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    Default Let me think about it!

    Hi guys I need your advice on this one. I go to a gym which has group fitness classes (e.g. bootcamp) every morning at 7am. There is a girl who works out in the same gym twice a week at 6am! In that gym there is hardly time to talk to other people because you are always running around doing something so I could not talk to her at all. I just managed to talk to her a bit that she exceptionally came to the gym at 7am. Other than that what I did was just giving her a "I am interested" look and she did the same for a while until she lost his hope and gave up!!
    This morning I felt cranky at myself that I was such a chicken that I could not manage this situation better. So I got up and went to the gym at 6am, and after the gym I opened that girl and talked to/walked with her for like ten minutes. At the end of the gym I said "look I hardly meet you because we go to the gym at different times, maybe give me your number and so we can chat later". And she smiled and said "mmmm.. let me think about it. see you at the gym on Thursday".

    My question is that do you think there is some hope or she just politely said no? What should be my next move to nail this and get closer to picking up this hot chick?

    And in general what can I do to handle such situations better?

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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    She is most likely saying no politely girls are that way generally - its not all lost though find out what she is doing after the gym and grab a smoothie together right there (instadate)

    For next time try to find what she is doing after the gym so you have more time - if your in the time crunch then number closing would probably be the best way to go. try to have an activity that you guys discuss doing first.
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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    Build attraction before going for a number or a date...

    THAT will make a world of difference in your success!



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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    You gotta be more specific on what was discussed between you and her as you walked with her.

    Chances are no attraction was generated and it was just a standard Q&A get to know you conversation. Did you add emotional value to the conversation through playful flirts and teases?

    By reading your line:

    "look I hardly meet you because we go to the gym at different times, maybe give me your number and so we can chat later."

    That won't fly. You won't win over a girl with that kind of logic. And what's this "maybe give me your number" Never say that. That is not communicating any confidence or demonstrating value of a guy who knows what he wants. So you got a "maybe" answer.

    Having said that, I doubt you sub-communicated to her any emotional value in the conversation. If you played it right, then all you needed to say to n-close was "Listen, I gotta take off. It was cool talking to you. I love your energy! Give me your number so we can pick this up again" and you will get the answer you want.

    I just picked up Mehow's 3 second attraction and that is a pretty damn good 400 page book that explains an effective method on generating emotional value to attract a girl. I recommend you start reading up various literature and do your diligence on getting better at this artform.

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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    Build attraction before going for a number or a date...

    THAT will make a world of difference in your success!

    Can you please give me some tips as to how can I make attraction in a short time at the gym?

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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    I always come up with little nicknames depending on the situation.
    In her case, you could use "Wonder Woman" or "Bionic Woman" or "She Hulk"... etc.

    Something to spark an emotional trigger, as well as being memorable.

    When you're different from every other guy, you're going to build curiosity.... curiosity IS attraction.
    And fun is the ultimate attraction switch.

    When you can confidently razz & tease a girl, she's going to have fun with the interaction. If you're timid & unsure, it's gonna backfire.

    But quick little playful comments & nicknames work wonders for rapid attraction.

    It's not 100% successful... but it's been the most effective technique for me.




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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    Thanks guys. I think as you said I have to work on my attraction creation skills. In regards to this chick, do you think I should try my chance with her again or should I let her go?

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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    I'd go for it.
    You didn't get blown out....

    She was basically giving you a hint to try again... but be more confident & give her a reason to swap digits.
    And that just means, show her that you're fun to be around.

    Girls just wanna have fun... There's even a song!


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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    Awesome!

    So do you think I should go to the gym at 6am on Thursday again? I ask this because she said "see you on Thursday" and I felt she wanted to see if I would chase her?

    Or do you think I should play it cool and go to the gym sometime next week at 6am?

    And how can I bring this topic up with her again?

    Reason that I jumped for a number close was that I am one of the fittest at the gym so I am used as a model to show other people how to do the exercises, which is a kind of DHV on itself and I have seen many girls coming up and talking to me for that! I was even close to close a blondie this way but heck she saw me with another girl a while ago! Plus she kept looking at me so as I said I thought she was already attracted to me which sounds I was not right.

    Is there a guide on the Internet for picking up at the gym?

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    Default Re: Let me think about it!

    I've seen a few posts for "gym game" before... You may be able to find them with the search tool.

    Personally, I would actually go on Thursday if I knew she's gonna be there.
    (She more or less gave you an open invitation to game her.)
    THAT'S how you need to look at it.

    She knows you're interested, since you asked for the number. Now you have the chance to man up & go get it.


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