a mind blowing orgasm right now."

    You could run disqualifiers... (I love Lilsting's way more, but heres mine)
    "You playing hard to get is so adorable....Awe, it's like we're in first grade again! I love it. It's just too bad you're a blonde or I'd totally be head over heels for you. Listen, we're hanging out (whenever you're free). I'll be over around (whenever) wear something interesting. See ya then, Later skater.

    Or you could try being vulnerable.
    Being vulnerable is extremely attractive in itself, but its tricky. It all comes down to you being confident, and maintaining your frame without being needy or a fag.

    "Hey, I honestly just want to hangout this week and just get to know the real you. The real (her name) I'm really busy this week, but i'm free (x time, x day) for like an hour, let's get coffee and just talk." Than like Batman said, extend the interaction and tell her the plans fell through.

    So there's 3 different strategies. Try them all out, see which one she bites on most. Obviously she likes you, so just assume she really wants you and she will. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
    But also, remember, sometimes shit takes time, just be patient.

    Let me know how it goes.

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Wow Kyl3, didn't expect that, great post!

    I suppose the difference here is that I don't have feelings for this girl, other than the ones below my belt (I'm not a dbag, but I've only seen this girl twice and since then all she's done is piss me off, lol). The ultimatum comment really just stemmed from that. Perhaps what I really meant was that I was considering just all out saying "lets hang out, when are free", which is essentially what I did, and it seems to have worked. We'll see.

    Some really great advice, spot on really. I'll be sure to take it into account. I'm really impressed with some of your posts lately Kyl3, you seem to really have it together! I'll absolutely let you know how this one goes

    Thanks for the great advice my man.

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Excellent post Kyle! You are spot on with all your shit!

    @TwentyNine - I know you will my man! Once you get her out again, it's game over. Keep us posted

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Quote Originally Posted by twentynine View Post
    Still workin on this one.. I went ice skating today, sent her a snapchat (she sent about 6 snapchats in a row to me throughout the day yesterday, and a bit of texting ensued last night, some flirting etc..). She responded to my snap with one of her own; her laying on her bed in lingerie with the caption "Hope this distracts you and you FALL!". I texted her about 10 mins later with "Lol clever AND sexy. Now if only you weren't so flakey.."

    No response. Haha. This chick is such a little asshole.

    PS: I've tried calling a couple times, she doesn't answer and then texts saying she wasn't near her phone. Clearly on purpose. I've stated before that younger girls these days are scared of talking on the phone, and this one is a good example.
    I agree with the "younger girls are scared of talking on the phone". They never do it, so they aren't used to it, and I believe they get anxious when they get a phone call from a guy. Especially from older guys like you and I. They've only dated guys their age that ONLY text.

    When I first started dating allot of women 7-8 years ago, if you texted her first you LOST. You were immediately labeled a p*ssy. Game over. Now it's different.

    I was dating this really attractive 20 year old at the end of this summer that ABSOLUTELY loved it that I only called her. She told me so all the time, and how I was SO different because I called. However; I had already built massive amounts of attraction and rapport with her.

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    Maybe try giving her fake "friendzone" signs,I had a similar situation,although I could see the girl every day,but she would never go out with me - all the IOI's were there(although I didn't recognize them at that point),yet she wouldn't because I was AFC and was focusing on her(which you don't do),but one thing that worked for me is that I started calling her a "bro",someone said along the lines of "everybody loves *name* ha ?",and she was loving it,until I said "Definitely,she' s like a bro,and I hugged her with one hand",damn she didn't like that,told me not to go too far with that "bro" thing(didn't resist the hug though).

    After that SHE asked me to go with her to a place,because she didn't know where it was.I agreed,but at the last moment couldn't make it because I really had something to take care of.

    I didn't f-close or even make her my GF,because of personal reasons,but we did go out and if I wasn't afc I had a great opportunity to f-close her,but missed the chance.At that time I didn't have a driving license,so we took a bus together one day - I told her to come with me we'll have a dinner and then go to my place,she told me no,yet she "accidently" missed TWO(!) bus stops,but I chickened out in the end,was too afc.......so basically she took a bus near my house and went home,such afc memories

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    Default Re: 29 - She wants me, but...

    I get what you're going for Raid, but that sounds like a woman who you were in constant contact with. Not only just the two of you alone, but around friends and such. Friendzoning can work IF you have opportunities of seeing the woman outside of setting up "dates." In 29's case he's trying to get the woman out, and attempting to friendzone her through text in this scenario would most likely result in nothing. The underlying theme of "freindzoning" a woman is disqualification. All the friend zone is, is a glorified disqualifier. In 29's case it would be better to just stick to regular disqualifier's.

    Only reason why I made this post Ra1d was to just prevent you from friendzoning women when the situation doesn't call for it. I'm sure you don't do that anyway, but just in case, there ya go.


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