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Thread: Women manupulating in the workplace

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    Default Women manupulating in the workplace

    I work at a bar with 99% female coworkers. One of the girls told me a glass broke and the manager told me I should clean it.

    I went to ask him about it and he didn't know much about it, except that she mentioned it too. I figured she was trying to manipulate me to help, but since guests are sitting at a table with shit spilled everyone I felt the urge to get rid of it asap.

    Upon finishing up, I noticed she has disappeared and was drinking samples of a new beer at the bar.

    "I don't mind cleaning up your trash, but if you're going to sit at the bar and drink than you have time to do it yourself"

    She started to come back at me, so I said quickly added "Alright, I'm done over there. You can do the rest then" and walked away.

    I received at text from her later about how she has lost all respect for me because she's one of the hardest working girls there and she sees my true colours now. I really feel like it should've been me sending her that text lol, but It never crossed my mind.

    I gave her no validation by responding. Was I out of line, or did I handle this with a proper alpha mind set? How should I proceed in these kinds of situations in the future, to prevent being used for another girl's laziness.
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    Default Re: Women manupulating in the workplace

    I don't know how it affects your game, but I'll tell you I'd do the same exact thing. I refuse to let female manipulation cause me work while they get to sit on their ass just because they get flirty with the manager.

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    Default Re: Women manupulating in the workplace

    Funny you mention this. I use to work at the mailroom for a big TV studio. We had three girls. One was a control freak (who wanted to become a sheriff) and the other one was lazy (who justified her laziness that this is not her career and we should stop getting in her face about it).

    I was no way going to let the control freak order me around nor let myself be manipulated from the lazy one and pick up her slack. She even tried to manipulate me into buying her breakfast.

    Naturally, if you show that you are not a pushover, they are going to bitch in some form no matter what (trying to get under your skin) because that is all they can do. Good that she sees your true colors. Your true colors is you are not a sucker.

    Me being a wise-ass would've texted her back and say:

    "I take that as a compliment" or
    "Yea, I agree chivalry is dead. Now excuse me, I got a bootie-call to attend to."

    And not respond to any further messages.

    I think you handled that situation the best way possible.

    I don't know if that particular girl has a penchant of being lazy or if it is a one time incident. In my situation, the girls in the mailroom had a reputation. If it was the first time this ever happened between you and this girl, I can assure you she won't try that again.

    What I learned is that in any workplace in the service sector, there are going to be slackers and hard-workers. Whether it is a guy or girl slacking, you are never in the wrong to call them out on it.

    It is not even a matter of being "alpha," it's a matter of professional courtesy to your fellow co-workers.

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    Default Re: Women manupulating in the workplace

    Hang tough brother, you did the right thing. That text was just about the only thing she could do, and she was probably seeking some sort of apology. Don't do it.

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    Default Re: Women manupulating in the workplace

    This isn't even about Pick up, which is exactly why I can advise you on this crap.

    There's too many chicks out there who work with that 'head b.i.t.c.h in charge' attitude. It's being fed to them in pop culture. You did the right thing - if she can walk all over you, why wouldn't she? It's just an ego trip for her.

    Put her in her place, but do it in a diplomatic, non threatening way. Choose you words and be FIRM. Give her the cold stare if you have to.

    And of course - listen to tom leykis


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